Mom is forcing us to get a video and FI doesn't want to spend the money.

My mom is being very, very annoying about the video. SHe says that we have to get a video, blah, blah, blah. FI thinks we already spent enough money on the photos and we don't need a video. I am torn in the middle!. Today my mom say that I shouldn't let my FI bully me into this decision and that I should tell him that I want a video (personally it would be nice to have one, but it's too much money) and then she says that next week we are going to go look for a videographer. SHe is not backing down. What do I do?

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bottom line is...unless your Mom is paying for the video, you get what YOU AND FH want! that is how I handle my parents!

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tell your mom to pay for the videographer, otherwise you can ask a friend to tape it...
she can not tellyou your fiance is bullying you into not getting one, when she is bullying you into getting one...

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How is this - this is what I'm doing. I'm getting a videographer to tape the ceremony at the church only.

FH does not want a video either so we compromised. The ceremony is the actual wedding so have that taped and then the photographer can take care of the reception memories with pics.

If you have any questions or need to vent please FM me anytime!!!

Lori

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My sister didn't want one...so she didn't get one. BUT...She really regret it!!! If you can...I think you should get one.

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You have to decide what you and FI want (even if she wants to pay!). It is up to you. I have to say I like my video more than my pictures - it just shows so much more. I love my raw footage. I am so glad I did it!

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Hubby didnt want to spend the $$$ either. I tell you it was the best $1500 I spent. Im so glad, because there is so much you miss on your day, and I tell you it captured everything and was so thankful for that. Yes, your photos mean a lot too, but when you see it on video it is so worth it.

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in the beginning I was not for a video...until my friend told me her reasons...this will not be still pictures, but moving and talking pictures of your family that may no longer be around in years to come...my grandfather died 2 weeks before my wedding and there is no video of him...

think the 6th sense, when the wife would watch her video every year on the anniversary...


I also know that when everyone was a. walking down the aisle and b. walking into the hall...I was so upset I couldn't watch and kept saying that I could wait to see the video...thats when my sister realized she wanted a video for her wedding 3 months later...


there are less expensive videos that you can get...and this is something that a lot of brides say they regret...and you can NEVER get it back (you can dress up again in your outfits and take pictures) but you can NEVER get the video after the fact!!!


I think that you should compromise btw FH and mom...maybe she will pay?

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I think you should get it. Photos only capture things on the surface. The video is going to show you a hell of a lot of what you missed...which will be a lot!!

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I went to a wedding recently and they did not have a video, when the bride who is a friend of ours came around we were talking about how lovely the ceremony was and she got all upset and said that she wishs she would of had a video guy to tape it, because she was so nervous she did not remeber much. She said it was the biggest regret she had. Even if you just have the ceremony taped I think it is worth it.

Bridget

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Excuse me, you HAVE to have a videographer? No you don't. She's NOT paying for it, right?

I would not let your mother start getting in between you and your relationship with your husband. This is the man you will go home to now. It will set a very poor precident, and then when you have kids will she start telling you what you HAVE to buy them too?

No, tell her that you will not go look for a videographer unless SHE is paying for it, because you are not spending them money. It doesn't sound like it's important enough for you to have one that you want to work it out with FI to cut costs elsewhere, so she should pay for it.

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ummmm... we didn't get a video for our wedding and I can tell you we don't regret that.... I know a lot of people say that if you don't its some huge mistake but IMHO it depends on the person.

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She said you shouldn't let FI bully you? What does she think she is doing?????

Unless she is paying the bill, You and and your FH and only you 2 should decide what is right for you guys.....END OF STORY...(IMO )