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NWR: My momma's boy FI does it again!

nov04LIbride Posted: Mar 08, 2006 11:44 AM+

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Posted: Mar 08, 2006 11:44 AM

Re: NWR: My momma's boy FI does it again!

Posted by werock0709

Cross that bridge when you get to it.No need to stress over it now. It's a difference that doesn't pertain to you now. He may change his opinion anyway.

I agree. It looks like you were looking to pick a fight, and why fight about hypotheticals? If you are looking to fight, do it over real issues, not future possible issues. Are you really, really happy with him? Do you think this relationship can withstand your issues with his mother relationship? Because this seems like a problem that comes up every month. And you can't change him, you can only change how you react to him and this situation. If he does not change (and he realistically won't), will you be OK with living with his mother coming first?

ZuzusPetals Posted: Mar 08, 2006 11:56 AM+

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Posted: Mar 08, 2006 11:56 AM

Re: NWR: My momma's boy FI does it again!

Posted by ginaandtommy06

I feel really bad for you. A lot of guys can't get over the intense relationships they had/have with their mother.

I agree. The truth is he's being honest and I doubt he will change once you get married. My brother is the biggest momma's boy and my sister in law has been struggling with it for 10+ years - its very difficult. She said if she knew then what she knew now she wouldnt have married him because her rarely takes his side. I would have a heart to heart with him. It is a serious issue and he needs to see that.

best of luck

LisaJill Posted: Mar 08, 2006 12:11 PM+

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Posted: Mar 08, 2006 12:11 PM

Re: NWR: My momma's boy FI does it again!

Posted by ZuzusPetals

Posted by ginaandtommy06

I feel really bad for you. A lot of guys can't get over the intense relationships they had/have with their mother.

I agree. The truth is he's being honest and I doubt he will change once you get married. My brother is the biggest momma's boy and my sister in law has been struggling with it for 10+ years - its very difficult. She said if she knew then what she knew now she wouldnt have married him because her rarely takes his side. I would have a heart to heart with him. It is a serious issue and he needs to see that.

best of luck

Yeah, this is a problem i will always have. I have always said that i wish I could not love him so much because i may never be first to him. It is so hard that he cannot even just muster up the statement 'honey your interests would always be first for me.' Honestly at this point if I am ever put in this position for real, I will have to tell her directly my opinion. all that he is going to do by copping out and being political is put me in the position of standing up for myself and embarassing her. Ugh. We slept in seperate rooms last night. He is so impossible, once there is any sort of conflict he just tunes me out and ignores me. Oh well, i will have to ride this one out.

bride2b24 Posted: Mar 08, 2006 12:20 PM+

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Posted: Mar 08, 2006 12:20 PM

Re: NWR: My momma's boy FI does it again!

thats def a scary feeling......and im sure she will demand some things that you dont agree with in the future.....the bottom line is you have to tell FH that if the tables were turned you would back him no matter what....and he should do the same for you....good luck!