Advice for all Brides

Hell-o Ladies, I was told by a friend who is on this site to post this advice I gave her.

Advice for the wedding:

1. No one cares about your details-(do the invitations match the place cards, big or small centerpieces, bridesmaid dresses, your shoes, your décor, table clothes and candles, favors, etc more than you do. Do you remember the above details for a wedding you went to last summer or two or three summers ago. Everyone only cares about the food and drinks and music. So if you need to cut your budget, cut it where no one will notice and always add to food, music and your bar/drink budget.

2. It will take you an hour or more in time to get ready then your best allotted time suggests, something will come up! So give your self time. Don't be in such a rush. Enjoy it! Take time. Time to sip a drink, time to laugh and talk to your family and friends and see the happiness in their eyes.

3. Photographers make mistakes all the time, so make sure to have a list of photos you really want the day of. (photo by that lake, or in that pose or with that sign etc), make time for family pictures, aunty and uncles, cousins pic, parents and siblings. And even print out photos of other couples you have seen that you love for your photographer to duplicate.

4.Do not sweat the small stuff!! Remembers the reception is a party so remember to have fun! Have food/cake sent to your room by the caterer incase you do not get time to eat with all the fun you will be having! It will be worth it later on that evening when you go back to your room and you have food from your cocktail hour or dinner that you totally forgot to try!!

5. Have someone set and in charge of things leading up to the big day. Especially someone who is in charge of collecting your gifts and holding the tip envelopes. A wedding planner/day of coordinator is a great thing to have if your budget allows but you will have to prepare the to-do-list as you want them to follow. Have pictures of your centerpieces and décor as they should be so the planner can make sure its done exactly right for you, give the planner the photos you want the photographer to take and give them a time line of events as it should follow. A good planner will allocate more than enough time for everything.

6. Remember that everyone will have a great time if you and your husband are having a great time, don't stress the small stuff. As long as there is plenty of good food for everyone to eat and lots of alcohol and amazing music (mix in some 80's, 90's for everyone) then your wedding will be a hit!

7. Remember wedding gifts are just that-Gifts! Be gracious when receiving because its not obligatory to bring one!!!

8. Smile when greeting guests, appreciate them for being there, make sure your accommodations are thoughtful and you have thought about overnight guests, and guests with medical conditions, and allergies and transportation. Be thoughtful on your wedding day. Your behavior on the most important day of your life is a reflection of who you really are.


Advice for your marriage

1. Weddings are fun but your marriage will require real hard work. The first year can be stressful for most couples. Remember you married this man or woman for a reason and try to hold on to that reason when you're fighting or mad. Learn to love them unconditionally, with faults and all.

2. Never give up but give each other plenty of space.

3. You can go to bed angry! You don't want to hold resentment in with false apologies and suppressed anger, sleep it off and talk about it when calm.

4. Learning to listen is a skill set every spouse needs!! Listening without offering advice, listening without offering support, listening without trying to make it better or trying to fix it or getting defensive is a huge skill. Just listen, really listen and hear what your partner is saying to you!

5. You get a new spouse and a new family all in one. Your life will be a lot easier if you whole heartedly accept each other's families as your own, faults and all. Marriage changes everything, treat your spouses family just like yours. Think about how you would want your children and their partners to treat you when they get married. Take care of your family.

6. You may not have as much sex after marriage as you thought you would, but intimacy should not change. Hugs, kisses, touching while in bed is huge! Get a smaller bed if you have to, but do not sleep miles apart, always touch each other.


This is the best time of your life. Appreciate it, cherish it, smile when talking about it and enjoy every moment of it!

Congratulations!

Advice for all Brides

Great advice! Thank you!