Help !!! Deceased Mother on Program?

As most of you may know, My Mom passed 3 years ago. I still want to put her on the Program where I put the Wedding Party.
The way I have it now, lists the main BP first, then underneath
Father of the Bride - his name
Mother of the Bride - her name
Father of the Groom - his name
Mother of the Groom - her name

Is it OK to have it like that?
SHe's so much a part of me and who I am, and pushed very hard for Len and I when we would have problems, etc.....
She was great, and wanted us to get married.
What do I do?

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I might have a poem. Or a 'In Memory of' thing. I've been thinking about that as well.

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I think you should dedicate a special section of the program in honor of the memory of your mother. You include a few words about her, a photo and or her favorite poem - pretty much whatever.

Since she is no longer with you, she is not a member of the bridal party so I wouldnt list her as such.

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Hi,
I amso sorry about your mom, your idea for the programs sounds nice. My FH mom passed away this August and she wanted usto get married too, she never knew we got engaged.We want to do somerthing to honor her too at the wedding. it will be exactly 2 days before her 2 year anniversary that she died when we get married. Best of luck to you in whatever you decide. Let me know what you come up with so i can think of somethign nice to do as well.

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Hi Liz,

I think including your Mother is a beautiful idea. It's a wonderful way to include her in your day. I say go for it sweetie!!

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I would do an In Memory area or write
Mother of the Bride- The late Ann Smith

I think the memory area is nicer, JMO.

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I am also doing a memory section with a poem that I haven't written yet, but this will be not just for her, but for Len's uncle and best friend who was suppossed to be our BM.
I don't know, I find it very difficult to think about NOT putting her in the Wedding Party section w/the other parents. It hurts too much, you know, it's just tooo real and final.
I may put the 'late' Ann Smith like Michele suggested. Hmmmm..........

Also, we will have one Memory candle w/the names on it in up front somewhere. But we're not making this one known, it will be just for Len and Me to know it's there.

Oh, and the Pastor is saying a few words to dedicate the ceremony to my Mom too.
i want to do as much as I can to include her w/o making ppl sad.

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I opted to refer to my mother as the 'beloved Mrs. _____'

just another way to go...

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I was thinking of putting something in memory of FH's father who passed away. I was thinking maybe an area that just says 'In Loving Memory of.....'.

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Hi Liz.

I know this is a very delicate subject for you. I think it is great that you are doing so much to honor your mom.

Mother of the Bride- The late MrsXXX

I have never seen the parents listed under the title wedding party but in a separate section for the parents.

As Michele said the in memory of is a good idea.

Re: Help !!! Deceased Mother on Program?

Liz, we did not list Roger's dad or my g-pa in the Bp we listed them on the back. Give her her own section.

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Thanks Rose, where on your program did you put 'Beloved Mrs___'?

Shamma, where did you have the rest of the parents?
I don't want her separated from My Dad's name.
I could put the parents B4 the BP.........
I don't want her in the back, not everyone looks at the back.

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I'd put her somewhere in the program, name, photo and maybe a poem to her

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Hello Liz,
I think to include her in the program is a beautiful idea. I like the suggestion to name her as 'the beloved....'

In addition to that you can include a poem etc., in memory of her. Also, if you have the space maybe include a short story about how she supported you and your fiance, how much she means to you...etc. Have a transition line and then go into the poem. If you need help with any of the wording, you can FM me, and I will be glad to help.

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I am definitely writing a program.
OK here's the deal tho'
FH has some ppl that are recently deceased as well, his uncle and best friend, so I told him I would write the poem for everyone, yet the dedication by the Pastor would only be for my Mom. So I don't want to make the poem all about her and leave his loved ones out....
So I don't know how I could do it..........I think I will put the parents separate from the Wedding Party or like I said b4 on the bottom and use Beloved. I don't know if I want to use Late.
I can't stop thinking about this