why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

we keep running into issues from our family and friends 66 days before the wedding.

first it was his brother- which is kind of resolved now.

then it's this idiotic guy who is not really friends w/ FH anymore. he made an as$ of himself at our eng. party - calling the photographer derogatory names, groping my engaged maid of honor and BM whose boyfriend was there, shoving his face into the camera when this friend of my mom's was trying to take pictures.

we invited him reluctantly to the wedding- and didn't put 'and guest' as he isn't dating anyone. we have a huge guest list and weren't able to invite all our single friends with dates unless they were in a relationship of some sort.

rsvp comes today- he has 2 guests on there. FH said he'll talk to him. he is talking to him on IM right now and trying to explain to him that he can't bring a date bc we are over our maximum capacity and for budget reasons.

this is his response 'huh? you serious? oh that's weird! that's not normally how things are done is it?

that's assinine...i've never heard of anything done like that...you guys shouldn't have sent that card then...maybe there should've been a seperate run for us people who aren't married or don't live with someone, or bridal party members.

what card...it had a spot for number attending...get what I mean?

my sister, who btw is planning her wedding now never heard of that, but whatever.'
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FH was responding in the middle of these comments- not sure what he said exactly.

i'm upset. is it wrong for us to not allow him to bring a date? he's not dating anyone and the girl he wants to bring has a boyfriend (and by the way i really don't like this girl either- not that it matters)

Re: why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

WHHHHATTTTTTTTTT????? Thats not kool what a big POOPIE head! you are absolutly right to tell him NO guest who does he think he is? hes lucky u invited him to the wedding after the way he acted at the e-party! And I do think it matters that u dont like the girl LOL I wouldnt want him to come with her if I didnt like her either LOL!!!! Screw that!!!! let us know what happens! Like Seriosly how freakin old is he? hes acting like a 5 year old!

Re: why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

Jag.....sweetie.....why did you even invite this character anyway?? Especially considering the fact that he acted like a buttwipe at your engagement party AND that he's not even that close to your FH anyway? He should have never ever received an invite!

I sympathize with your position..but it's time for you to be firm. Make it clear that the invite is only for HIM....please don't explain to him any further your reasoning. It's none of his business. If he can't understand that or respect your wishes.....then tell him that he can kiss MY butt on a hot sweaty day.

**Sorry so mean...but people just P I S S me off!!**

Re: why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

I'm not quite sure why you even invited this guy, but stick to your guns and maybe the fact that he can't bring a date will deter him from going.

Re: why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

well, i'm not sure why we invited him either. we were considering not inviting him but then i felt bad about it.

FH used to be good friends (from college) with him plus a few others in the same group of friends (2 are GM) so i guess i thought it would be rude to not invite him to the wedding. they had a falling out after FH started dating me bc the guy was upset that he wasn't spending as much time with him!!!!! this sounds crazy.

anyway, i wish we could just uninvite him. i'm worried he'll be spiteful at the wedding and knock over the cake and end up being insulting to some of my conservative relatives. maybe i just worry too much. but he got sooo drunk after an hour at my e party that he didn't care what he was doing. and some of their friends just encouraged him by laughing. this guy is 26 but acts 12.

Re: why are things so much harder 2 months before the wedding??!?!?!?!?

Geez based on what you posted above, I'd be inclined to forgo etiquette & uninvite him! Esp. if he isn't that good of a friend anyways - with ALL the other stuff to worry & think about on your wedding day, you don't need that too! But ITA - stick to your guns & hopefully he'll bow out on his own.

GOOD LUCK