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I really think I am going to start having panic attacks. I am graduating in may from Graduate School and looking for a new job, we will hopefully move into an apt. by June, and be married in July. I have been a basket case I don't know if it is cold feet, or so many life changes in one span. I don't have my parents around they are both deceased so I think that makes it more difficult, the whole wedding process. I should be so excited and everyday is a fight for me to be happy. I know it has nothing to do with my FI it is me and I don't know what to do. I think I need a weeks vacation I wish I could afford it.

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Just try to remember all the good that will come from all the stress

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All those changes are fast approaching... just take your time with all your plans and know that VERY soon you'll be away and all the stress will be behind you.

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M...

I am here if you need me..

Love ya!

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Mishy, those are some pretty big changescoming your way, and you have every right to feel the way you are.

Try to keep grounded, maybe you and FH can just take an overnight trip, youd be surprised just one day away can make you feel ok and put things in prescpective.

We are here if you need us, feel free to fm.

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Relax and take one day at at time.

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I TOTALLY understand!!! I am in Grad school too and it makes me sick to think about finding a job and starting over. I say ALL THE TIME...this should be the happiest time in my life and I am often unhappy

I know it has nothing to do with FH either but it is something we must deal with.

If you need to talk I'm here Have faith it will all work out in the end

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I can sympathize with you! I am graduating in May from grad school, looking for a job, looking for a house, and getting married in July! I know it seems like a lot but just remember that you will get through everything. Sometimes I feel like ripping my head off because I have so much on my plate, but I try to just relax and take one day at a time! FM if you want to talk!

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As you can see here, you are not alone in feeling like you are falling apart. I am graduating in May also from nursing school, and although I am not getting married until next July, I also feel the way you do. Just keep thinking that we only have a few weeks left. I tell myself that every day, and although it feels like forever, we will all get through it. Good luck with everything, and just think when you are getting your diploma how far youve come. Your wedding will be beautiful, than you will get your vacation when you take your honeymoon!

Valerie

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You are definitely not alone. I graduated from grad school dec 22, my MOH had been diagnosed with brain cancer two weeks earlier, it was Christmas, new year's and I got married on January 4! Don't fret Mishy! When it rains it sure does pour! Just BREATHE and try to relax and enjoy your accomplishments!

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I am graduating grad school in may too, one of the biggest stresses is not knowing where I will be working. Just relax(eaiser said than done, I know)

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Wow, we should have a grad school/major life changes support group! Mishy, I am also dealing with sort-of similar stuff. I'm doing my MBA part-time but getting a lot of flack from work for it (which is ironic considering I work for the university I attend!!). Not to mention I am starting to wonder if I am doing too much by trying to plan the wedding, work full-time, AND take two classes!! So, on top of the wedding planning (I'm getting married the same weekend as you and planning long-distance), my big dilemma is whether to go back full-time or not to finish my degree. It is SO stressful to be thinking about now, especially with the wedding 3-1/2 months away. I don't know what to do and am pretty much feeling swamped and stressed, big time!! Would love to have a support group of other brides in grad school and/or going through similar life changes. Sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on our shoulders, doesn't it?!

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Take some deep breathes and look for the light at the end of the tunnel! You are doing a lot of major things at once but you will get through this!

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Sorry to hear you're feeling like this, but you're definitely not alone! I'm getting married in 75 days, and then will be moving to the Bronx. I've lived on Long Island my whole life and the idea of moving to the Bronx really freaks me out. I don't want to do it, but we have no other options at this time. FH has his house there, and we'll live there temporarily until we can sell it and buy another one back on the Island. The wedding plans, the little details, and my relationship with my best friend coming to an end last week are all starting to take their toll. I think it's best to take one day at a time, like someone mentioned earlier. I'm trying to do that myself, and I know its hard to do. You've come this far, and I'm sure everything will turn out fine. You've got what it takes to handle the upcoming changes, so try to have confidence in yourself. You can do it!! And remember to take at least ONE day a week where you don't do ANYTHING wedding related. It helps a lot.



You'll be OK.

KarenM

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Mish ...

You are doing all 3 of life most stressful events within a 2 month time frame!!! It's certainly to be expected that you'd be a little 'frazzled' ... to say the least. Not that I'm saying you shouldn't be, but give yourself a break. Taking on any one of those events would be enough to level some people.

You definitely need a vacation, but may not feel like you can right now. I certainly understand that! How about a special weekend w/FI at home? Make a picnic supper in the living room ... you know ... relax a little Or maybe you need a girls night to blow off some steam! Even rent movies & have a sleepover! Be creative, but you def. need some special attention now.

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Thanks everyone you girls are so helpful, your kind words alone made me smile!

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Mishy, I have been having panic attacks since last month, due to various issues also and felt the same way

Well I finally told Paul about it, and we cant afford to go anywhere really either. So last Sunday we drove out to Riverhead and went to the aquarium, the drive was nice and we talked and reasssured each other.

Sometimes just a simple break like that can make a difference

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can i go on vacation with you? I am feeling the same way mishy!

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when you start feeling stressed...breathe VERY deep through your nose and hold it in...


you have so many of the highest stressers in a person's life going on...

check out this stress test (its a legit test - used by psychologists...not just an online study)

Life event stress test

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Just pick one thing each day to get done and get it done - but only one thing - trust me you will be surprised at how relaxed you'll feel and still get things accomplished.

For KMCwed - I recently moved to the Bronx from Long Island and absolutely love it - it takes some time to learn your way around but there is so much to see and do. My fiance and I were bored the other day so we went for a drive and ended up at the botanical garden and the zoo for less than 20 bucks. There's also lots of museums, restaurants, shops, malls, etc....You're also a lot closer to Manhattan...