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Soon2BeMrs2006
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 10:24 PM+
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 10:24 PM
opinions needed
FH and I have been engaged for a year and a half. his parents had wanted to throw us an eparty a few months after but then his mom had been sick. and then it came to the point where it was about a year before our orginal date of 9/10/06 and with bridal shower and wedding gifts from people we didnt want to have people feell pressured to give an engagement gift too. but now with the date change to next may, we're thinking maybe we should have one, but would that be weird since we've been engaged a year and a half?
BlueTulip
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:01 PM+
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:01 PM
Re: opinions needed
It sounds like you've already had your shower. I usually expect the flow to be engagement party/shower/bachelorette party/wedding. Not that they can't be in a different order, this is just what I am used to. Also, I usually expect and engagement party to be within 6-12 months of engagement. Do what makes sense for your crowd.
Soon2BeMrs2006
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:06 PM+
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:06 PM
Re: opinions needed
no didnt, but i know in the future i will.
AlliNMatt06
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:18 PM+
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:18 PM
Re: opinions needed
No, I think you should skip it. I think its weird to have an engagment party 1 1/2 after your engagment. That is a long time, and people have already given you gifts.
suven
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:20 PM+
Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:20 PM
Re: opinions needed
At this point, I think you should skip it
N.Y.bride
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 07:20 AM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 07:20 AM
Re: opinions needed
You havent had any shower right?And you wedding is not for a year and a half?
I'd say definately have an E-party! Why not? You had to wait. You didnt have a choice. I can't see any harm in it.
Soon2BeMrs2006
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 10:58 AM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 10:58 AM
Re: opinions needed
Posted by N.Y.bride
You havent had any shower right?
And you wedding is not for a year and a half?
I'd say definately have an E-party! Why not? You had to wait. You didnt have a choice. I can't see any harm in it.
correct i havent had a shower yet, and the wedding was postponed
JennyAl
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 11:00 AM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 11:00 AM
Re: opinions needed
we had an engagement party on Jan 05 and our wedding is May 07.....
RomeBride
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:00 PM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:00 PM
Re: opinions needed
Hmmm I've been thinking about this and I keep going back and forth. I think that you should throw the party since your family wants to show their support and since the reason for postponing everything was out of your control. The fact that you've been together for so long is reason enough to celebrate (we've been together for 8 years, I know hehe.)I think though that if you do have a party it should not be called an enagement party, but rather a celebration or something like that on the invites. To make it even more clear about your desires, I think you should have your family spread the word that gifts are NOT expected due to the circumstances. I think that is the smartest way to handle things. You have come so far in your relationship and you shouldn't SKIP a party just because of what others will think but you do want to handle it carefully. Let us know what you do please.
OctoberPrincess2006
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:08 PM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:08 PM
Re: opinions needed
A friend of mine at work is having a small intimate dinner at a local resturant with close family, friends and the bridal party as an engagement party, I thought that this was a very nice idea.
BJandDan
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 01:02 PM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 01:02 PM
Re: opinions needed
It sounds as if you only postponed having one is because the mom got sick. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't have one. You only get married once :)
hsacks23r
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 03:53 PM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 03:53 PM
Re: opinions needed
I say GO FOR IT
2003wedding.
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 08:50 PM+
Posted: Jan 07, 2006 08:50 PM
Re: opinions needed
Posted by BJandDan
It sounds as if you only postponed having one is because the mom got sick. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't have one. You only get married once :)
i agree
i actually had mine way past my engagement--1 1/2 yrs too and 1 year b/f my wedding--longgg engagement!
-like bj&dan said-you only get married once---i really wanted to celebrate and would have regreted not havingone b/c it was so much fun! it's a special time and should be celebrated!!!
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