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in the invitation.

I refuse to do this. It is not proper.

My question to you is how can I convince FH of this.
He does not understand. His question is how will be people know where we are registered?

I said it is usually word of mouth or in the bridal shower invite. His point on that is not everyone will attend that, so how will the remaining guests know?

We chose not to have an e-party, just an intimate gathering with family.

I know when it is time to send out the invites this is going to come up.

What do I tell him other than what I have already.

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Mine was put in the bridal shower invitation.

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I agree 100% with you. It's improper to put registery info on/with the invitation. It's all supposed to be via word-of-mouth. I don't think it's technically proper to put it on the shower invite either - but I think a lot of people do.

Good Luck convincing him!!

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Yes bridal shower invite or word of mouth

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As a former bride, I can say that anyone who wants to know where you are registered will ask either a member or your family or another guest that they think might already know. Tell him that not only is it improper, but that many people consider it rude to solicit for particular gifts in an invitation. Silly men!

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boys!!

I would definitely mention to him again that it could come off as being rude if you include the invite. Also, you might want to remind him that none of the invitations that you have received have included this info. If he's still not convinced, see if you can enlist a married guy friend that he trusts to your cause!

Good luck

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I don't think its rude to put the stores you registered at in the invitation.Its not like you put the list in there. I think its very helpful and thats how I found out about where people were registered for their weddings.

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Farah, unfortunately we HAVE received invites with the registry info in it. I know, I know.

November if you read any bridal mag or ettiquette book it will tell you that it is improper to include the registry info in the invite.

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It will be in the shower invites, not the wedding

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If someone wants to know where you are registered, they will ask you or someone close to you. Also, this is LI - most people bring envelopes.

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I would never put it in the invitation.
Mine won't be anywhere on paper, it will be on our website

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nrvbrd - UGH! Well, there goes that idea!

oh dear...

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Wow! I have never ever been invited to a wedding and rec'd registry info in the wedding invite. It has always been on the shower invitation or via word of mouth. People who were not invited to the shower but to the wedding who wanted to give a gift (other than cash) straight out asked us or one of our friends or familiy members. I would tell FI to read this post!

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I think you best bet is to find the etiquette on this on a website or book and show it to him. That should convince him that it is way tacky to put registry info in the invitation.

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Thanks ladies.

FH, thinks I put way too much stock in etiquette.
I just liketo conduct myself in an appropriate manner.

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every etiquette book and/or magazine will tell you not to include registry information on your wedding invitation. clip them out and give it to him.....hehehhehe.

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I wouldn't put it in the invitation either.
Perhaps try telling him that your Bridal Party usually puts it in the shower invitations, and that's how everyone finds out. Usually the people who want to buy you something off your registry just ask your parents if your registered, or they'll ask you.

Hope this helps a little bit.

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I meant to say that I don't think there's anything wrong with posting the stores you registered at in the 'shower invitation',not the 'wedding invitation.' I don't see anything wrong with posting the store names in the shower invites. Every bridal shower I've been invited to has had that in it.