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cindyandkevin Posted: Jul 13, 2006 01:42 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 01:42 PM

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Oh no!!!!

I'm so sorry for you and your brother, I feel so bad!!!!!

stephanief Posted: Jul 13, 2006 01:51 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 01:51 PM

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what a b!tch...I am sorry for your brother.....

Happybride2005 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:06 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:06 PM

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i'm osrry

GsCM4EVA Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:11 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:11 PM

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thanks girls

my bro just called me-told me that if i wanted her in it still that i could...

what would u do??

i feel too weird-and i think it would be tooooo awkward

BEANS Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:12 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:12 PM

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Posted by JeanineHubert

thanks girls

my bro just called me-told me that if i wanted her in it still that i could...

what would u do??

i feel too weird-and i think it would be tooooo awkward

It is your call, IMO it would be way too awkward for me to keep her in it. I think it would make everyone uncomfortable.

Sept06bride Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:13 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:13 PM

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so sorry to hear that

ali120206 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:13 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:13 PM

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Posted by JeanineHubert

thanks girls

my bro just called me-told me that if i wanted her in it still that i could...

what would u do??

i feel too weird-and i think it would be tooooo awkward

If there was no wedding involved and this situation happened, would you still be friends with her? If yes, then keep her in.

ETA: If it was me, I'd be so mad at her that I wouldn't want her there and in my pictures.

JessicaM. Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:14 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:14 PM

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Posted by JeanineHubert

thanks girls

my bro just called me-told me that if i wanted her in it still that i could...

what would u do??

i feel too weird-and i think it would be tooooo awkward

it's simple Hubert...she cheated on your bro, and right now he is grieving, and right now SHE DOESN'T DESERVE THE HONOR. even if she makes amends, right now, no, she needs to prove herself.

eta: weddings are about love, family, LOYALTY, and FIDELITY....concepts she either does not understand or does not respect...

GsCM4EVA Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:16 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:16 PM

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Posted by ali120206

Posted by JeanineHubert

thanks girls

my bro just called me-told me that if i wanted her in it still that i could...

what would u do??

i feel too weird-and i think it would be tooooo awkward

If there was no wedding involved and this situation happened, would you still be friends with her? If yes, then keep her in.

ETA: If it was me, I'd be so mad at her that I wouldn't want her there and in my pictures.

I met her when they started to go out-we always go out together-double date n what not...
i think it might be too awkward u know???

unless they get back before...

JazzyT Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:18 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:18 PM

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So Sorry

ali120206 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:22 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:22 PM

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I met her when they started to go out-we always go out together-double date n what not...
i think it might be too awkward u know???

unless they get back before...

It does seem a little awkward. Especially since your wedding is about a month away, even if they do get back together, it might only be temporary.

My friend had this issue. Her brother and his girlfriend were together awhile, broke up, got back together, she asked him if it was serious, he said yes, she was in the BP and a month later they broke up for good and now she's in her wedding pics and it upsets my friend.

mka06 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:25 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:25 PM

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JMO - I don't think you should have her. I was in my ex's brother's wedding as a BM. We were together at the time, but we subsequently broke up and are now married to other people. I'm sure they wish I wasn't in it at this point... I am in all the pics and when they look back 20 years after they got married, even though we were close at the time, I will be the 'brother's ex' they haven't seen in pretty much that many years bc of the situation.

On top of that, I agree with what the other girls said about her not deserving the honor!

Sorry to hear this happened to you (and your bro). Good luck!

ewickens Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:38 PM

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I'm sorry!!!!!!

For both you and your brother.

idovig Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:52 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 02:52 PM

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Posted by CaseyVM214

OMG!!! Im so sorry for you and your brother...he must of been upset...why do people do things like that

I'm with you I never understand.

MrsH1156 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 03:19 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 03:19 PM

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I think it would be too awkward. Being in a BP is an honor and she lost that honor when she cheated on your brother. I would not include her but ultimately, you need to do what feels right in your heart. Again, I'm so sorry he has to go through this.

patticakes Posted: Jul 13, 2006 03:24 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 03:24 PM

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My very best to your brother, that's a terrible thing to find out.

hmpena Posted: Jul 13, 2006 05:35 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 05:35 PM

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So sorry to hear this sweetie.

I personally don't think she deserves the honor of being in your wedding. Like Jessica said, your wedding day is about love and loyalty- something she seems to not know about.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jul 13, 2006 05:47 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 05:47 PM

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I'm so sorry this happened to your brother, thats awful.

kittythestray Posted: Jul 13, 2006 06:51 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 06:51 PM

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That stinks. I'm sure that you didn't need that on top of the FSIL stuff!

DanaMZ Posted: Jul 13, 2006 08:04 PM+

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Posted: Jul 13, 2006 08:04 PM

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awww - Sorry to hear that! That is so not right. I know you don't want to be short a girl, but I personally would not have her - she does not deserve it and I think it might be hard for your brother.