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kissy27 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:22 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:22 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

Posted by nicpizzo

Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

My mom too, and that was her feeling with not asking for any help financially from the bridal party.

this was the same for me...I know that my FSIL & SIL paid for the favors but that was their choice...My mom wanted to give them money...Plus my MOH made chocolate lollipops to go with the favors...My mom did not feel it was the responsiblity of the BP to pay

sarahthegreat Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:35 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:35 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

these days, the rules do not apply. in my cars, the mob and mog are splitting the costs. my mom pays for her guests and fmil pays for hers. bp will get a gift and split costs on invites and such.

also when we planned my sisters shower, i asked for $$ from mob abd mog, who were more then happy to chip in.

JCam695 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:19 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:19 PM

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I know for mine, my mom and all of my BMs chipped in.

For other when I've been a BM, we all split and sometime the mom helped.

suzybilly819 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:24 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:24 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

I think it depends on the situation. In my family, the Mother of the Bride has hosted the shower. My aunt, who was the mother of the groom paid for the shower, I think it all depends on the financial situation of the parties. MOH and BP may not be able to afford to host a shower. On top of buying a dress, bach party, etc...

serendipity0680 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:32 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:32 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

Traditionally the entire BP splits the cost of the shower.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:35 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 01:35 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

Posted by diggity10

Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

my mom feels the same way...

Mine too...but my BM's will probably help out in little ways like giving their input on how things should go that day and stuff. I think it really depends on everyone's situation.

franksgirl323 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 02:12 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 02:12 PM

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I wish my family would follow some sort of tradition or etiquette. I'm gonna make my mother read these boards.

She always complains she has no money to help in ANYTHING. We are paying for the entire wedding and she's complaining about being asked to contribute to the shower costs...right now it looks like the burden is on my MOH and BP. I feel so horrible about that. I think my mom should help.

JPCP4806 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 02:32 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 02:32 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

My MOH is splitting it with the BP but I know she is putting in more and doing more- Also my mom is getting the cake and putting in money too- FSIL is doing favors ( shes not in BP b/c shes due in 1 month) plus my MOH is getting us gifts too! I think it al depends on how much everyone can give towards the BS.