children and weddings help!

hi guys....We want to have no kids at the wedding ..esp the reception...it is a sat night wedinwe have a ring bearer in the immediate family....we have abiut 22 children cousins between both of us and dont want that many kids at the wedding....but both think it would be nice to have flower girls....we would have to offer it to 4 little girls ( some may say yes and some no I suspect all would be interested)....what is the right thing to do? Invite all kids to ceremony? Invite only the 4 girls? HAve 4 girls go to the entire party( that may hurt the feelings of the brothers and older siblings in general). Or forget it and dont bring it up and have no flower girls? Im very confused....I dont want to hurt anyones feelings but we want an adult setting overall for the wedding since it is evenig...

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I think many people will be hurt if you invite a few kids and not the rest. If for example they are all cousins and only 4 can come, the rest of the family will be insulted. Everyone's views are different on this. Its your wedding.Do what you want.
One of my friends invited kids at her wedding. One of the kids was so bad. He ran around all night and knocked something over. I was afraid he would knock over her cake. The parents didn't seem to care that this kid was running around like crazy nor did they ever try to stop him.

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My SIL had her two nieces as FG's and they left right after being introduced! I am a firm believer in no kids at the reception. As a parent, I personally don't want to chase my children around someones wedding.

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I also don't believe children belong at a wedding.
We only had immediate family's children which was a very small handful.
Most of the time people like to go out without the kids for a change and have their night out.
Many people will differ with me on this though.

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If you don't want children at the reception than only put the ones you want there in the bridal party. I think it's common knowledge that if the child is in the bridal party it is the acception to the rule. We have 2 younger girls in the wedding party and no one else under 18 is invited.

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We felt the same way so this is what we did: We asked Danielles sister and her brother, and my brother and my sister if they wanted their kids to go. They are all under 10 years old. Our wedding is a saturday night and its not going to be done till after 1. It turns out that everyone is happier that the kids arent going to be invited...especially since everyone is in the wedding party....Dont be afraid to ask or to say this is what we want. After all it is your wedding not theirs.

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you can invite only the kids in the bridal party....
in my fiances family his aunt and uncle got married, my fiance and one girl were in the bridal party, they were the only kids invited, so fh's parents got a babysitter for his brother...everyone was fine with it