Who in the world did I marry???

I'm about a week or so late with my period and I'm starting to feel sick (nauseaus, tired, etc.). I told my husband that I was late and that I was contemplating getting a pregnancy test tonight and taking it tomorrow (just for peace of mind). I'm not overly thrilled with the idea of being pregnant (not saying I am, just not sure), financially we're not in a position to have kids. He tells me that under no circumstances are we having this kid (if in fact there is one) and that I'll just have to take care of business! I'm speechless at this point and beyond hurt. Yes, timing is rotten right now, but he's demanding that I abort my baby while we're married? It's insane. I can't even believe he would act this way, let alone suggest an abortion. What do I do if I am pregnant?? Leave?? What a bad time to find out that my newlywed husband is a total creep. I'm soo out of it. Even if I'm not pregnant, I don't know how I feel towards this man anymore if that's his attitude (like it's my fault and my 'problem' to deal with). I thought only single folks had these concerns, not married ones...

It's definitely not easy! Jamelle, you just bought a place right? It's okay to not be saving yet since you just moved in and the wedding, etc. I am renting a house right now because it's certainly not the market for me to buy. I personally don't save a dime because I have to buy everything, but you get there. My husband is saving better than I. I put a lot of my money into my company stock and 401K. This way, I never see it and I have to go on my budget. If you have that opportunity, take it, it's so worth it. I don't put a tremendous amount in the 401K, but I put in 6K last year and my company matched with 3K. This is my only savings. I cannot complain, but on my own, forget it.

Take a deep breath

First sit back and take a deep breath. This reaction from him could have been an 'In shock' reaction. You love eachother. Take your pregnancy test on your own and then decide, if you need to, how you will discuss this with him. I know how you feel. Sometimes the comments my husband makes, or actions, (even though unconciously) hurt me too.

Who in the world did I marry???

Give it some time..... If you are pregnant and he loves you than he will come around and realize that the baby is truly a blessing. Take the test. Do not worry till you are sure of the results.

Who in the world did I marry???

No one is ever in the financial position to have a baby. If everyone waited for that, there would be NO babies in this world. Take a blessing when it comes, everything works out in the end. You may have caught your husband at a bad time(still not an excuse)try addressing this subject at another time. Even if you are not pregnant you need to talk about this!

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Who in the world did I marry???

I can agree with Kate is saying. I know that a lot of guys make quick statements. Hopefully it was just his initial shocked reaction and he will apologize for saying such harsh things.
I hope everything works out.
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Who in the world did I marry???

I think regardless if you are pregnant or not, you should have a serious talk with your hubby. You don't want to hold all those feelings inside. You should always talk about your feelings, to avoid conflict in the future. My husband is always telling me I talk to much, but I like him to know everything, and for 11 years it's worked. I would say in the past 5 years we may have had only a handful of arguments.

Communication is the key!!!!

Who in the world did I marry???

Sooooooo--- are you pregnant?
I hope everything works out.
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Who in the world did I marry???

No, thank god. I took the test and was very relieved, but we still haven't really communicated in the past few days since. He hasn't even asked me if I was and I haven't told him I'm not. Clearly there's more issues in front of us than just this one, so I think a good long talk is due this weekend. He keeps changing on me every day and I'm at the point that I question if his heart is really in this anymore. I need some definite answers. Wish me luck..

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It sounds like your husband is having some issues.