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ok- here is another can of worms. to take photos together w/groom b4 the ceremony or not. I am catholic. AS far as I remember you don't do this. You take pics together after u r married. No seeing the groom until you are walking down the aisle. ROb is Jewish. For the most part, a Jewish couple WILL take pics together prior to the ceremony. BOth of his sis did, as did other we know.

I always thought I would want to wait until after the ceremony but I am worried. We have a pretty tight schedule. Ceremony 12-1230, C hour 1230-130, reception 130-530. No runnin over since there are weddings after us. What we did to alliavate the crunch is I and the girls will be at FH at 9am. I will get dressed there. One photog & crew will be there at 9 to shoot me, the girls, and the moms,aunts,etc. Another crew comes around 930-10 to shoot the guys, rob & his parents, etc.Wedding at 12 noon with the 2 crews, quick recieving line and then we shoot our formals while the CH is going on. 2 crews is supposed to make this go quickly, so we don't run over our hour. ***** What are you guys doing, or to those who are married now, what did you do and what was the result????

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I have the same deal in two weeks, but my ceremony is at 10:30! I don't know what we were thinking when we booked but oh well!! We aren't going to see each other, The photographer is coming to my house at 8:00am.-9:00am. Then he goes to the church to shoot my fiance. We do the ceremony, receiving line with an hour for pics to hopefully see some of the CH at 12:30. Then we are doing pictures at the hall on the beach between salad and intermezzo etc. It sounds good on paper let's hope it works!! Oh if you need better Tri-County directions let me know!! When is your wedding??

This is the place that I need directions to. Sorry ! and thanks!

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Yes...cuz I remember tri county on my left and the church on the right.

our date is 7.2....93 days! The photog told me not to worry...that a lot of the Religious/Orthodox jews do NOT take pics b4 either. He is well known in that community...so he is used to getting the Right shot in a short time..and not ruffling feathers. He thinks with the 2 cres will will be more than fine...and actually may peek in during the C hour. I hope cua from what I hear and from the menus the C hour at Fox H is Amazing! that may be the only time we actually get to eat something!

Gina :)

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Phyl, it sounds like you've made up your mind about not wanting to take pictures before the ceremony...don't let a photographer or anyone make you change your mind!!! Whether it's some age-old tradition or not, do what you want...pictures are only secondary on your wedding day. In other words, the day isn't about taking pictures, it *IS* about having your wedding the way you want it (even if it includes not seeing your man before you walk down the aisle).

TNX- spazzing out today

thanks Glory. I KNOW you are right...but it just hit me all of a sudden....after viewing the reply from the post on how they rate diff sites. the suggestions from them was in the case of FH, ir may be a bit better to get as many pics taken b4 the ceremony as poss.

I think I will use lollipops too- to bribe the kids to stick around. Now, what to do for the adults? I **KNOW**that they will want to go the the CH. too bad, they will wait the 15 min to take pics with us then go eat. ( Sorry- I know that this sounds selfish- but I really mean it tongue in cheek!!) we will have our own attendant providing us with drinks adn snacks. maybe this will also help to lure the few guests to stick around for pics.

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It will all work out that is their job! Good luck in 93 days, I am down to 15!! AAAGGGHHH!Can't wait for the honeymoon though!

I think I will use lollipops too- to bribe the kids to stick around. Now, what to do for the adults? I **KNOW**that they will want to go the the CH. too bad, they will wait the 15 min to take pics with us then go eat. ( Sorry- I know that this sounds selfish- but I really mean it tongue in cheek!!) we will have our own attendant providing us with drinks adn snacks. maybe this will also help to lure the few guests to stick around for pics.

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Hi Phyl I want to do the same as you. Not take pics with my fi till after the ceremony. I mean I spent all this time not telling him about my dress and I want his first time to see it to be at the ceremony. I know a lot of photographers try to push you into taking pics beforehand. What I am going to try to do s make a schedule for the photographer basically listing the pics she can take and in the order she can take it. I will take my pics with the bridal party before and my fi can too. And I will take my pics with parents and all. Any combination just not with him!!! :) And then during the cocktail hour I will take pics with him and the bridal party can come out when we take the group pic. I hope this works out :)

It's $80 pp April through October, $70 otherwise for a 5 hour Sat night affair. (It's +$7 pp for an additional hour.) Includes cocktail hour, cake and dessert, vallet parking, bridal suite, etc. There's also a 17% gratuity and a $300-500 maitre 'd tip in the contract, which is normal from what I hear from other brides & grooms on this board.

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HI Heather- Yup , I was thinking of doing the same thing. All my pics with the girls, pics w/ the MOH, etc. Maybe a pic with my Godmother, altho she says she won't be in LI until that morning.(from virginia). My parents are deceased so no pics there, maybe 1 or 2 w/ my bro.and 1 or 2 w/ the flowergirls. But that is it. Same type of shots for ROb..but his parents are alive,so His sked is actually a bit fuller. Then the ceremony, quick quick recieving line, then our pics. I think that we should take the pics w/ the bridal party first, then release them to the cocktail hour- just for time's sake. what do u think?

It's $80 pp April through October, $70 otherwise for a 5 hour Sat night affair. (It's +$7 pp for an additional hour.) Includes cocktail hour, cake and dessert, vallet parking, bridal suite, etc. There's also a 17% gratuity and a $300-500 maitre 'd tip in the contract, which is normal from what I hear from other brides & grooms on this board.

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I think that sounds great. Hey I have a question for you. My father is disabled with Multiple Sclerosis and really cant talk too much (like make a speech). What are you doing when it comes time for your fi's mother/son dance? I am really not looking forward to it cause I dont know what to do and I really dont want to make a speech. Just curious cause his mother is VERY into this mother /son dance. Also when is your wedding and are you making a written schedule for your photographer? Heather

It's $80 pp April through October, $70 otherwise for a 5 hour Sat night affair. (It's +$7 pp for an additional hour.) Includes cocktail hour, cake and dessert, vallet parking, bridal suite, etc. There's also a 17% gratuity and a $300-500 maitre 'd tip in the contract, which is normal from what I hear from other brides & grooms on this board.

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Hi- 7/2/00....so it is 13 weeks away from yesterday.

Did not make up my photog schedule yet as I have many other duties going on now and deadlines here at work. We still are working on our honeymoon! and we are buying our first home.

As far as what I will do during his dance w/ mom, nothing. Did not know that I had to do anything. Usually the DJ will announce the bridal party, one couple at a time, his parents, my bro, then us. At that point,we all dance. Then is my dance w/ rob, then his dance w/ his mom,then mine with whomever. (Not really sure if my bro is coming or not. He didn't show up for his tux fitting on Sat- so that is a good indicator of things to come, I suppose. that really really sux)

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Yeah that is what I meant sorta. So you would be dancing with your brother. I am an only child. Maybe they can just have a song and I will sit with my father. I dont know. I hope everything works out with your brother though. He should definitely be there and be there for you! I am getting married Sept 17! When you start working on your photographer schedule E mail me and maybe we can work out a perfect schedule together! Good Luck!

Did not make up my photog schedule yet as I have many other duties going on now and deadlines here at work. We still are working on our honeymoon! and we are buying our first home.

As far as what I will do during his dance w/ mom, nothing. Did not know that I had to do anything. Usually the DJ will announce the bridal party, one couple at a time, his parents, my bro, then us. At that point,we all dance. Then is my dance w/ rob, then his dance w/ his mom,then mine with whomever. (Not really sure if my bro is coming or not. He didn't show up for his tux fitting on Sat- so that is a good indicator of things to come, I suppose. that really really sux)

tnx 4 the support

ALtho I may seem non-chalant about bro, it still stings. Better to plan for the worse than be caught unaware, so I asked an uncle to walk me down along w/ my bro. Then, my godmother decides a year later that the timing to get her son's tux wont work. I think it is a cost problem,but she won't come out and say that to me. Oh well, you had a year to work out an $80 expense. maybe their expenses have changed in that year, who knows. so, I just must be gallant about it,right?

yes, yes- let's work on the photg sked together. maybe in 2 weeks? going for flowergirls dresses on sat and working on choosing honeymmon site fri,sat,sun. or else we will be stuck! Where are you guys going?

As far as what I will do during his dance w/ mom, nothing. Did not know that I had to do anything. Usually the DJ will announce the bridal party, one couple at a time, his parents, my bro, then us. At that point,we all dance. Then is my dance w/ rob, then his dance w/ his mom,then mine with whomever. (Not really sure if my bro is coming or not. He didn't show up for his tux fitting on Sat- so that is a good indicator of things to come, I suppose. that really really sux)

tnx 4 the support

We scheduled our honeymoon through liberty travel and are going to Maui Kuaui and a stopover (sorta) in Las Vegas. I cant wait! I know how it is, you have a small enough family as it is and the few that you have cant make an effort to do the right thing. I am going through the same thing. Everything happens for a reason and everything will work out. The most important thing is that you are getting married and that is what the whole day is about. The reception is just a way to celebrate but as long as you and your fi are together that is what matters most :) Ok two weeks we will talk scheduling the photographers :)

yes, yes- let's work on the photg sked together. maybe in 2 weeks? going for flowergirls dresses on sat and working on choosing honeymmon site fri,sat,sun. or else we will be stuck! Where are you guys going?

As far as what I will do during his dance w/ mom, nothing. Did not know that I had to do anything. Usually the DJ will announce the bridal party, one couple at a time, his parents, my bro, then us. At that point,we all dance. Then is my dance w/ rob, then his dance w/ his mom,then mine with whomever. (Not really sure if my bro is coming or not. He didn't show up for his tux fitting on Sat- so that is a good indicator of things to come, I suppose. that really really sux)

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Hi Phyl: I too am catholic and my husband is Jewish. I opted to hold to my tradition on this one and wait till after the ceremony for photo's. Our service however was with a priest and rabbi. We stood under the hoopa (spelling?), had an old and new testament readings, and gospel. The ring ceremony was in both Hebrew and English and of course it was finished with the breaking of the glass....one of my Baily's Irish Cream glasses to boot!! The rabbi, though I was appauled at his fee,did a really beautiful job of explaining things as he went along. People said it was one of the most beautiful services they had seen. This is a bit long...sorry.Hope it helps. I've been married 10 years in Nov.! Good Luck, B

Thanks for sharing this information. I really like them and I might order my favors soon.

Sandy

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Thanks Brigid, I sent you email directly. Just getting a bit frazzled now...imagine on the wedding day????

I agree with Candi. Get the opinion of another seamstress and if anything can be done, have them do it and not the Wedding Center.

I am so sorry, but don't worry, it seems like you still have time to fix it and everything will be fine.

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I m having a rabbi and a priest. Their price is steep too but I have heard great things about them, and when you think about it the ceremony is your marriage and is REAL important. so I say if you can, put the money into great officiants :) I skimped on the flowers.. LOL

We could all use a little stress relief these days.

I am so sorry, but don't worry, it seems like you still have time to fix it and everything will be fine.

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I agree with Heather. I am skimping on flowers too especailly since my ceremony is outdoors- I won't need any there. I made my own centerpieces- I purchased glass hurricanes with white candles and I am working on attaching flower rings to them. Another savings!!

The ceremony - 1/2 hour is costing me about $900 all told,including student musicians but that is the most important part of the day. Yikes! it is a good thing I can pinch pennies elswhere- Like my dress that cost me about $400!

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Phyl You and I think alike :) Well my officiants are costing $900 together and then there is a $500 ceremony room fee at my place. But I fgot a good deal on my dress to and on the flowers.. As long as my flowers are alive and dont clash with my colors then I am ok

Lori, Are all the Patken locations affiliated? I have yet to meet them, and have heard the good things about Lindenhurst, but I was going to check out the Mineola location b/c it's closer to my hall. Thanks.