Do things change when you get married?

Bride to be crashing - my mom keeps telling me that 'everything will change' when we get married. I find it very hard to believe things will, and I hope they don't because I love what we have.

FH and I have been living together for 1.5 years and we have a great thing going. I understand that having a baby will definitely change our lives, but I don't think the simple act of getting married will change our life together.

Can you ladies let me know if things will change? My mom is basically saying not have a baby right away (well I'll have at least 9 months, right!) because everything will be so different once we get married.

I appreciate any insight! Thanks!

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i don't think things are all that different now ... they're kind of easier, in fact, because we share in all of the finances

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DH & I lived together for over 2 years before we got married and nothing has changed. I feel like we have been married for much longer than we have because we lived together for so long. A baby will change things - just make sure you are mentally ready before said baby comes into the picture. If there is something you and FH want to do before a baby comes along (a trip or something) plan to do that first :)

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the only thing that changed was my last name ;)

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Nothing changed...
I love being married...

We (DH & I) think its in ppl's head..
We love being married...
we still do things like Boyfriend & Girlsfrien....

But now we share everything!

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I can understand where my mom is coming from - no one from her generation lived together, so moving in together was a HUGE adjustment.

If anything, I think the only change will be that I love him even more.

Thanks for the feedback. I appreciate it.

And I do realize that having a baby is a HUGE deal and that we need to be ready for it.

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Nothing really changed for us. We lived together for a little over a year before we got married so there was no adjustment there.

If anything, I'd say we've become an 'old married couple' meaning we like to stay in more now. We still go out but on the whole, I think we are much bigger home bodies now that we were before we were married.

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DH doesn't think anyting changed, but I beg to differ! Before we got married he was way more helpful around the house! He now has expectations of me which is super annoying! I get frustrated because he's very stubborn as well, which I already knew. Other than that it's the same! Oh and he pays the whole mortgage now, I don't help!

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The only things that have changed:

- I have a new last name at work and Facebook (still haven't legally changed it )
- We both wear rings now...It took him a good 2 weeks to get used to it, he's good to go now.
- He has to do the vacuuming, swiffering and laundry because he said it in his vows.
- Still gives me butterflies when he refers to me as his wife :)
- Baby fever is FULL ON!!!

Other than that, business as usual

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DH & I were not living together before we got married so it was a huge adjustment.
However since yuo both have been living together, the only change would be with financial arrangements if you are not splitting them already

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I think things have changed. It's more permanent and secure. I know dating/living together/being engaged was all that but it just felt a little different after we said our 'I do's'. I was a lot more lazy before we were married and now I cook (NEVER did that before we were married...and I mean NEVER), clean, laundry, take care of our cat, etc etc etc. DH seems to have taken on the old school man of the house. He comes home, takes off his pants, and sits in front of the tv until dinner is ready and then back to in front of the tv. I'll sit with him of course since we now watch more shows together to spend more time together.

I would say it depends on what you have going before you get married. I took the role 'wife' very seriously after he put that ring on my hand and I try to make sure that I live up to it every day. Communication has been more open and while he has always been my best friend, I feel as though someone is going to love me even when I tell him my darkest fear, whether it's about him or not.

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besides the fact that we now live together and i actually have to cook and clean , everything's pretty much the same

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we had lived together for several years so no...nothing really changed lol.

The baby will change a lot of things though

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Posted by adelz

- He has to do the vacuuming, swiffering and laundry because he said it in his vows.

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This made me lol!

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we didn't live together before the wedding so it has been a huge adjustment. i think the biggest adjustment though has been the cooking - i NEVER cooked when i was with my parents. laundry, cleaning, that's all the same. also, i had to train him to do thinks i like done - e.g. making the bed every day, etc. i've definitely been working a lot harder than i have in the past but he definitely takes on the 'man' stuff - like taking the garbage out, changing light bulbs, etc. etc. can't say i can complain, but it is defintiely different for us. we dated for 8 years before the wedding and never lived together - we'd generally see each other 3-4 days a week. now, it's every day and i wouldn't have it any other way! i wish that i didn't have to go to work so i could spend even more time with him

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

the only thing that changed was my last name ;)

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THIS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

the only thing that changed was my last name ;)

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Perfect answer. Same here

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Absolutely nothing changed, including my last name

we lived together for 5 years before we got engaged, we had joint checking and savings accounts before we got married. So we were very comfortable with each other. Nothing at all changed after the wedding and I'm very happy it didn't!

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DH and I were talking about this the other day. There are all of those people that say things will chnge and 'game over,' but we feel as though life is even better (if possible) now that we are married

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Posted by VCanizalez

Nothing changed...
I love being married...

We (DH & I) think its in ppl's head..
We love being married...
we still do things like Boyfriend & Girlsfrien....

But now we share everything!

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Same here