Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I am not super comfortable calling them mom and dad. I call them by their first names.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I already call my FMIL 'mom' my Fh never lived with his dad really and i hardly ever see his dad. So i dont call him anything at all.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I dont know.. I dont feel comfortable with that at all.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I call my FMIL mom but don't call my FFIL dad, I call him Steve

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

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Posted by wintergirl06

Jeez...they still address themselves to me as Mr. and Mrs. (it's always been weird, so I just don't call them anything!). I'm pretty sure that it will be mom and dad after the wedding, but it's going to take years to get used to!

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Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I probably won't.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I call them by their first names now but can see myself calling them Mom and Dad!! (& one day Grandma & Grandpa)

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I can't see myself being comfortable calling my FMIL 'Mom'. I'll continue calling her by her first name, and if she asks me to call her mom then I'll see about that.

Sadly, my FFIL passed away about a year ago. He was a wonderful man, though...I would have had no problem calling him Dad.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

Its not comfortable for me at all! I already have one mom and dad.. I wouldn't expect him tocall my parents mom and dad. I hope he doesn't expect me to call his.. But hey that's how I me.. i guess to each there own

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I don't feel comfortable calling them mom and dad...I just call them by their first names. My fh calls my parents by their first names too.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

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Posted by diggity10

Right now I either call them Mr. and Mrs or I'll call FMIL by her first name..My parents told me I have to call FIL's Mom and Dad, b/c its disrespectful! (old school italian ways i guess) But I'll be the only DIL who calls them mom and dad and I know everyone else in FI's family will think im a kissa$$! But i guess I'll have to see what they want to be called..

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Thats what my mom said! It's disrespectful to call them Mr or Mrs or by their first name (def must be an italian thing!!) I feel soo weird calling them Mom and Dad it doesnt feel right

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Never thought of it as a Italian thing - but maybe it is 'cause my mom always said it would be disrespectful to call them by their first names. The day we got engaged, she told FI to call her Mom whenever he felt comfortable with it (he still avoids calling her anything). I had a 'talk' with FMIL at christmas and said that we needed to determine what I would call them, and first-names was out of the question. I'm OK with calling her Mom, but FFIL still laughs at me when I call because I still call hi Mr. F____. He also has the same name as FI - so it feels wierd!

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I still address them as Mr. & Mrs...lol
I don't know why...FH laughs and tells me all the time to at least call them by their first names...FMIL always signs her cards 'love Mom Bxxxx' anf FFIL always signs the same way...I guess I'll get use to it and start calling them by their first names...not sure if I'll ever get use to 'mom & dad' though

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I am ok w/ calling FFIL dad, but I will not call his mother 'mom' (which he is fine with). In the begining I was a little nervous using those titles, but FH has no problem calling my parents mom and dad.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I probably won't. IMO they will never be like my parents.....my parents are way to special to me to give their titles away to my FH parents

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I call them mom & dad (once they told me I could - I was too scared to do it on my own). It means a lot to me that I can - both of my parents passed away, and I am really close to them so nothing else would feel right.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I don't feel close enough to FMIL to call her 'mom' and I don't see us developing that type of relationship. I CAN see myself calling FFIL 'dad' someday but with my father still so ill and his fate being a day to day thing, it is inconceivable to think I could use that word towards anyone else so soon.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I just call my FMIL by her first name and my FFIL Mr. M. I don't intent on calling either one mom or dad.

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

Well, I would feel comfortable, however my FMIL wants to be called by her first name (which for a while I called her by Mrs and she kept correcting me). My FFIL I call by Mr. N. All of my FSIL's call them by their first names.

Marissa

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

I never will. EVER. I've known them for well over 6 years and there's just no way. I've always called them by their first names and that's how it'll stay. I called FMIL 'mom' for a little while but then she displayed such UNMOTHERLY behavior toward me that I totally stopped, and that was a minor thing compared what she's done since. So no, she will never be a mother to me, FFIl will never be a father to me.

ETA: FH always called my parents 'Mr &Mrs. Moon' though now he sometimes calls my mom 'ma' cause that's what my BIL calls her, but so far only in the 3rd person, as in referring to her, not addressing her

Re: QOTD: How do you feel about calling your future in-laws 'mom & dad' ??

its a little wierd I can't call them mom and dad so I call FMIL by her first name but FI stepdad I call him pops FI stepmom I call her by her first name and FI dad I call him by his first name or I call his stepmom and real father grandma and grandpa cuz they love our daughter to death.