This sounds terrible, but....

We had a relatively small wedding, 145 people. I invited only my direct boss and 2 co-workers from my office. They all came with their significant others. Well, my direct boss didn't give us anything that night, but did have an envelope in his 'out box' to be delivered to me the day I came back to work with a short note congratulating us on his personal work stationary. Fine... but, the other 2 didn't even give us cards. I don't think I shouold say anything, but I am a bit peeved....NOT EVEN A CARD??? We didn't get married, or invite people for gifts, but I just think that it's tacky to not even get a card.

One other thing is that one of the 2 girls I invited with their significant other wasn't able to come to my shower, but insisted that she would give me twice the gift at the wedding, which of course I told her was unnecessary.

What do ya'll think? Am I crazy?

Hi Rachel

I think we know that you mean no harm in how you are feeling. It's really not about money or a gift, it's more that they didn't wish us well. Want to hear something worse? I have 5 sister-in-laws. Four of them didn't even give us a card, their only! brother whom they claim is everything in the world. They lost their other brother in an accident 1.5 years ago. It was very sad. I wasn't mad at them; I was more hurt that they couldn't give us a card to wish us well. I can understand how you feel. As I purchase gifts for the holidays for their children (all 9 of them!) I feel a little bitter myself. Then I say 'be a better person and look beyond it'. I fed 15 people at my wedding and no card from anyone! Nice warm welcome to the family huh? I made this memory book beginning with my shower cards, then responses, pictures in between and wedding cards. Some day, when I pull it out they'll ask why their cards aren't there and I'll explain that we never received one. I also did not get responses from any of them. Only my MIL/FIL. These folks are well educated and working people too.
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This sounds terrible, but....

we did not receive a card or gift from my boss or one of my husbands good friends. It kind of makes me feel that they are not very considerate people.

You are right though... I will take the higher road and forget about it. Thanks Kate
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Hi Kate

Thanks Kate. I am glad that my message didn't come across wrong. These people are definitely educated and know better. I can't imagine these people NOT knowing better. To top it off, the one girl that promised the 'double wedding gift' was totally strung out at the wedding. The other people at her table were really grossed out by her wearing her black leather boots and being totally wasted at a black tie affair that they didn't speak to her all that much and she left right after she ate dinner....and, she didn't even say good-bye.

You are right though... I will take the higher road and forget about it. Thanks Kate
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This sounds terrible, but....

My boss didn't come to the wedding and at first he didn't even send the reply card.. He sent an e mail. My boss is a weird man, I have learned not to expect too much from him :)
It is totally wrong that they came to the wedding and didnt give a gift though! Sorry Rachel

Our wedding was Nov 4, and I couldn't have asked for a more perfect day! And, my parents hosted another celebration for us in Chicago last weekend. Even though it's been a little crazy lately, everything was so special this past month!!!

Hi Kate

I doubt this would apply in Kate's case, but, I have heard instances where card and gifts were lost and/or stolen from receptions. People sometimes have a habit of just leaving the card in the middle of the table. As a guest I always used to give cash because I thought it was more convenient to the couple. But after heaing so many stories I started writing checks so that if it wasn't cashed in a month or so I would know something was up and give a call.

Well, ladies and gents, WE DID IT!!!

Our wedding was Nov 4, and I couldn't have asked for a more perfect day! And, my parents hosted another celebration for us in Chicago last weekend. Even though it's been a little crazy lately, everything was so special this past month!!!

This sounds terrible, but....

this happened to us as well from some people at work... my boss included! but then a couple of weeks after the wedding, these people went up to kevin and asked him if there was something we didn't get that we wanted. i found that question strange (and he basically said that we were totally spoiled.. feeling weird saying 'actually, yes, we'd like blah blah blah!'). my boss ended up sending our gift last week.. 2 tickets to the opera....3rd row center! so maybe the people you didn't get anything from will get you something later. don't feel about bad about talking about it though...its just your feelings! -leighann

This sounds terrible, but....

I was fortunate to get a gift from everyone who attended. But I hear stories all the time. it's something you will never forget. But don't let it get to you. If they are all from your job, I would assume they all talked to each other and found one wasn't giving a gift so maybe they all decided they would;nt. It's wrong and very tacky, but what can you do. I would cross them off my X-mas list if I were you:)