Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I have, but not out of my own doing... I have a friend- I was her MOH she was my BM. the problems started as soon as she wasn't made my MOH- she pretty much started arguing with all my friends but we were able to keep it together throughout the wedding plans.

Fast forward 4 months later she is not talking to me... she has issues and I think that's really the situation- her Dad died 4 years ago and she still hasn't come to terms with it... plus she still lives at home with her DH and i've moved on, etc.. and I think she is jealous.

Anyway- it's sad b/c now I look at all the wedding pictures with her in it and we aren't talking- ****s.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

only one, but all others and I still hang out. There is one in texas that still calls and send cards etc. It takes 2

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I haven't. Though initially following the wedding, I "took a break" from one of my BM's (she was driving me a bit crazy) but now we're as close as ever again. Another I talked to more often during the planning (she was planning too) than I do now, but thats normal for us.

My BP was my 2 sisters, Al's 2 sisters and 2 great friends.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I have one that I've distanced myself from considerably, but she was a little flaky before the wedding and now she's certifiable. She keeps telling me about the "chemistry" she knows exists between my husband and her. I should tell her to go for it in a few months since he'll be available...

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

Not one purpose. I am still great friends with almost everyone in our bridal party. There is one person I am kind of distant from but I think that was a long time in the making and the wedding jealousies or whatever you may call it brought it to the forefront.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I talk to my BMs now just as much as I did before the wedding. We don't talk very often because some of them have kids and everyone is on different schedules and busy.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

thanks ladies, guess its kind of normal, sad but normal

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

besides being busy...we are still very close..

1 was my sister, 1 was my cousin and 2 were great friends...

but like Shamma says...it takes 2!!

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I am as close to each member of my BP today as I was a yar ago. Each person has their own busy schedule but we always make time for each other

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I am still close to all my BP. I have a feeling as time goes on, and they each get married (we are the first married in our group) things may change.

Only time will tell, but I have a feeling we'll stay friends. Family, of course, are stuck with us!

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I'm still very close with all of my bp members. I chose all of my bm's 18 months in advance, and people said I was crazy because relationships change. I just knew that these were my friends for life.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

I am still close to my BP members. One of my BM's was my husbands sister. We were never close at all, but still maintain the same relationship.

Re: Quest to Past Brides, How many of you have distanced yourselves from BP members after the wedding?

sadly very distant. i always though that would not happen to me. Becasue I saw it happen in so many bridal partys. My sil re-married(dh brother died 3.5 years ago) without telling the family. she took the kids and moved no forwarding address and she was my moh! she also said no one was there for her(bs). Withing 60 days of my wedding she went from dating mike(9/27) to engaged to george(10/31 30days after we got married) to selling her house(1week later, I found out cause I stopped by to say hi) to married (11/17 and we were the last to fin out. we walked into her house for her sons bday and everyone else new already!) sat after thanksgiving moved to her hubby's home(we found out cause I stopped by to see the kids, I did that alot and found a big ple of bags and her house looked empty. so i asked a neighbor and they said she moved out saturday) she never talks to me or calls me. she wont return my calls or e-mails. When her husband died I just started to go to college f/t while working f/t. I always made a point to call her everyday for over 2 years, and come by and have dinner or chat more than 2 times a week. Meanwhile never seeing my husband!

Then another bm, her husband is thought to be cheating on her. they have only been married for 5 or so years and she cut me off. she does not even return my e-mails or calls?!!? She would come to my house at 11pm and ask me to go to the diner to chat. I wouldn't get home until 3am. This happend all the time. Then she started to tell people I was not there enough for her. Meanwhile I needed her never and when I did it was too much to ask.

not to mention my cousin who was asked to be in my bp 2 years in advance and backed out 9 months before with this excuse: between being a newlywed, working and the commute for the wedding it was too much for her. mind you she only lives in manhatten. i had people in my by fom georgia for god's sakes!!!

Message edited 6/9/2003 11:10:54 PM.