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I made a major faux pas

karabara Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:28 PM+

karabara MEMBER SINCE: 8/07 TOTAL POSTS : 603 WEDDING DATE: Aug 16, 2008

Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:28 PM

I made a major faux pas

My FH's good friend from college is divorced and remarried now for at least 6 years. Her email address at her former company was with hubby #1's last name. I always thought of her with that last name not really considering whether it was her new married name, her maiden name or what not.

Well.....I sent the wedding invitation addressed to Mr. and Mrs. (ex-hubby's name)!!!!!!! I feel so bad!!!!!! To make matters worse, the new hubby isn't crazy about her friends and rarely hangs out with us. UGG. I feel like a total idiot.

2007 Crescent Bride Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:42 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:42 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

UGGGHHH

Why don't you leave them a message apologizing for the honest mistake and tell them a new invite is in the mail.

futuremrsfab Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:43 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:43 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

It happens- I would call her up and apologize and tell her to tell her husband how sorry you are and that it was accidental- blame it on bride brain- I'm sure that they will understand

karabara Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:47 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:47 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

good idea!!!

littlepixie12 Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:47 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 12:47 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Call to apologize and blame it on stress from the wedding - you werent thinking straight! Tell her you are sending another one in her new name

NickandTara426 Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:21 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:21 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

It was an honest mistake...it happens. I agree with calling her up, it will all work out! Good luck!

roan126 Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:25 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:25 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Yikes. I almost had a similar situation...my dads cousin is remarried, and his new wife kept her last name. I almost addressed the invite to the first wifes first name and the second wife's last name...thankfully I realized it at the last minute.

karabara Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:47 PM+

karabara MEMBER SINCE: 8/07 TOTAL POSTS : 603 WEDDING DATE: Aug 16, 2008

Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:47 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

eek! that would have been messy!

LoriBeth2728 Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:54 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:54 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

I would tell her to try to get the mail first for the next few days and throw away the envie before he sees it... just to try to not have any drama start

lillprincess54 Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:54 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 01:54 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

maybe you can call her and apologize and maybe she can grab the mail b4 her hubby gets home so he doesnt see the envelope

SoonToBeMrsBrady Posted: Jul 08, 2008 02:48 PM+

SoonToBeMrsBrady MEMBER SINCE: 7/07 TOTAL POSTS : 1109 WEDDING DATE: Sep 13, 2008

Posted: Jul 08, 2008 02:48 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Yikes!
I sent an invite off of FMIL's list to Mr. & Mrs. Fick (but I really meant 'd', not an 'f') Roberts. They sent the RSVP back as Mr. & Mrs. Richard Roberts.....

flairforfashion Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:00 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:00 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Awww, that is an honest mistake and anyone could have done that. I would just apologize and move on. I am sure she and he will forgive you.

kslmbuggie Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:03 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:03 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Posted by lillprincess54

maybe you can call her and apologize and maybe she can grab the mail b4 her hubby gets home so he doesnt see the envelope

good idea.

I wouldnt waste time or $$ sending them a new invitation, it was an honest mistake.

Liana Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:03 PM+

Liana MEMBER SINCE: 11/07 TOTAL POSTS : 378 WEDDING DATE: Sep 21, 2008

Posted: Jul 08, 2008 03:03 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Yeah, maybe you should call and apologize, but I think you may need to speak to her hubby too...

BeccaJo Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:07 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:07 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Im sure if you explain, they will understand. I did something similar where I sent to my parents friends Fran and Ed but I addressed it to Fred. I'm so embarrassed and I didn't notice until afterwards

PegaLega Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:19 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:19 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

I would call and tell her your brain wasnt thinking with you it was thinking against you...it didnt even occur to you until it went out

Future Mrs Roo Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:22 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 04:22 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

i would call and apologize,s**t happens. It was an honest mistake.

lanamanitta Posted: Jul 08, 2008 05:41 PM+

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Posted: Jul 08, 2008 05:41 PM

Re: I made a major faux pas

Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride

UGGGHHH

Why don't you leave them a message apologizing for the honest mistake and tell them a new invite is in the mail.

I would definitely do that, and I would send a new one . . . . that will make it funny, and is a nice touch for the new hubby . . . .I would let her know it's because of the email address (which, by the way, why not change??) hahaha.