dance alternative

I wonder if anybody would have a suggestion for an alternative to having the father-daughter and mother-groom dances at the reception. Although our parents will be present at the wedding, for personal reasons, we decided we would prefer not to have them (the dances). I'm not sure if anyone will have any suggestions about this, since it's kind of an unusual situation...but, let me know if you do have any thoughts.

Good luck! : )

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very simple - just don't do it!

its not that bizarre - sure, there are 'traditions' and general guidelines, but the bottom line is that your wedding should be about you - not what the 'other' people have done.

my cousin was married this past october and, like you, opted to pass on the parent dances for personal reasons. in fact, she passed on alot of traditions - being announced into the hall, the cake cutting song, tossing the bouquet...and no one said a word. The wedding was very, VERY enjoyable!

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How about a video with a montage of photos of you and your future hubby with your parents growing up, set to music that describes the way that you feel about them. I am sure that the video guy can set it up and then you can even have it added to your wedding video

Jamelle

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I agree with Karen, just don't do it. I personally don't think you should HAVE to do anything you don't want to at your wedding, just because it's tradition. ;-)

Jamelle

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Here here!!! I agree. I'm not doing any of those 'tradition' things. I always HATED going to weddings and the single girls had to get up and catch (or kill for) the bouquet. How humiliating is that. I would always refuse and the married friends would give me such a hard time. I don't want to put anyone else through the embarassment!! Don't do anything you don't want to do. No one will even notice let alone care.

Thanks!

Jamelle

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We are not doing the dances at my wedding, also for personal reasons. I don't think people will notice.

If you don't want to go all out to thank your parents, just mention them in a speech that you and your new husband give. That's what we are doing.

There are so many etiquette rules, I hate it. I'm just doing what I want, even though I hear it from my family members. Since my fiance and I are paying for the entire thing, they have no say. That's my opinion.