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My advice to you girls here....

Nic and Ant Posted: Mar 19, 2006 08:09 PM+

Nic and Ant MEMBER SINCE: 12/05 TOTAL POSTS : 834 WEDDING DATE: May 27, 2007

Posted: Mar 19, 2006 08:09 PM

Re: My advice to you girls here....

BRAVO!!! Words of wisdom.

Kris516 Posted: Mar 19, 2006 11:45 PM+

Kris516 MEMBER SINCE: 1/05 TOTAL POSTS : 3798 WEDDING DATE: Jun 23, 2006

Posted: Mar 19, 2006 11:45 PM

Re: My advice to you girls here....

Posted by BKtoLI

As I sit here a month before the wedding, there are so many things I learned along the way that I want to pass on to you ladies.....

1. Never ever lose sight of the big picture. I did that so many times, and now I'm at the point where it doesn't really matter. I will not be any less married that day if I don't have a slipper basket, if the CPs are high or low, if there are no favors, if someone doesn't show up. It's all about celebrating the union of me and my FH. Nothing else. Remember this: the reception is just a big party, nothing more, nothing less!!!

2. Shyt happens, be prepared. Yes family members, FILs and friends can drive you crazy, trust me I know. You get a group of people together and there is no guarantee everyone will get along. The best you can do is put on your poker face and deal. Life goes on.

3. Don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short. My mother tells me her dress is maroon and yet my BM dresses are bordeaux. Basically almost the same color. Do I care? No. Because right now I would rather have my sick mother be happy than worry about how the colors are similar.

4. You don't know your true friends and family until you have a life changing event. Most of you know this already. You will be surprised at who is jealous, who treats you like crap, and who will come through for you in the end. Bridesmaids will drop out, even best men will drop out, family will threaten not to come. Yes, it happens, and you will be shocked.

5. I can't stress this one enough - DO NOT RUSH INTO BUYING THINGS OR TRYING TO BOOK ALL YOUR VENDORS RIGHT AWAY!!! Do your research and make a judgment that is right for YOU. Do not get something or book something just because everyone else is. Go by your own schedule. I felt pressured in the beginning because people getting married after me had everything booked already. But I still found great vendors anyway working on our own schedule. We even took a month long break in the beginning because we just wanted to enjoy being engaged before driving ourselves nuts looking at vendors. It made a world of difference!
I also say this because of rushing into buying things, I now have 3 tiaras, 3 veils, 2 pairs of shoes, 2 different types of favor boxes, you get the idea. Remember, more styles, favors, dresses, and stuff will come out between now and the end of the year. If you rush to get something now, you may miss out on something you fall in love with that comes out later on. Plus losing deposits is not a fun thing to deal with!!!

6. Trust your instincts. They exist for a reason. Whether it comes down to whether or not you should be marrying your FH, or doubting your florist, if you are having second thoughts, it's for a reason. Many brides bought 2nd dresses, changed halls 10 days before the wedding, you name it. If you feel you are not getting the attention you deserve, or if you feel something is wrong, say so and waste no time in doing so. There is nothing worse than accepting something less than what you want. Brides spend way too much money to be treated like crap.

7. Remember this is your FH's wedding also. You are not marrying yourself. Yes the bride should be happy, but so should the groom. If he makes a request, listen to him. For some of the guys, they've been thinking about this day almost as long as we have!!!

8. You will change your mind a million times on almost everything and will second guess half of your decisions. Especially on the small stuff. Trust me.

That's all I can offer for now. I'm sure after the wedding I can add more!!