Question about shower guest list

Do we have to invite very female that is on the wedding guest list? There are several of my cousins who are bringing wives/fiances' who I really don't talk to, or know that well. I'm not sure if I should invite them or not. Help!

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I just posted this the other day....Am curious to see what people think, too.

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They say you should invite EVERY woman, but no, I didn't. I haven't had my shower yet, but I did provide my sister (MOH) with the list and I feel it wasn't appropriate for certain people to be there.. I want the closest women in my life there.. Not Johnny's flavor of the week lol

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I agree- I said the other day, too- I have been invited to so many showers that I did not feel I belonged at because I was fh's date, or whatever. I do not want people dreading my shower like I do sometimes.

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Thank you, ladies (Marcella-you are too funny). This was how I felt, too.

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I only invited those females I am close with or that FMIL said should be invited. I didn't invite every woman on the list bc I didn't want it to be just another occasion to ask for a present from someone I barely know. I asked myself the following question when considering who to include on the guest list I gave my sister: 'Would I want to go to this person's shower? Would I be comfortable going to this person's shower?'

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lol.. I was being honest, though! lol

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I just want my close family and closest friends at my shower. I don't want any of my cousin's girlfriends there because by the time my wedding comes they probably won't even be with that girl anymore.

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I invited every woman that I knew well. If I have never met them...I didn't invite them. I also left off my work people (and their spouses), Dad's and FH's work people.

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I told my sister (MOH) to invite only close family and friends. I didn't see the need to invite DH's cousin he never speaks to and I never heard of until we were doing our guest list or my bosses wife that I met once breifly, etc. I think these other people would probably be relieved to not be invited - I know I usually am

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Marcella! I only had 17 people at mine and that was how I wanted it. For my Bf's shower I invited only the people she asked for(40 people) and get this: I actaually had one remote acquaintance of hers call me up and DEMAND to know why she wasn't invited to the shower, if she was invited to the wedding!!!! She told me 'I am under the impression that if you are invited to the wedding, you are automatically invited to the shower!' So, I toold her, 'I'm sorry, you've clearly been misinformed b/c that is clearly NOT the case here...I don't know what else to tell ya, hon!' What nerve!

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OMG!! What nerve! LOL!

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I put on the list I set up with my mom only women that I know. For example my Dad’s gym buddy, I only know Jim. Jim has been dating someone for a long time but I never met her. I didn’t put her on the shower list.
The Best Man is single and we didn’t know till the night before who he was bringing to the e-party. We don’t know who he is inviting to the wedding and I sure as hell won’t invite one of his skanks to my shower!

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On my list (which ended up being very long but I'm inviting 240 to the wedding) I put family and close friends - not everyone! I did not put some of my FH's friend's wives or girlfriends (especially those out of state that I barely know - I didn't want it to appear like I was asking for a gift) and I didn't put some that live near us b/c I don't necessarily want them there.

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I only invited my & husband's close family members and friends.

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it is for the people(family and friends) close to the bride.. in my FI family there are a bunch of aunts & cousins from long island that are being invited, but the family outside of long island is not being invited(since we only see them once a year)Your mother & futureMIL should also have an idea who from the family should go...

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Thanks for all the info ladies!

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I only had close family members and close friends on my list. I think I had a total of 16 people on my list. It made no sense to me to invite every single female who is being invited to my wedding, because then I would feel the need to entertain them!

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I invited every woman on my side (excluding work- since they would have a shower for me and mom's work)

I invited just a few from DH's side...I agree with the if you don't know them...you don't need to invite them (although if FMIL knows them well...you might want to go on a case by case basis)