Re: My advice regarding a large bridal party

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Posted by Johnny&Maur

Hi,

I just wanted to share my experience in case anyone is hesitant about having a lot of bridesmaids. I know many have large parties and are very happy and the girls have been great...which I think is how it should be.

However..in my situation I asked everyone pretty early, out of sheer excitement for the big day and having them be a part of it. Now i realize..I should have stuck to family (5 girls). I have a total of 9 and for the most part, my friends have not been so great. Its saddened me so much actually. Aside from my MOH, they have made remarks such as being soooo broke (after telling them for 3 months i need to order dresses, and the dress is only $140). I've had one ask me to cover the cost until she can get more money (she makes twice the salary I do).

What upsets me the most is that two of these friends were married and I was a bridesmaid for them..I ran all over and never complained. I was happy for them. I know they have 'moved on' and maybe being a bridesmaid is more of a pain to them than anything, but it has caused me a lot of grief and upset.

So in saying that....if anyone has doubts, just think for a little bit before asking everyone. I wish I could go back and change things. But overall wedding planning has been great and I'm still so thrilled for the big day. Happy planning to all!!!

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wow im so sorry you have to deal with that..its supposed to be a happy time and they are making you feel like its a burden to be in your wedding..i actually was hesitant to ask my girls because i didnt want to burden them financially but they were like you have to be kidding me..i guess i lucked out..they are all great..i have 8 girls..i mean if you ask them and they say yes..they should know what comes with it!its your wedding..they should be excited for you and the fact that they are in it..i would be honored!!