baby questions...

ok moms- I have a few ?s which may seem weird but bear w/ me.

-do u think it is ok to take your baby to a nail salon? I dont have anyone to watch Julianne most of the time. I was wondering if u thought it was ok to take her to the salon. Granted, I'm a but leery of it since they use a bit of chemicals there.


- Have u ever left your baby in their carseat to run into a store? I just keep picturing something happening to the car while I was gone 'just a minute'

-same ? but have u ever left them inside the house in a SAFE place...and ran out for a minute? Again, I can't picture doing this. What if a fire breaks out??

Thanks

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I'm not a mom yet, but I am guessing at what I would do in those situations.

Nail Salon-probably would not take the baby. I'm a bit paranoid about chemicals, the women who work there don't wear those masks for fun. I have not even been getting manicures since being pg, although I will need some pampering soon. So, I think I'm on the more conservative side, but other people's opinions on this will be different from mine.

Leaving baby in car seat-definitely not, too may weirdos out there and who knows what can happen out in public while your gone for a minute.

Leaving baby in house for a minute-yes, I probably would if the baby is in a crib sleeping or in a safe place, like playpen. I would probably do it to run out ot the car to get something or throw out the trash (assuming that the driveway and where you throw your trash is very close to the house,) but not for anything that would take longer.

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I never took Billy into the nail salons because of the strong smells, however.. the salons have come along way as far as filtering those smells. The salon I go to now I could definitly take a child becuase you literally smell NOTHING.. so I think it really depends on the place
Leaving your baby alone in a car.. ABSOLUTLEY NOT..Never ever Never left billy alone anywhere..
To many predators just waiting for the right situation to snatch a baby..You would be giving them a perfect opportunity..It's a hassle to bundle them up and drag them someplace for a moment I know, but you dont have a choice.. its for your own baby's safety.
I also never left him in the house alone UNLESS it was to the mailbox outside and he was in his playpen.I was gone for 10 seconds and he was safe in the playpen. I wouldnt of gone any further than that.
I think unfortunatly we live in a world where even if you are watching and being the best parent you can be, bad things can still happen.. but I do think that it is still our responsibility to protect them as best we can.

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Nail salon-- maybe when shes a little older. I think I would after 6 months. Just an opinion. No facts to back up why that age. Especially since in a few months, the places will have doors open for better ventilation..

LEaving baby in car. NO WAY HO-ZAY. Im sure sometimes its tempting to just RUN for a sec. But I would never ever ever ever.

Leaving baby in house. I have gone to get the mail out front. or get something in my car out front. Nothing more than that.

thanks ladies.....

EXACTLY what I was thinking. You helped me settle a disagreement w/ someone. Now I know I am not a PARANOID ITALIAN MOM!

Anna- LOVE your comment....

My mom would drum things into me everytime I left the house- dont talk to strangers, dont walk too close to the curb- they pull kids into cars, dont walk too close to buildings- they pull kids in there too, dont answer anyones questions on the street- they are trying to distract you... cross only at the corner.
It got to a point that I used to recite it to HER everytime I left the house.

Mom was right- 'some day when ur a mom you'll understand!'

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While NOT a Mom yet here is what I think:
-I have been in the nail salon and had women bring infants. If they are sleeping inside the carriage or car seat it's fine (of course the chemicals are something else to consider) BUT when the baby wakes up crying it is really very unpleasnant for other people in the salon. Many women go to the salon to get away from the kids, work, phone etc.. and just relax. Crying babies are never relaxing. I feel the same way about bringing a baby to the movie theatre.

-Funny you should ask about leaving a baby in the car seat and running into the store or whatever. I just had this discussion with a friend 2 days ago. She will leave her 1 year old in his car seat, car OFF, and doors locked and run into the bakery or pizza place. She will only do this is if the car is parked directly in front of the large glass window and she can see the car and the baby. I told her she was nuts! Now the car is off, so that is not the same danger as a running car but still I wouldn't do it. But then again I don't have a difficult 1 year old who is screaming every time I take him in and out of the car so.......

-I would take trash out, or jump in the shower, or get the mail if the baby was sleeping or in their play pen. I don't think that is a big deal. BUT I would never run to the store or take a walk with a baby in the house alone.

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I am not a mom yet but I would not bring a baby into the nail salon.Too many chemicals.
I would not leave my child in the car for a moment.It only takes a moment for some sicko to steal them or for anything to happen.
I would not leave the house for a moment with the baby alone.It only takes a minute for something to happen,for the baby to stick something in their mouth.

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The leaving the kid in the car problem- most people DO NOT want to hurt children. Of course there are sickos, but most 'bad guys' just want the car. So you are more likely to be robbed for your car keys, then your child.

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I would not take a baby to the nail salon. One of my friends tried to convince me to do this last summer and I simply refused. Honestly, going for a mani/pedi is just ONE thing that I get to do for myself, and on the rare chance I have, I want to do it ALONE! Love my son, but can't be with him ALL THE TIME.

I would NEVER leave the baby alone in the car OR the house EVER. I don't even go for the mail or dump the trash without Paul being sound asleep. But, he's at an age where he can get into more trouble - even if he's in the Pack N Play. He has to be watched all the time.

And, I would NEVER leave even a sleeping child in a parked car. You never know what could happen in a split second. And to me, it doesn't matter even if you can SEE the child from where you are...you would still be caught powerless if something accidental happened to the car with the baby in it. Think about it - what would you do...run out of the store and throw yourself in front of the car to stop it from moving or stop it from being hit?

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A note on the car situaion. I recently saw this happen. Someone left a sleeping baby in a parked car in a shopping center. There were three women around the car exclaiming how they couldn't believe someone would do such a thing. They said they had been there for at least 5 minutes. One of them was on the phone calling the police to report the situation. I dont know what the outcome was but I am sure it was not a very happy one.

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NO WAY to a salon-those chemicals are horrid. Definitely not! I mean we're talking nails here, not some unavoidable emergency situation - how important are they? (JMO)

Leave the baby in the car a minute. Nope!!!! You can't even imagine all the things that could happen in that 'just a minute' - but they could. Believe me, it's not like I haven't been in those situations already and been very very very tempted but my responsibility to the baby won out over my temptation. When Luke graduates to the next carseat, I bet the temptation will be even greater but I can picture a few scenarios that are scary enough to stop me.

Leave the baby in the house to go outside. Hmmmnn....where is the baby? In the crib? Yes but just for things like running to the car, getting the mail, answering the door. If the baby is anywhere else, no.

Edited to add: Luke is only 4 months old (4 months today! ) I suppose when he's bigger I'd probably have to rethink the last question if he's able to do certain things he can't now....

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Nail salon....nope. I agree with the ladies who said that women get their nails done to *relax*! And I know that nail polish fumes aren't really bad for you, but the fumes from the acetone remover are.

Leave the baby in the car...NO WAY! Besides the obvious fact that someone could steal your baby, what about those horror stories we all heard over the last few years when the baby DIED because the car got sooo hot inside?! This may not be a problem in the winter months, but still...

Leave the baby alone in the house....now, if the baby was sleeping in the crib or bassinet, I would probably run to get the mail or something equally as quick. It depends on the age of the baby, too. A newborn is not going to try to climb out of her crib!

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Fran - very good point...even if your intentions aren't bad or you think you'll only be a moment, other people are nosey and I can definitely imagine someone calling 911 if they saw a baby alone in a parked vehicle.

Hot cars are not a problem in winter, but the severe cold that we have been experiencing this winter is just as bad for babies as extreme heat. When it's below freezing outside, the car cools off very fast.

Overall, the 'hassle' of taking the child out of the car is far, far less when you think about the possible consequences. If something were to happen in a split second, how could you ever forgive yourself?

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OK, I'm not a Mom yet, I'm a 'Mommy in waiting' and have been getting my nails done for years and I would not bring my child to the nail salon. I think their little lungs are not quite equipped to breathe the stuff we do, I'm not saying I would never do it however I would at least wait until he/she is a year or older.

Leave my kid in the car???? I might as well get a lawyer because I would need one AFTER MY HUSBAND DIVORCES ME! No way..wouldn't do it anyway, not for a second..if I need something that bad I'd call hubby and have him bring it home.

Run out of the house for a second knowing the child is secure and safe? most likely, as long I'm within a certain distance from the house and it was for a second or two.

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I def would not bring DS to the Salon, regardles of the smell which gives me a headache, but because it's my 'me' time. It's ruff having to get the baby out the house to go food shopping or xma shoppring or even to daycare, I would not do that to myself.

Also as far as leaving the baby in the car...one cop sees you do that, I have a feeling you'll be talking to social services. Funny thing is my mo used to do it to me and my brother all the time. Wasnt as big a deal back then. Funny how fast time changes.

I dont go any farther than the end of my driveway, when DS is in the house. Too many kids these days are taken right out of the beds. I make sure the dog is in the same room w/ DS, (albeit not where he can reach the baby though) just in case. (I have a very big dog). Call me paranoid.

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Just for the record: I WOULD NOT leave the baby in my car alone. My friend does, I don't agree with her practice. But it's her child, not mine.

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Michele- I for one definitely didn't take it that you agree with the person who is leaving her child in the car. I think she is nuts too. The bakery or the pizzeria? A cake or a calzone is that important? Wow, that's scary but I think alot of people do it. I can totally see anyone with a screaming 1 year old being TEMPTED but jeez!, in this day and age that's just insane! Not only what can happen at the hands of a person but God forbid something happen to the car. I would never forgive myself if I was in the pizzeria looking out the big glass window and watched my car get plowed into at 60 miles an hour with my child in the car. But I guess if she doesn't have to cook dinner that night, it's worth it. Sorry to sound so pis*ed but what is the matter with people??? edited to add: How many of the things that happen are to people who say 'It's just for a minute', 'nothing will happen', 'I'll be quick', 'I can see the car' etc. ...

Michele- I wasnt ranting AT you Just irritated at people in general who can be so selfish (IMO)

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I would not take my baby into a nail salon ever.
The smells even get to me sometimes

Car seat? NEVER EVER EVER

Inside the house for a minutte? I'd be too scared!

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As far as leaving the baby in the house (asleep) I think at first you would think 'no way' but if the baby is asleep, whats the big deal ? whats the difference between going out to get the mail and going upstairs or downstairs to put in a load of laundry. You cant be handcuffed to the child 24-7, you have to get things done in the house.
For those that are not moms yet, you'll see one day

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Anna, I was thinking the same thing, but I didn't say it because I figured 'I'm not a mom, what do *I* know??'