Recieving Invitations

My fiance's brother is getting married next month, and we just recieved the invitation. It was addressed to Mr. John Smith and GUEST! I have been with my fiance for 8 years and have lived with him for two. I am deeply insulted that my name wasn't on that invitation!

Stephanie - am I wrong, or was this a faux pas on their part?

WOW, Brenda, that was fast! I will give him a call first chance I get. Please keep us updated on what you come up with!!!

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or just a lazy bride? Ok, ok, that wasn't nice. umm, I think that you should send in the RSVP and corss our guest and write in your name. Or reintroduce yourself to the bride to be as "HI, I am the And Guest" and Laugh!! There are worse things in life, don't let this ruffle your feathers too much!

Peace

WOW, Brenda, that was fast! I will give him a call first chance I get. Please keep us updated on what you come up with!!!

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I actually like that idea. I'm only upset in the sense that it is my fiance's family, not mine, that she is marrying into and it feels like she doesn't think I am a part of the family until my own ring is on my finger.

Peace

WOW, Brenda, that was fast! I will give him a call first chance I get. Please keep us updated on what you come up with!!!

try to fluff her off

obviously she isn't a very bright person. A ring in your finger doesn't make you family, itis your dedication to the person. I feel sorry for her.

Peace

WOW, Brenda, that was fast! I will give him a call first chance I get. Please keep us updated on what you come up with!!!

try to fluff her off

I agree with PHYL. This was probably just an oversight and not meant to intentionally hurt you. But, it was extremely rude and self-centered. I would be upset also, but like PHYL said---Don't let it ruffle your feathers. When your wedding comes you can send their invite to Mr. So-and-so and Wife.

Peace

WOW, Brenda, that was fast! I will give him a call first chance I get. Please keep us updated on what you come up with!!!

try to fluff her off

Okay guys, are you looking for trouble within your family-to-be? If thats the worst thing that this person will ever do to you, be thankful, as someone who has been married for 10 years, Faux pas are the least of your problems when you are dealing with in-law situations. Just blow it off, and hope, when you do something to her that she gets offended by(and you will) that she will blow it off. It's a long life together and you have to pick your battles. Also don't bring it up, remember how much stress you are under with your wedding, cut the girl some slack.

Good Luck and have fun at the wedding!

June

try to fluff her off

June is right. I think we are just all on the defense with all of this planning stress. Definitely pick your battles and this is not really battle that you want to fight.

Good Luck and have fun at the wedding!

June

try to fluff her off

Well said. The poor girl probably read some etiquette article somewhere that said to address "and guest" whenever someone is not married. Maybe she didn't want to be presumptuous.

June

Recieving Invitations

hi jenn, since its the brides family that wrote out the invites is it possible the bride wasnt around when the invites were addressed and the mom didn't know your name. i've been married 10 years now and when we are invited to weddings on his side of the family they still spell my name wrong...all variations of carolyn you can think . i still get upset about it but you know what, in the grand scheme of life does it really matter? hope your feeling better carolyn

Well said. The poor girl probably read some etiquette article somewhere that said to address "and guest" whenever someone is not married. Maybe she didn't want to be presumptuous.

June

Carolyn?

Carolyn - Did you find the CD of the McGuire Sisters.

We are from Califonia and visit NY yearly, actually since the engagement 10 months ago, I have been there 3 times. We use Yahoo travel, they have good prices. Also try cheapseats & cheaptickets.

June

Recieving Invitations

Jennifer,

I can absolutely understand why you might feel a bit hurt about it. I definetely feel that if it is a couple that have been dating a while or live together you should make every effort to put the persons name on the invite rather than "& guest". I do agree though that she may have read some etiquette book or have had someone tell her to do this. As you know it can be very confusing knowing exactly what is proper when planning a wedding.

Ultimately if you like her otherwise and she is a good person in other ways I wouldn't hold it against her in the long run:-)

Carolyn?

hi kate, i havent had a chance yet. i just got over a bad cold etc. i will probably go next week. i'll let you know how i make out. thanks for asking

carolyn

i am getting married at the chateau briand in feb 2001. does anyone suggest any hotels in that area for me to go to after the wedding? do you think the Marriott has the best price? or is there a really nice other hotel around there that doesn't charge an arm and a leg.

Carolyn?

Okey Dokey. Fell Better

For the best man what about tickets to a game or if he is a beer drinker what about a membership to Beer Across America. They get a different 12 pack assortment everymonth from different breweries. As for the kids what about a plant set. You know the sets where you put the seeds in little pots and they grow. That is very springy and kids love to experiment. Hope this helps!!!

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