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***POLL**** Bridal Party Question

bemyyoko Posted: Jul 02, 2007 01:47 PM+

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Posted: Jul 02, 2007 01:47 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

it definitely depends on why she couldnt be there.
if it's b/c of money, i'd tell her to shush b/c i'll pay, if it's b/c she doesnt drink and we're going bar hopping then i'd understand
it just depends you know?

ZCHM08 Posted: Jul 02, 2007 02:04 PM+

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Posted: Jul 02, 2007 02:04 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

I wouldn't get mad. I might feel disappointed but
I would completely understand

tricia3381 Posted: Jul 02, 2007 02:23 PM+

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Posted: Jul 02, 2007 02:23 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

depends on the situation. one of my bm's isn't coming because shes going to be 7 months prego and i'm not mad at all.

Soon2BSumma Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:57 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:57 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

My friends and I were in a similar situation a few yrs. back. My friend had her bachelorette party at a strip club. Most of my friends were engaged (or in relationships) and didn't feel comfortable going to a strip club and getting lap dances. BUT, b/c she was (is) our friend, we went for her. The reason is def. important!

Butterfly123 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 03:47 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 03:47 PM

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I work at a club where a lot of bachelorette parties come in on the weekends. First of all, theres no cover at my club and its a very known club in the meatpacking district. Even better, most bachelorette parties get a free round of champagne the minute you walk in. Of course if youre going to want a table, you would have to buy a bottle of liquor where prices usually start at 275 and up depending on what kind of liquor. But if you think about it this way, drinks are between 12-15 dollars each. Your bill for drinks is going to end up being more than 300 if a lot of people are going. With a bottle on your table you can control how much you drink and you save money, plus you get the convenience of having somewhere to sit in a packed club. I had a bachelorette party come in where they bought a bottle of champagne (those range from 190 and up) and had a great time! Dont worry and try to make it! Hope this helped a little

BNBride60 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 03:53 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 03:53 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

I wouldn't be mad if the reason was a good one. But, if you tell her you're just not into clubbing anymore and also that you're int he middle of renovating bathrooms, i could see how she wouldn't think this reason was good enough, since you're close enough to her to be her BM and this is her last night out as a single girl. I was in my cousin's wedding and her bachelorette party was unnecessarily expensive (I was a college student at the time), but nonetheles i went because it was her special night. We had a great time, and even though I was broke until my next paycheck, I'm glad I was there with her.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 04:52 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 04:52 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

well im not having brides maids only a matron of honor, my sister
but if i were having a larger bridal party, i would not be upset
people's lives dont revolve around my wedding

DavaDay Posted: Jul 04, 2007 04:57 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 04:57 PM

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How would you feel about going to only part of the night? Like, meeting them at the club so you don't have to chip in for the limo? And only buying one or two drinks while you're there. Or, going to the 1st part - drinks at her house? That sounds like fun, and cheap too.

angl2001 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 06:02 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 06:02 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

thats kinda tricky.........you accepted to be a BM and know there are responsibilities with that..........but at the same time you have all these expensive things to take care of between the house and the wedding. Is she an understanding person? if she is then just tell her you didnt realize how much $$ everything would be and you really can't afford a night out like that. maybe she change it or just be ok with the fact that u cant go!

SugaBeans Posted: Jul 04, 2007 06:25 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 06:25 PM

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honestly, if you cant afford it, thats fine. But i feel that i want all my girls to be there for me. what if you only did part? is she in you BP? how would you feel if she wasnt there?

Kimbalina Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:09 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:09 PM

Re: *POLL** Bridal Party Question

Posted by Mimacat

It depends. Why is she not making it? Is it b/c she has to take her mom to the hospital for heart surgery that day? Because she booked a trip 2 years ago and cannot cancel without $1000 penalty? Was her dog hit by a car? REASON IS IMPORTANT.

You are great

bella1028 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:11 PM+

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Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:11 PM