Re: Need advice! What do I say to a friend who . . .

7 years before we got engaged. I packed a suitcase and put it in the hall. He questioned me, I told him I couldn't stay. He proposed 2 months later. Some men do need a kick in the butt.

Re: Need advice! What do I say to a friend who . . .

Sometimes, there's ANOTHER reason a guy won't propose, and I know this firsthand.

Just before last Valentine's Day (2004), FH and I were talking about getting engaged. He said that it would be a long time before he saved up enough for what he felt is the 'perfect ring' - I told him that the ring isn't everything, and the topic was dropped.

Several months later, in November, 3 of my friends got engaged to men they had been dating for about a year - Fh and I had been together for 4.5 years at that point. I was a little upset, and shed a couple tears (ALONE, in a bathroom, and he never saw them) because I knew that what we had seemed to be SO MUCH MORE than what my friends had w/ their now FHs, and I was frustrated.

Somehow, on that November day, FH knew that I was upset over the whole thing. He brought up the topic of engagement, and again, said that he couldn't afford a ring at the time. We talked for about an hour, and I FINALLY got him to understand that it's NOT THE RING! I just want to know that he loves me, and that he wants to marry me.

WELL..... he proposed 2 days later, with no ring.

It's almost 5 months later, and there's still no ring, but I have my man, and he's my FH, not just my 'boyfriend', and I'm so happy.

Maybe there's a financial issue that your friend isn't aware of? My FH says all the time that he wants to buy me something that I'll love forever - something that I'll never upgrade, so it's taking a little longer to get the funds together. Maybe her FH is like mine!

Re: Need advice! What do I say to a friend who . . .

Here's from a guys point of view....Tell her not to push the issue. Guys don't like to be put in a spot, and pressured. I'm sure her time is going to come. She'll just have to wait it out.

Bri never once pressed the issue about getting engaged. When I felt the time was right, I proposed. She had no clue.