Inviting sorority sisters???

Quick question...I was in a sorority but since leaving college, I feel so far removed from most if not all of them. I don't even think I plan to invite my pledge sisters (the girls you are supposed to be closest to). Am I wrong in doing this? I was invited to one of my pledge sisters wedding...but without a guest! I was with Steve for over 4 years already! I am still a little bitter about this and ended up not even going to her wedding.

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I'm not a sorority girl (really? shocking!), but I can say if you don't feel close to somebody, you shouldn't invite them and spend your time, effort, and money on them. Either save the expense, or give that spot to someone that you would actually care if they weren't there. Don't feel obligated into having them there because you're 'supposed' to be close to them as a general rule.

Especially if you've been dissed in the past at one of their weddings.

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Posted by coldasice217

I'm not a sorority girl (really? shocking!), but I can say if you don't feel close to somebody, you shouldn't invite them and spend your time, effort, and money on them. Either save the expense, or give that spot to someone that you would actually care if they weren't there. Don't feel obligated into having them there because you're 'supposed' to be close to them as a general rule.

Especially if you've been dissed in the past at one of their weddings.

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Coudn't agree more.

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Thanks! I feel the same way, just wanted to make sure.
Guess I will just have a few more people thinking I am a b*tch. Nothing new. lol

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I sort of have the same issue... I lost touch with pretty much all of my sisters but when making my list I just thought of the memories and the old times and put those who I couln't imagine celebrating one of the most important days of my life with on my list... I guess it just depends. If you won't miss them not being there then dont worry about it

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I am def. inviting all my pledge sisters. Even one of them who lives in LA and I havent spoken to in forever. One of m y sisters is my BM, and I have about 4 others that I still keep on touch with. The only ones coming with a date are those that are married. Every now and then they will crack a joke about not getting a plus one, but they look at the bright side 'mini reunion ~ like a formal' .

If I were invited to one of their weddings without a plus one (even if I were married) I wouldnt care b.c I would have lots of fun with my girls. Even the ones I havent seen since graduation.

But I guess it depends how long ago you graduated. I graduated 4.5 years ago, but thanks to facebook and myspace we have been able to keep in touch.

If you genuinely dont like them, then dont invite them. I dont understand why you would feel so bitter to the point of not goinig to your pledge sisters wedding simply b.c your man wasnt invited. They prob. couldnt afford the extra person.

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I never said I do not like them, just out of touch with them. As for being bitter, I have my reasons that I don't need to share. I just had a question, thanks for answering.

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Didnt mean to imply that you do not like them. You are free to invite whoever you wish, if you are out of touch with them then you are under no obligation. I have family who I am out of touch with that I refuse to invite (now thats drama).

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Posted by MrsLarrea2B

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I never said I do not like them, just out of touch with them. As for being bitter, I have my reasons that I don't need to share. I just had a question, thanks for answering.

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Didnt mean to imply that you do not like them. You are free to invite whoever you wish, if you are out of touch with them then you are under no obligation. I have family who I am out of touch with that I refuse to invite (now thats drama).

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Yea, I have to admit, the family situation is def more drama. Yuck! Sorry you have to deal with that.

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Didnt mean to imply that you do not like them. You are free to invite whoever you wish, if you are out of touch with them then you are under no obligation. I have family who I am out of touch with that I refuse to invite (now thats drama).

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Yea, I have to admit, the family situation is def more drama. Yuck! Sorry you have to deal with that.

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Especially when all of a sudden there are a bunch of my cousins from the mother land w. their stupid 'student visas' who's parents used to change my diapers when I was like 5 months old..... but i HAVE to invite them b.c they are 'family'....I dont even know their names!!!!

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i actually have my 4 pledge sisters as bridesmaids my big and little also........... i am extremely close with them. See them as much as possible. I am inviting certain girls that i am very close with outside of those few in the bridal party. A lot of girls i was friends with during college are angered that they arent going to be invited, but thats the way the cookie crumbles u know?

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I am inviting a bunch of mine, but I have gone away with 7 of them at least once or twice a year for the 6 years I have been out from school , so its different. We are close. One of them is my BM.

I stopped talking to my big in college and I am not inviting either of my littles and was not invited to theirs. As for my pledge class, I have two other friends whose weddings I went to in 2006/07 that I will invite, but a sister whose wedding I went to in 2004 that I have barely seen since who is currently on my B-List. I talk to a lot of my other sisters on Facebook and we send Christmas cards, but my rule is, if they are a Facebook (Christmas Card) only friend they should not be invited. Because if Facebook didn't exist I would most likely not talk to them at all. I love Facebook because it helps keep in touch, but my real friends I keep in touch with through at least private e-mail, if not letters and phone calls.

I think if your not close to them anymore you don't have to invite them. Also don't feel bad if you want to invite some and not others. They shouldn't think of you as a *****.

But I am over 6 years out now, so I think it also depends on the amount of time.

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ive never been a sister but i say if u r not close with them and havent spoken to them then dont invite..jmo

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Posted by smrsun

Quick question...I was in a sorority but since leaving college, I feel so far removed from most if not all of them. I don't even think I plan to invite my pledge sisters (the girls you are supposed to be closest to). Am I wrong in doing this? I was invited to one of my pledge sisters wedding...but without a guest! I was with Steve for over 4 years already! I am still a little bitter about this and ended up not even going to her wedding.

I just love PMSing..it makes you think about random things!

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I don't know how the whole sorority thing works, but as for a wedding, I would think you would want the people you are closest to there. If you aren't close to these girls anymore, I wouldn't invite them..jmo.

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I'm only inviting one of my sisters, but she was a close friend before I even pledged. We're having a small wedding and I don't keep in close enough touch with the girls to invite them. I'm sure they were expecting invites, but oh well. I was invited to my bigs wedding, but I haven't spoken to her since and that was 4 years ago almost. I was in one girls wedding, at the time I wasn't even sure why she asked me, we were close in school, but lost touch after. We were always polar opposites and FH can't stand her, plus we've lost touch again, so I'm not inviting her, I know for a fact she is pissed, but again...o well...

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Invite your friends. If you are not friends with your sisters, then do not invite them.

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I am not inviting any sorority sisters. I graduated from college almost 9 years ago and I haven't spoken to a lot of them since then. With the ones I do keep up with, we are not really very close and my wedding is also small so I am not inviting people I meet for brunch once a year. I was also NOT invited to any of their weddings (except for one in which I was invited as a C-lister, because the invite was postmarked AFTER the RSVP date!) so I didn't really feel the need to invite them to mine.

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I am having 2 of my pledge sisters as bridesmaids and another sister as another bridesmaid. Other than that I'm not inviting anyone from my sorority because I'm not close with the rest of them anymore. I would just invite people who you are closest to regardless if they are a sister or not.

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i am inviting my pledge sisters not bc they are my pledge sisters but bc they are my good friends... dont invite if they are not your friends

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i am only inviting my line sister and two other sorority sisters..if you feel like the relationships are distant than do not feel obligated to invite them....