one yr anniv- HELP! (LONG)

I left this up to my DH and it looks that all his plans may be for nothing! (how pis^%%& am I?) Told him in Feb to plan a trip for us to go on to celebrate our 1st yr as hubby & wife. Gave him the stipulations that it could NOT be in NY, NJ( family lives there), PA ( same) or FLA(Same) Wanted to go some place new,do & see things on our trip. He was very secretive...and it was bugging me as time passed since (at that point) it was April- a little over 2 months to go- and I didnt know a thing. Well- He finally asked me what do I think of Thailand?? GREAT! what do you have planned? - Well here are 5 or 6 tours that seem interesting- the US $ is very strong- all included most meals, etc...but airfare very expensive. SO here we go- back & forth..and finally last wk I suggested that since we are so close 2 the date (7/2) and NOTHING is booked yet, maybe we should hold off and keep this as a fall trip.(since it is always very warm there) Ok - maybe- he says. Now this weekend he is speaking to his sis on the phone & says 'yeah- phyl says we should wait on this trip- etc' Hmmm- a mere suggestions has become fact. (wonder if this works on chores? IT DOESNT) SO - I am guessing we are going a NOWHERE! EXACTLY WHAT I DIDNT want to happen. Ok- I know there are worse things in life- & we have had to attend a few funerals lately...but I wanted one nice trip for our anniv- while we can still take trips. AS most people have told us- & we have seen- life DRASTIcALLY changes post kids. So we want 2 have some fun b4 that. I am stuck- and now I think I have to plan a getaway for 6/30-7/4. ARRGH! any suggestions? (We live in Long Beach - LI)

one yr anniv- HELP! (LONG)

Hi Phyl; Don`t be too hard on him. I give him a lot of credit for starting to plan and coming up with something as exciting and exotic as Thailand! When you said MAYBE we should wait, he probably didn`t think you were torn between 2 options, but that you were OK with it if he didn`t object, and were phrasing it that way to give him an option to argue for going ahead with it if he wanted. In his mind, you probably both agreed that waiting was OK. Just let him know that it`s important for you to get away somewhere to celebrate 1 year together, even if it`s simpler and less exotic than the BIG trip you want to postpone till Fall. Some suggestions: The Maine coastline Cruise to Bermuda Cooperstown, NY (baseball and antique shops) Smokey Mountains in Tennesee Niagara Falls Quebec or Toronto Cape Cod, MA or Martha`s Vinyard White Mountains in NH New Orleans Missisippi Riverboat cruise Or just tell everyone you`re going somewhere else, then find a romantic spot in Montauk or the Jersey shore where you can enjoy the time together and won`t run into family. It could be worse. My hubby likes a crowd around all the time. He hates going on vacations with just the two of us, so his idea of the perfect vacation is to bring half the family or his friends along and his idea of paradise on earth is Long Island, so he can`t see any reason to go anywhere else!

feedback- to Karen and to all

Hi Karen- Some very good advice...And it is only further confirmed by the airplane info I recieved today. So, maybe this is rescheduled for Sept. As far as locals...doesnt pay to go to the shore when the beach is three blocks away from home. :0) I thought of a Riverboat excursion- but I heard that The Mississippi is NOT the place to be in the summer- very humid. ARRGH! I guess since it will be the whend b4 july 4th we will be hit with some higher prices...but there's got to be somewhere not too far to go to..that isn't terribly expensive. Let me know Karen...and all the other married Ladies on this board. THANKS

How about Boston?

It`s about a 4 hour drive from Long Beach and lots of options for things to do. Great restaurants, shopping, incredible history in Lexington and Concord too. Drive to the Cape or Martha`s Vinyard for the day, or up to Portsmith or Kennebunkport, Maine for the day too. Fireworks on the river with the Boston Pops (you have to get there EARLY AM), great Museums also. Only drawback is hotels are expensive.

Suggestions

Phyl - I'm not sure how the airfare looked when you checked it, but Karen's suggestions are all great. Especially Toronto. Not too far away, plenty of stuff to do, close to Niagara Falls if you wanted to take a side trip. Or what about Chicago or San Francisco? Both great cities. My hubby and I have had a great time playing in both of those places! Maybe there is some kind of airfare deal available or you may have some miles you can use up?? Otherwise, you can go hide on Shelter Island and drive day trips to the vineyards and to the Hamptons and Montauk!

Sugg re: Long Island (i feel like a cry baby)

Funny- I followed your train of thought regarding LI. I was reading thru the LI Fun Book put out by Newsday. A friend suggested the wineriers on the East Fork... and a fellow passenger recommended Shelter Island ..but I think it will be a hard drive traffic wise out East the weekend b4 July 4th.Well, it may be worth trying. Also looking into museums in the area... If it isnt too far of a drive, we can always go home to sleep! In Bethpage- at the old Bethpage Restoratiom Village they have a 7/4 celebration that mimicks colonial times.. arrgh! Was hoping that someone else would cook and make the beds...guess I could just Close my eyes and pretend. (and remember that we will have our trip later this year?)

Sugg re: Long Island (i feel like a cry baby)

If you really want to eliminate airfares and just get away, why not try upstate NY? It doesn`t have to be too far to feel very different. Rockland & Orange Counties have some really beautiful areas. Warwick & Sugar Loaf are both about 1 1/2 hours away and have some great B&B`s and lots of little shops. Also hiking and lakes are nearby. It would be a change of pace from LI and since you`re in Long Beach, I assume you can stroll to the beach everyday. Also Karen H had a great idea in one of her posts - tubing in Phoenicia, NY -link to their website- http://www.towntinker.com - It`s in Ulster County I think and it`s really a lot of fun. Whatever you decide to do, book it sooner than later. Obviously that will be a popular weekend and it would be a shame to spend so much time trying to decide only to find out that everything is booked. Make a plan for that weekend and then try not to project beyond it. I have read your postings and know you are going through some unhappy feelings. It`s kind of hard to know someone on a message board enough to completely understand but I do hope that you remember that these feelings will pass. Sometimes things aren`t on our terms and we struggle but eventually a solution comes in our path and it`s faith that keeps the spirit strong. I hope it doesn`t sound too hokey but nuturing that strength of spirit makes all the difference. I of course wish you only good things :o)

Sugg re: Long Island (i feel like a cry baby)

Hi, If I may be so bold, my sister-in-law lives in New Hampsire and she rents out the top portion of her house. It`s a beautiful barn that was converted into a house and it`s right on a 37 acre lake where you can go kayacking, swimming, paddle boating and fishing. Plus, there are so many things to do around there ... if you enjoy nature and being outdoors. Her prices are very affordable ... check out her website. http://cyberrentals.com/NH/CrowWHITE.html It`s a really fun place to go for a long weekend! Hope this helps! Good Luck!

elizabeth--

thank you and G-d Bless!

Vegas, DC, Maine, Arizona, CA

Here's a few options, Vegas is always fun, that's where we went, but then again we only live 4 hours away. Washington, DC is fun. There is a lot to see, but it's very touristy, not quite and romantic Maine I hear is really nice Arizona is nice but it will be really hot, but so is Vegas, it was 110 when we went memorial day weekend. Sedona is nice, Lake Havasu and the grand canyon California, you can go north to the wine countries, san francisco, or Monterey or south to hollywood or san diego. All have romance in them. Good luck!!!! My honey got me a bouquet of paper roses with some sweet words on each rose(paper is the traditional 1st anniversary gift). He's so creative:)