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Friday night wedding at Oheka

nferrandi Posted: Jun 23, 2005 11:34 AM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 11:34 AM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by wc0143
Especially since the groom was 'It's all bride's idea' and I'm guessing everyone made her feel bad enough that she caved ...

That was the exact attitude for BILs wedding, but his wife didn't cave.

Not only did people complain beforehand, but they complained throughout the wedding too. The whole tux thing was just so unnecessary.

PrincessConsuela Posted: Jun 23, 2005 11:38 AM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 11:38 AM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

im going to a black tie optional wedding in july and i am wearing tea lenght black dress and my fh is wearing his black suit and he wants to get a 'black tie' he is so funny.

tourist Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:13 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:13 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Can I be your body double? I have a long dress, that I wore ocne to a wedding & was probabaly over dressed. I am waiting for an oportunity to wear it again, although I think it is a little small. Still too big for you though, I think.

I think you should take Beth to marshalls as our personal shopper! She seems to have a knack for these things!

I would say tea length or or longer for black tie, but the 'optional' okays a shorter dress.

Being petite myself, I find that if I get a coctail dress in the misses ( not petites) department, it is automatically tea-length!

usuk2004 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:20 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:20 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by wc0143
One of the complainers was like 'They don't make tuxes in my size'

Oh, that GG!!

palebride Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:21 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:21 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by usuk2004

Posted by wc0143
One of the complainers was like 'They don't make tuxes in my size'

Oh, that GG!!

wc0143 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:37 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 01:37 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by usuk2004

Posted by wc0143
One of the complainers was like 'They don't make tuxes in my size'

Oh, that GG!!

It wasn't DH!!! He has a tux from a black tie wedding we went to years ago!! It was a close relation though ...

Soon2BeMrsS Posted: Jun 23, 2005 06:53 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 06:53 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

instead of blurfly you should check Centry 21 or Filens

wc0143 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 07:13 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 07:13 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by Soon2BeMrs.S

instead of blurfly you should check Centry 21 or Filens

I know! But I'm such an internet shopper (forever ordering & returning things!

). I may go on a live hunt tomorrow though

btrflygrl Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:23 PM+

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Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:23 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

as long as the short dress is cocktail in nature (ie: fancy schmancy)

My best friend went to a Sat night at Oheka and she went to Paradise Bridal and bought a full length gown

SeptWed Posted: Jun 24, 2005 10:45 AM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2005 10:45 AM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by nferrandi

I just went to a black tie wedding last weekend where all of the men were in tuxes and I was actually very suprised to see most of the women in short dresses. Short is definitely fine.
And honestly, I may be in the minority here, but I don't think it's so bad for people to gripe a little about an added $150 expense/inconvenience.
I think black tie optional is fine, but I am one of those people that thinks black tie is just kind of rude. And I can point you to 100 wedding guests that agree.

I have to agree with you on this one. To me its like putting on an invitation that woman have to wear red dresses only. I don't think its fair to ask your guests to spend more money on what they are wearing. JMO of course.

dkwife Posted: Jun 24, 2005 12:08 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2005 12:08 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Posted by usuk2004

I've worn a cocktail dress when DH has on a tux before. I think it's okay.

Same here.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jun 24, 2005 01:25 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2005 01:25 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

Location of the wedding shouldnt matter. I know Oheka is fancy but it really doesnt matter. Black tie optional is just that. You can wear a gown or a cocktail dress as long as it isnt hoochie.

luckybride2004 Posted: Jun 24, 2005 01:46 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2005 01:46 PM

Re: Friday night wedding at Oheka

My wedding was black tie optional (Saturday night). Most (if not all) the men wore tuxedos. Most of the women wore floor length gowns but there were a few cocktail dresses. To be perfectly honest, that night I am not sure that I was actually aware of what one person wore, other than my wonderful DH and my bridal party. It wasn't until I saw my pics and video did I actually get to see that there actually were people at my wedding! The whole day was such a blur!
I think as long as the dress is nice, you can get away with it. I always use to wear gowns but I have been leaning towards mid-length recently.