Bridal shower surprise ruined

I just found out from a friend's girlfriend what date my surprise bridal shower is supposed to be. Im very upset, but i know my mom paid for the whole thing, and my bm's did a lot of the prep work. Im thinking i should just go along with it and try and act surprised because they'd surely be upset if they knew I wouldnt be surprised. Do you think that's the right thing to do? what would you do if you were me?

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awhhh I'm sorry that you found out! how did you find out from the girlfriend? did she tell you or did you just over hear it? I would still act suprised.

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If you can, just roll with it. Don't let on that you know and act surprised.

I was given a shower by my moms house (Illinois) and I knew about it, but only tolf FH I knew. I walked in with the intent to act surprised, but there were more surprises that I didn'd know about. My BM from Michigan and her mom drove down for the shower, this was a wonderful unexpected surprise I didn't know about!!!

You only know when it is...what you don't know is...
-where
-who will be there
-what you'll get!!

There is a lot mroe to be surprised by!!

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Awww I am so sorry that you found out! I would just go with the flow and not tell anyone (but your LIW girls) that you know.

And like MsKitty said, there are still a lot more surprises that you don't know about.

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Just go along with it and act surprised. I found out about my surprise shower (b/c DH's stupid sister &&*^&^&%^%^$%-won't get into that, though) and I still never told my mom or my sister (and my shower was last June!)b/c I know how upset they would be. They worked so hard to keep it a surprise that I didn't want to take that away. Sorry you found out, though!

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What happened was I sent friend's gf an email telling her the date and place & time of rehearsal lunch. She said she will be going to that, and that she'd be going to my shower too, and then listed the day. Fiance is steaming angry, but at this point my concern isn't so much for me, it's for the family as all have been so careful to keep it a surprise for me.

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Posted by MsKitty1274

If you can, just roll with it. Don't let on that you know and act surprised.

I was given a shower by my moms house (Illinois) and I knew about it, but only tolf FH I knew. I walked in with the intent to act surprised, but there were more surprises that I didn'd know about. My BM from Michigan and her mom drove down for the shower, this was a wonderful unexpected surprise I didn't know about!!!

You only know when it is...what you don't know is...
-where
-who will be there
-what you'll get!!

There is a lot mroe to be surprised by!!

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that is a great way of looking at it

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I agree with Kitty. Theres fun all the way around, regardless if you know the date. I'm sure there are great surprises in store, such as gifts and people and location as Kitty stated. Have fun, and roll with it baby!!!!!

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Posted by MrsWmson2be

What happened was I sent friend's gf an email telling her the date and place & time of rehearsal lunch. She said she will be going to that, and that she'd be going to my shower too, and then listed the day. Fiance is steaming angry, but at this point my concern isn't so much for me, it's for the family as all have been so careful to keep it a surprise for me.

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Who DOES that!?!?!? You ALWAYS assume it's a surprise! Don't people know that? That's aggravating! I say, play along. Who knows... maybe she listed that date as a decoy... so you still don't know? If she wasn't that clever, then that's too bad. I'm sorry she did that. But at least you now know to dress REALLY nice that day!

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Thanks girls. That's exactly my train of thought. I don't like the idea of 'lying' or 'pretending' with my family since I usually am very frank with them, but I can't ruin their fun. I told fiance not to tell them. However, he is pissed to no end at friend's gf. I just can't believe she'd tell me. Fiance told friend, but told his friend 2x that it was a surprise. I can't imagine his friend not telling his gf to keep her trap shut!

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I thought it might be a decoy too. I guess hoped is a better word.I was looking forward to being surprised. Last time I was really surprised was when fiance proposed to me on 12/31/04.

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a friend of mine had hers ruined by an obnoxious co-worker who told her, about the shower bc she said she was RSVP'ing, when my gf had NO IDEA about it.. and then to make matters worse, when she showed up at the wedding (she was invited at this point) she didn't even give a gift..

Don't worry about the shower, it will be filled with friends and family and love and LOTS of presents.. Don't sweat it!!!

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Act surprised....we wont tell

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act surprised---even if they know you are surprised---play along. sometimes just the effort is enough!!

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I would definitely act surprised, and not let on that I knew if others we trying very hard to make it a surprise.

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my surprise was also ruined but it turns out that my mom flew here from upstate so I would have known anyways when I saw her last Friday night!! I told FH that I knew and he ended up telling everyone so it was actually kind of a relief...they said I didn't have to 'act' surprised
At first I was really upset and mad at the person that told me..I'm still mad b/c he's a MORON but I had a GREAT shower and he didn't ruin it..he's just a moron in general

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I don't post much but this kind of caught my attention. I am originally from Miami I had not heard about showers being a surprise until NY. I think its a tri-state area thing. Is she from the area? If not maybe she just didn't realize. Either way I am sure you'll have a great time!!

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The girl knew it was supposed to be a surprise because her bf (fiance's friend) made that clear to her. I know she's always on the rocks with her bf, but i fail to see her motive for bringing me into it. She also insulted his family in her email to me, and fiance;s friend wants us to forward it to him, but we said no. Our thinking is, it's his place to set things straight with her so let him get it from her.

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a b!tchy bridesmaid of mine told me when mine was because she was, well, she was a b1tch. I kept it to myself, then after, I kicked her out of the bridal party