Post-Wedding family issues

Hi everyone,
I am a frequent poster here, but I changed my name just to post this one. because I know I can always get good advice here from you guys. I know that sometimes family members read what I write here so I wanted to remail anonymous.

Anyway, here is my problem. I was wondering if anyone else felt that their families were acting differently around them since their wedding. I find that my dad is keeping himself very distant from me, and barely has anything to say to me anymore. This is a huge difference since before the wedding, we used to be close. Did anyone else experience something similar, especially from their fathers? I know they have to face losing their daughthers to another man, but this seems very extreme to me. Any comments?

Thanks so much all!

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No but perhaps he feels like he lost his little girl.Maybe you can try and make a day that the two of you can hang out or watch a sportsgame together.Maybe he misses you.

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I'm sorry you're going through this. I've noticed my dad behaving differently, but in an opposite way that you. He just seems so thrilled to see me so happy and he's in love with Al all of a sudden.

When we were dating, he liked Al, but is generally tough on all boyfriends. Now, he talks to him on the phone and tells him he loves him & stuff. Its really cute.

Have you talked to your dad? Perhaps somethings bothering him that you don't know about and its not related to the wedding. How long have you been married? Did you live at home before the wedding - maybe he's adjusting to you not being there. Are you spending less time together?

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I find my mother to be more clingy Like she think she has lost me. I am sorry you are going thru this, speak to your dad and see if he just giving you and your hubby space and he does not want to be overbearing. I wish you all the best.

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I am assuming you lived at home until marriage? Can you just go to the house and tell him that you feel there is something distant between you both?
He might just feel that you don't want to be 'Daddy's Little Girl' anymore but tell him you still love him very much and that will never change.

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omg i am so happy someone posted this! I have noticed big uncomfortable changes between me and my family and especially my husband with my family. I did live at home before we got married but I was always here and him always at my moms (not at separate times lol). But since the wedding it seems as if my husband has this issue with my dad and dad has it with my husband as well. They r always trying to see who can do what for me first. On the other hand, my mom has been making it hard for me to strike a balance between things. I only live 2 blocks away from mom and I try to go home to see her, my sister and brother but sometimes thats just not right to my husband. If i dont go there enough for my mom...she gets attitude. Its really hard sometimes. And my sister who is 22 is my best friend and since the wedding has been so cold and distant from me. She hasnt picked up the phone once just to say hello. I always call her.

I think the change is very hard..once again..especially if you came from home. I am hoping that with time things start to settle into a routine. They just have to realize that life is different now and a big part of that is accepting change. It depresses me that no one is realizing how hard it actually is for me..my entire life has changed and it seems no matter what i do someone is mad at me..but like with all things..hopefully...'this too shall pass.'

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So sorry to hear that. I have been close to my dad.
Maybe he feels like he lost his baby girl, but I dont know why he feels distant. I wish I could see my parents more often. I live further from them, and we always see his parents.

Make a day for the two of you to meet for lunch.

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Actually, I have not lived with him for about 10 years (parents are divorced and I lived on my own for a while). Part of it probably is the whole losing his little girl thing, but I have tried to ask him about it, saying he seemed more distant lately, and he told me nothing was wrong.
Its nice to know I am not the only one though. Not that I wish problems on anyone, but I didn't know where else to go for advice. You ladies have always been so supportive and helpful to me. Thank you.