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queenschic
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Member since 7/08 235 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
The Inn at New Hyde Park
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For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
After all is said and done...did you make money on your wedding? Or cover a certain percentage ??
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Posted 10/10/08 1:33 PM 
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
Member since 11/06 48858 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
I definitely did NOT make back what i spent, BUT at the same time i never expected to get back what i spent on the wedding. Its one thing for ppl to think MAYBE they'll make back what they paid for RH, but if they are trying to make back the money they paid for the wedding as a whole then that is not realistic.
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Posted 10/10/08 1:37 PM
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queenschic
Board Enthusiast
Member since 7/08 235 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
The Inn at New Hyde Park
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Im just hoping to make back what i paid for the reception, im hoping thats realistic *Crossing fingers*
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Posted 10/10/08 2:02 PM
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KSquared
Mrs P. est 7-19-08
Member since 2/07 1189 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/19/2008 7:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
My wedding wasn't a job so we didn't "make money". I apologize, but I hate, hate, hate the commercialization (if that's a word) of marriage and people focusing on making money.
We did receive gifts in excess of what we spent on the RH, but not more than what we spent overall. We spent what we could afford without considering what we would receive in gifts, so we weren't left in debt or stressed about money after.
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Posted 10/10/08 2:07 PM
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VickiR510
256 Invited Y=81 N= 6
Member since 2/08 5351 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/14/2009 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
THE ONLY PLACE FOR US!
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by Espo22
I definitely did NOT make back what i spent, BUT at the same time i never expected to get back what i spent on the wedding. Its one thing for ppl to think MAYBE they'll make back what they paid for RH, but if they are trying to make back the money they paid for the wedding as a whole then that is not realistic.
Yeah def. not goign tomake the entire thing back. We hope we make the rh is all. But whatever will be will be.
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Posted 10/10/08 2:07 PM
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
Member since 11/06 48858 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by queenschic
Im just hoping to make back what i paid for the reception, im hoping thats realistic *Crossing fingers*
its possible but i do know many situations where they didnt even make back what they paid for RH. If you dont have any wedding debt after the wedding then think of it as anything you do make it will be pretty good ya know. Its hard to ever say, some will make it back, others wont. Just dont expect anything bc thats the only time you will be disappointed.
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Posted 10/10/08 2:10 PM
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MJDoc12
WE SALUTE YOU!!!
Member since 10/05 11851 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/25/2007 11:15 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill Caterers.. A++++
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
nope--we only got back 1/3 of what we paid for the wedding---didn't care at all. i knew we'd never even break even...we had the wedding for ourselves and family not to raise moolah
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Posted 10/10/08 2:13 PM
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vika111
Love Love Love
Member since 8/07 1333 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/22/2007 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Passage Palace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
got back enough for the reception
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Posted 10/10/08 2:29 PM
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RadiantBride
Happy Bunny is my new BFF
Member since 5/07 3606 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/28/2008 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Chateau Briand ♥
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
We received about 1/3 of what we spent . Going into it we knew we were not doing it to make money so it worked out for us.
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Posted 10/10/08 2:36 PM
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Kristina2009
Invites Next!
Member since 10/07 2211 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2009 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Inn at New Hyde Park
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
I haven't gotten married yet but our RH alone will likely go over 45K for the size of our wedding so I am by no means expecting our gifts to amount to that. Anything we get will of course be immensely appreciated but I am making cuts in other places and this spurgle is my choice and I would not expect it to fall on anyone but me.
Message edited 10/10/2008 4:17:21 PM.
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Posted 10/10/08 3:04 PM
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JenBill61210
Love my man in blue :)
Member since 4/08 2758 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/12/2010 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
i am not expecting at all to get back what we're paying! but thats okay as long as i have a special, memorable, day with those i love 
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Posted 10/10/08 3:06 PM
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Belongs2DanBuckley
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Member since 9/06 5750 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/18/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
FLOWERFIELD - INFINITE A++++++++++++++++
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by Espo22
I definitely did NOT make back what i spent, BUT at the same time i never expected to get back what i spent on the wedding. Its one thing for ppl to think MAYBE they'll make back what they paid for RH, but if they are trying to make back the money they paid for the wedding as a whole then that is not realistic.
I didn't even make that back...we got stiffed alot but you have to expect it going into this thing!
You can't think this is a money making venture- you're throwing a party...the gift is a gesture. DO NOT put money into this thing thinking that you're gonna get the same out!
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Posted 10/10/08 3:12 PM
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MnM52607
Forever & Always
Member since 3/06 4873 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/26/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
El Caribe
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Not counting the gifts from our parents, no we did not make back the money we paid. We made back a little less than half, I think. I don't even remember anymore how much we made.
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Posted 10/10/08 3:16 PM
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Future Mulligan
always & forever
Member since 7/07 8257 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Dome Room at Jericho Terrace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
im not expecting to even make our RH money back....that would be over 20K and to get over 20K in gifts is insane to me, i cant even imagine getting that much money in gifts  i dont know, maybe i have a cheap family but i dont see us coming close to that number...
we aren't getting married to make money back or to break even on anything....if we wanted to make money we would have had a totally different type of wedding - but we went all out because we want too....
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Posted 10/10/08 3:21 PM
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Opera_Ghost
Can't wait until TWOTY!
Member since 7/08 1414 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/5/2010 5:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Amazing waterfront location <3
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
I know we won't make back everything. We are pretty much putting all the money up. Whatever we get back in $$ or gifts is just fine. We aren't getting anything for the wedding that we can't pay for ourselves. My mom said she'd help us out on certain things but I'm not relying on her or anyone else.
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Posted 10/10/08 3:25 PM
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
Member since 11/06 48858 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by Future Mulligan
im not expecting to even make our RH money back....that would be over 20K and to get over 20K in gifts is insane to me, i cant even imagine getting that much money in gifts i dont know, maybe i have a cheap family but i dont see us coming close to that number...
we aren't getting married to make money back or to break even on anything....if we wanted to make money we would have had a totally different type of wedding - but we went all out because we want too....
$20k getting back is actually reasonable, you probably will get that back
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Posted 10/10/08 3:33 PM
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Future Mulligan
always & forever
Member since 7/07 8257 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Dome Room at Jericho Terrace
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by Espo22
Posted by Future Mulligan
im not expecting to even make our RH money back....that would be over 20K and to get over 20K in gifts is insane to me, i cant even imagine getting that much money in gifts i dont know, maybe i have a cheap family but i dont see us coming close to that number...
we aren't getting married to make money back or to break even on anything....if we wanted to make money we would have had a totally different type of wedding - but we went all out because we want too....
$20k getting back is actually reasonable, you probably will get that back
thats what i hear people say, and i know how much my FSIL made - and it was a lot - more than 20K.....but im not sure my family is THAT generous i don't know, i could be surprised....but im not expecting anything crazy from anybody - i know my FH's family is generous but my side is different, and they havent been to a wedding in ages, im the first out of all the "kids" which is funny b/c im one of the younger ones but i dont care, i just want it to be a good time....oif we get that much i will be a very happy camper - if not i wont be disappointed.....i just cant wait - 55 more days!
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Posted 10/10/08 3:49 PM
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FallBride2010
On a mission
Member since 8/08 1312 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2010 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's at Fox Hill
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
I dont believe we will break even...even with my parents paying for most of the RH. But we didnt go into it thinking we would. Our only concern is paying cash for everything so we dont go into debt...or have to use the gifts we do receive to pay things off. I think these days...it's nearly impossible to break even when you consider all the random expenses.
Funny...mid typing this...my landscaper stopped by and started telling me not to spend money on the wedding! : )
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Posted 10/10/08 3:53 PM
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Riag24
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/08 211 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
God I am hoping we atleast can et the Reception Cost Back - I can't even look at my Credit Card Bills anymore - I need a little help
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Posted 10/10/08 3:54 PM
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MikeandJess
Soy Married.
Member since 10/06 14128 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/14/2008 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
nope. In the end I think we owe about $3000. Not too bad.
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Posted 10/10/08 4:02 PM
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kmcs317
Board Fanatic
Member since 8/07 359 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/15/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Florida
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
We're having a destination wedding so it's very unlikely!! We knew by having it away we could have a smaller wedding...but over 100 people are still coming and it will cost us about the same as a NY wedding....but we don't care one bit. We never went into this thinking about the gifts...
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Posted 10/10/08 4:03 PM
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lucamon
My review is up!
Member since 9/07 1802 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/6/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
3 West Club
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
We got back about 25% of what we spend. The reception was about 50% of the cost. 
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Posted 10/10/08 4:22 PM
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RockysGirl
3 weeks till he's HERE!!!!
Member since 8/08 1644 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/27/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Pine Hollow Inn
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
luckily me & FH are not going into dept with this wedding, but it would still be great to get back at least some of what we spent (I would love to be able to get back what was spent on the RH). The only reason is because we've gotta drive back to Colorado afterwards and needless to say we WILL be broke after the wedding. So any gifts we receive isn't going to 'pay anything back', but it's definitely going to help us get home  I don't know how we will otherwise.
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Posted 10/10/08 4:29 PM
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brideinstride
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Wedding Date:
1/31/2010 12:00 AM
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Posted by KSquared
My wedding wasn't a job so we didn't "make money". I apologize, but I hate, hate, hate the commercialization (if that's a word) of marriage and people focusing on making money.
We did receive gifts in excess of what we spent on the RH, but not more than what we spent overall. We spent what we could afford without considering what we would receive in gifts, so we weren't left in debt or stressed about money after.
I agree with you 100%!!! I have a friend who is cheap cheap cheap cheap! Her cocktail hour was a platter of fruit and cheese..there was a line for the platter and they ran out of crackers!!!!....her dinner was buffet, which they called everyone up at the same time..I didn't even eat because I was waiting on line for a 1/2 hour just for Pasta!! If you wanted something else you had to wait on another line...forget that! Then her husband tells me that $100 in the envelope doesn't even cut it these days! I was like..what the hell did you pay for your wedding?!?!?!? Couldn't have been more than $100 a plate.
Then the proceed to try to help me out by telling me not to pay too much for this or that or I won't make anything OFF of the wedding! ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! That is so terribly TACKY! I am not expecting to MAKE any money off of my guests! RUDE AND TACKY if you ask me.
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Posted 10/10/08 4:31 PM
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lila
Board Fanatic
Member since 10/08 520 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/17/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Cats for Obama!
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Re: For those couples who Paid For their Wedding Themselves?
Our NY guests were very generous. We got small registry gifts from those OOTers who gave us gifts at all.
When all is said and done, we got more than the cost of our hall, less than the cost of the wedding.
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Posted 10/10/08 4:49 PM
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