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Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

DrmnBlnd Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:57 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:57 AM

Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

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jenny2penny Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:59 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:59 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Get out of here! Is she insane to choose the same date you have.

Sassy Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:59 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 10:59 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

OMG - that sounds downright despicable.

I am so, so sorry for you.
You know what you have to do- cut all ties, and do not let this non-friend affect your life any more.
I'm sure your MOH won't let you down.
GOod luck

ChristineC68 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:02 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:02 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Good grief! She really needs to get a life!! I am sorry she put your BM & MOH in that position! I hope they really tell her off!!

Xelindrya Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:02 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:02 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

I hate those type of women..
I hope her marriage, at least, is truthful and holds up.

Rushing a wedding to 'out do' someone else.. makes you wonder where her priorities are, doesn't it?

Funny thing is.. Im sure yours will be TONS better.. you've had time to plan, think things out and detail wedding that she probably has no clue about. So while you relax and enjoy your wedding because Im sure you won't be giving a rats behind about hers.. she'll be fretting if her proofs will end up better!!

What a crock. People like this are just sad. My step mother's one.. and I've lived with it for years.. I've lost pity for her types. Worrying about them or even being angry about their stupid childness is a waste of engery.

Take comfort in the fact.. she's just dying of ENVY. I always think about that.. makes me sooooo happy. hehehe

ETA: cause I can't spell very well

Boop2704 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:20 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:20 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

That is awful!!! I am so sorry. But don't you stress about it. She is the one that will be stressing. Your BM already said she won't back out on you and I am sure your MOH will not either. I seriously would cut all ties with her. She is obviously not a friend. People like that just make me so mad. Arghhh!!! Hopefully, she will get a clue and realize the only one she'll be hurting if she goes through with that date is herself, because she will not have your two BM's.

tracyg Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:27 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:27 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

thats horrible!!! she'll be the one with no one going to her wedding...

Told FH to warn one of his friends that he better not propose at our wedding (if hes even thinking of proposing to his gf, which we hope not!!!) ... he's the type to do totally selfish things like that just to be center of attention.

Nora101004 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:28 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:28 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

I can totally understand. My cuz was planning a wedding the same day I was, until I told her that was my day and had been for the last 3 years. She gave in. Also, my sis SIL is very jealous of her. Its not as if my sis has much besides good friends and family. Just write her off and what ever happens happens. Have your wedding the way you want and you'll learn a lot about who your friends are in the end.

Nora101004 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:30 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:30 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Xelindrya: What does ETA stand for?

jennyg Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:33 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:33 AM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

This girl is a psycho. I'm sure your MOH won't back out to be in her wedding. Don't worry about that. And don't even think that her wedding will outshine yours. Karma will be back to get her!!

Take comfort in the fact that it will be VERY hard for her to find a reception hall and vendors for this coming May. She might wind up picking another day afterall just because of availability.

kptoys Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:35 AM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 11:35 AM

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OMG Melissa that girl sounds like a complete B I T C H!!!!!!! I cant believe anyone would be so low!! Im sure your MOH wont back out on you. I cant believe she had the NERVE to ask your BP to be hers!!!! Do you know any of her plans... like when or where?? I can crash her party if you want or stand up and when they ask 'does anyonne here have just cause why this couple shouldnt be married?' I can say I do... the groom and I should be together

DrmnBlnd Posted: Aug 25, 2003 12:34 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 12:34 PM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Karen- HAHA...thank you for making me laugh! I needed that!

Thanks, ladies, for making me feel so much better.

I just talked to my MOH and she said that I am her first priority, and that no matter what, she will be there for ME. That makes me feel so much better.

I just cannot believe this girl is trying to upstage me! Oh, well- I am just going to concentrate on making MY day beautiful, and not worry about what she does.

Again, thanks ladies!

butterfly20 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:06 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:06 PM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

omg, very horrible... i hope this girl is not being invited to your wedding now...
i have a similar situation... Fh's cousin is now trying to get herself married first cause she thinks' the oldest cousin should get married first'.. do people really think that you'll put your life on hold so that they will be first??? GGGGGGRRRRRRR

Xelindrya Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:09 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:09 PM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Just a giggle..

Your engagement is older.. so YOU should be married off first!

Or.. it's beauty before age ya know?

I shouldnt laugh.. but really these types of people are pathetic!

xjulietx Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:14 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:14 PM

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My friend had a friend call and tell her that she booked her wedding for the week after and asked one of her bridesmaids and my friend (one poor girl had to be in her two friends' bridal parties one week apart and the two brides were in each other's bridal parties)

Yours takes the cake!

deby Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:18 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:18 PM

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I can't believe this girl...that is really twisted! and she's trying to steal your wedding party? unfreakenbelievable!!!!!!!!!

even if you decide to invite her to your wedding, it would be OK... it's like you are not acknowledging that she is getting married that day also.

Maribelle7777 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:53 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 01:53 PM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

I'm sure you already realize it, but the thing is: your BM and MOH are already obligated to be in your wedding. If the MOH has any shred of decency, which I'm sure she does, she will tell this girl she's already in your wedding. I mean does this other girl really think your friends will drop you for her wedding? And if your BM realizes that this girl is trying to outdo you, then my bet is that others will realize it too. Does this girl's FH know that you have already set your date for the wedding? Make sure he does - maybe he can convince this girl to make theirs another day.

I wouldn't even give her a 2nd thought, because she's looking for attention and not giving it to her will kill her. However, be alert as to when she's sending out her invitations, and try to send yours out first. I would hate to see it becoome a battle for who goes to whose wedding but if you both run in the same circles then it may get a bit complicated. Other than that, I wouldn't dedicate one more thought to her!

eroxgirl Posted: Aug 25, 2003 02:41 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 02:41 PM

Re: Sorry Ladies...need to vent (Kinda long)

Two things came to mind when I read your post:

1. you must be pretty freakin fabulous that this girl spends so much time trying to outdo you!

2. how EMPTY must this girl's life be that all she has to worry about is whether or not you have something better than she does?

She's pathetic, really. You shouldn't even waste your anger on her, she should be pitied. Anyone who chooses her wedding over yours either doesn't realize how sad she is or isn't worth your time!