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Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

divabride Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:30 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:30 PM

Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

My FI's mom is not contributing to our wedding. Do I still have to purchase her a gift?

nylisa Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:31 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:31 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

My FILs are contributing either and we purchased them a gift.

CherylBooch Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:32 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:32 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

how 'bout a good ol' CARD.

tourist Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:33 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:33 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

well, she contributed her son. . .

a small gift maybe, like a picture frame, and get te same for yours & if they are helping, add a gift certificate or something.

heidla Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:34 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:34 PM

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Even if she is not contributing finacially you should get her something. She did actually contribute something.....your FI

Brandalina Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:34 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:34 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

Neither of our parents are contributing and we are still getting them gifts.

NYCHICK Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:35 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:35 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

yea...u do, as much as you don't wanna..doesn't all this wedding coutesy skeeze you out,..

divabride Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:38 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

I was kinda confused on the issue, I tend to look at things funny. My way of thinking is why am I giving gift when Im the one getting married? But I have you wonderful ladies to guide me in the right direction. I'll get her a picture frame for Things Remebered or something.

nan&dave Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:39 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:39 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

His moms' not contributing either, but I've decided to get her a gift, so FH doesn't feel bad about only getting my parents.

Nikki10-12-03 Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:39 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 02:39 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

neither one of our parents gave us any $$$ but we bought both sets of parents the hankerchief with a poem

tracyg Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:07 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:07 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

we're getting them frames from thingsremembered. Just bought them today.
FIL's are contributing a little though. Also getting all parents albums.
Also we are giving all the grandparents 5x7 frames, even though only one set is helping us. Just thought it would be nice to do.

Smolokoff Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:22 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:22 PM

Re: Tacky question....but I still have to ask it

Yes you should get her a gift. After all, she gave you FH!!! Seriously, though. It could be from both of you just to thank her for being a wonderful mother and blah, blah, blah. That is assuming she isn't a druggie/drunk child abuser or something.

I ahve such a way of putting things. It's a gift I tell you! LOL!

bridzilla Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:35 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:35 PM

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I would still get a gift, just because it's his mom. So a nice picture frame with a wedding picture would be very thoughtful.

eroxgirl Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:35 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 03:35 PM

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Posted by Smolokoff

That is assuming she isn't a druggie/drunk child abuser or something. I ahve such a way of putting things. It's a gift I tell you! LOL!

So what if she is any of those things?

Seriously, I hadn't thought about getting the non-contributing parents gifts either...

Jo Ann Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:01 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:01 PM

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Just an idea but my sister ordered a couple of things for my parents from FTD to arrive the day after her wedding with a little note saying thanks from both of them. One was a gift basket with different types of stuff from Harry and David and the other was two potted african violets. It was nice since she must have thought about it before the wedding and it arrived the day or the day after they left for their honeymoon.

Besides that she also got both parents sets of pictures and frames and all that jazz.

bobbsbride Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:42 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:42 PM

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My MIL to be is not contributing and thinks she has all the say in the wedding. I would love to give her something (sarcastically said). The ol' boot!

Bebalina Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:43 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:43 PM

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Just give her copies of the ur wedding portrait for her side of the family, and frame one of them...

AJsMommy122 Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:43 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:43 PM

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We are getting them something small for the wedding day and then after they get a photo album with 20 pics in it and a dvd of the reception. Thats enough!

May2704bride Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:50 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:50 PM

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Posted by NYCHICK

yea...u do, as much as you don't wanna..doesn't all this wedding coutesy skeeze you out,..

You said it!!!!! It stinks but to keep the peace ya gotta do what ya gotta do

lilqtny Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:58 PM+

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Posted: Mar 12, 2004 04:58 PM

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I didn't think I had to give the parents presents, lol, I was only going to give them to my girlies and have my boy give them to his boys....................then we have to give them to the Marines that will be performing our sword ceremony!