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Teachers getting married...long

I am a new teacher too. We did not want a summer wedding because it is too hot also. I am getting married over the April break in 2003. We have warm days in December this past year, so I am hoping for a warm enough day to be outside. (Yes, I know it is a gamble). I would not suggest missing your last week of school without having tenure. I just dont think it would look good. I was goint to do Memorial Day weekend, but I would have to miss too many days. So here is what you can do...You can get married in June like you want and take your honeymoon a week later after school ends. It wont be so bad, I thought of doing that myself. Or you can try to plan for the April break and hope for the best :) Another good point is that whatever month you choose you may end up with a rainy day and your cocktail hour will be inside. (Hopefully not thought). I just wouldnt miss too many days of school without having tenure. Hope this helps, I just went through this dilemma myself.

Teachers getting married...long

Thanks Christy I have thought about April break also. Whenever i get married i plan on taking a week off. Like Wednesday to Wednesday. are you doing that? I would like to go somewhere for the weekend at least and do the honeymoon thing over summer.

Teachers getting married...long

I am a tenured teacher, and my advice on this is not to ask for a week off as an untenured teacher, especially for a wedding. This is frowned upon to a huge extent in every school district I know of, because we have the whole summer off. If you are going to ask for any time at all, limit it to 2 or 3 days, which would probably be your entitled personal time. In my district if administration gets wind of anyone taking sick time when they are not sick it is a big deal. 2 untenured teachers I work with were recently married during the school year. 1 last April break, and 1 last September. Neither one asked for any time off for their wedding, but both times my principal offered them a few days ( I think it was 3 days each). Maybe this would happen for you too. : ) For the record, I was married on July 6th, and we had a gorgeous 79 degree day with a slight breeze. Good luck with whatever you decide. : )

Teachers getting married...long

I am getting married on friday and going away saturday to saturday...I think. April break starts on Thursday so I even get the day before the wedding off...It worked out well.

Teachers getting married...

I have been teaching for two years and am getting married on August 25 of this year. I am going on my honeymoon from Aug. 27 until Sept. 2 (Labor Day). Normally, we have superintendent's conference day on the day following labor day, and the kids come the day after that. However, I was just informed that the kids will NOT be coming until the following MONDAY, Sept. 9. Darn it, I could have had a longer honeymoon!!! :) By the way, the only reason I am getting married in August is because my fiancee is in med school and that is the ONLY time that we have off together. Anyway, I will be missing one conference day, but will not be missing a day of actual 'school.' Being untenured, I don't recommend taking time off, especially during the last week of school. That is a crazy week, with report cards going home and lots of paperwork to fill out. There must be some other time to have your wedding....or have your wedding and wait until school's over to leave for your honeymoon. :) Good luck!!!

Teachers getting married...long

I know you don't want hot weather but I am getting married in August. I agree with JennRenee. Although I am not tenured I think it would be a bad idea to ask for time off during the year. I would definately try to plan it around a vacation. Good Luck

Teachers getting married...long

I'm a first year teacher and I was planning to get married May 4th of this year. My plan was to take off thursday & friday before the wedding and monday & tuesday after the wedding just for a long weekend away. We were going to do the honeymoon over the summer. I say we WERE going to do this plan because my husband's father became ill and we had to move the wedding up and I was married on December 22nd.... It actaully worked out GREAT! I know you want warm weather, but i have to say that getting married the first saturday of Christmas break was terrific. I took off 3 days before the wedding (the kids never do their work anyway those few days) We left for a cruise the day after the wedding for our honeymoon, AND we can now celebrate our anniversary every year with a little winter vacation!! Just a thought... I wanted a spring wedding also, but i thought my backup plan worked out great! If you are set on a warm wedding, my suggestion is to get married the weekend you are planning to and just take 2 days off before and then take your honeymoon the first week of summer vacation. You really dont need more than a couple days off to relax before the wedding, and those days in June are pretty slow at school anyway.... but a week off would be over-doing it.

Teachers getting married...long

I'm a teacher getting married early July-I would love a September wedding but I worked it around my job (I will be tenured this June.) Taking days off for a wedding, is OK if you limit it to 2-4, but right before the summer...my district would wonder why I couldn't wait one more week. And for your sake it wont be enjoyable- maybe you'll be nervous about your decision, but besides that, as a classroom teacher there's A LOT to do that week. Packing up the classroom, organizing for the next year, writing out report cards, dealing with parents requesting a specific teacher. Plus, as a first year probationary teacher, that is going to be a very special class to you. You'll want to focus on your relationship with them. I think it will be too much with a wedding the last offical week of school-for your personal sake, as well as professional. My friend is getting married March 22 (a Friday) and she wasn't sure if she should take the Thursday off. We convinced her to! And if she needs to leave early on the Wednesday we'll watch her class that afternoon. Then she'll leave for her honeymoon the following Tuesday night (spring break). You do what's right for you.

Teachers getting married...long

One thing you have to remember is that the school end day changes every year (except in NYC - always 6/28) I think it is pathetic that school districts bully untenured teachers around...This is supposed to be one of the most important days of your life and do not let a job control your life...Unlike when I first started there is a real need for teachers now and is becoming more and more so. If you are a good teacher, they would be foolish to frown upon your wedding day and missing 1 day.

I agree with JennRene....

I am a teacher also, and will be tenured when I get married. My date is Oct. 20 of this year, which as you know does not fall around any time off. My FH is also a teacher and will be tenured as well. We both are postponing our HM until the summer or during a break. We are only going to ask for 3 days off (the fri before, mon, and tues.) Even though we will be tenured, our school district will not like it if we call in sick or use too many personal days for a wedding. They say that we can do it over breaks. My advice is the same as JennRene's. A non-tenured teacher should not take so much time off. Our district has been very picky about giving people tenure, and your's might be as well. I have heard of them not giving some teacher's tenure b/c of taking time off when they should not be. Good luck.

I agree with JennRene....

I`m getting married May 18th 2003. I plan on getting a teaching job for this Sept. Do you think If I ask to take the tues.-fri. after memorial day they will be annoyed? This way I can have that Sat. before memorial day and they rest of the week. I usually don`t call in sick to my job now, I`m pretty good with not taking sick days. I guess I should have thought of this before I planned my wedding.

Same issue...

I am a school librarian (follow same rules/contract as classroom teachers) and my FH and I chose a winter wedding on Dec. 13th of this year. I will not be tenured at the time of my wedding, but am getting married on a Friday night, so I will obviously have to take off that day, and the day before for last minute running around. At first I was TERRIFIED to even ask for ANY time off (it will be my tenure year), but I am only asking for 2 days. I have, so far, not taken any time off this year (anticipating the wedding), so my attendance record will be satisfactory when up for tenure. I figure if I am not given tenure because of missing 2 days, well then, gimme a break. I'm good at my job, I work hard, I do extra-curricular activities, I have a good relationship with my principal, etc. We have decided to take our honeymoon during the winter break, so I will go back to work for 1 week before the actual HM. My advice is to NOT take more than 2 or 3 days TOPS if you're not tenured. I work with Kelly4 (and her FH), and I agree with everything she said. The district makes note of everything you do, and are very picky about who they tenure - and we are in a very big district, where you would think it would be LESS DIFFICULT to receive tenure! Unfortunately not the case. I would love to say 'do what's right for you', but you really have to take that into consideration. The best of luck to you (and all of us in this situation!)...

Buttafli (and all my fellow teachers) : )

I can't speak for everyone, but in my district we need a doctor's note or death certificate (or a principal willing to look the other way : )) in order to take time off directly before or after a holiday. My principal is very understanding in personal situations, but not everyone's is. Please look into this before doing anything! : ) One more thing a few of you untenured teachers are failing to realize is that by taking 4 or 5 days off, you are usually going beyond your personal days. Please take into consideration that taking days off IF YOU HAVE THEM (you usually get 2 or 3 personal days to do what you wish with)is not that big a deal, but taking days you don't have looks very bad when tenure time comes around. If it's a known fact that you are getting married, and you are asking for sick time, the district is most likely not going to be kind. Unfortunately teachers are still a dime a dozen, and there is a line a mile long waiting for any position that comes up, so a lot of districts think nothing of denying tenure if they think you are not 'serious' about your job. Believe me, this is NOT my belief (not even close), but I have been around Long Island schools for a while, and I have seen some very unfortunate things happen to good teachers. Things become much easier once you have tenure, just hang in there! : )

Teachers getting married...long

I am a 4th grade teacher in California and my wedding will be October 5th of this year. We don't have to deal with tenure, so I just will need to make sure I have enough days off, which I have done already. I will be taking off a total of 12 school days. The 1st grade teacher at my school is taking off the last week and a half of school for her wedding. My principal was very cool, he said that when he got married, he had to wait until the next break to take his honeymoon and to this day he and his wife regret having to do that. Hopefully wherever you are working will work with you so that you don't have to stress about it.. Good luck with everything.

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Teachers getting married...long

We got married February 16th over President''s week. My administration loved me for it. As long as they know well in advance I do not think June is a bad time.

Missmmpr ~ Good luck! : ) *NM*

Thanks! I'll let you know :)!! *NM*