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snowprincess805
happily married
Member since 4/04 1941 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/13/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Bourne Mansion
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
i grew up with my Dad never wearing his wedding ring - he only wore it the day he got married but he ever liked it - but then after i got engaged, 30 years of marriag, and one new yea's resolution he wears it every day and it i used to it
i never would have cared if my Fi wore aaring or not -but he has no problem because I was not seeing it - he may have grown up not seeing one on his Dad's hand -
I don't think it is a good idea to bargin for the ring - you should try different ways of showing the importance for him
Also mybe he is afraid of loosing it - try a silver ring for a whle - try to figure out why beside i just don't wear jewlery - jmo
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Posted 6/8/04 8:00 AM 
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IrishTracy
Mommy of 3
Member since 1/02 9479 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/23/2003 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Stewart Manor Country Club
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
My husband can't wear his ring at work. He's in construction. And on the weekends he usually forgets to put it on. It doesn't bother me. It doesn't mean we're any less married. Do I get a big kick when I see him wearing the ring..Yes! But, it's not a critical point.
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Posted 6/8/04 8:13 AM
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Chloegirl
Can't wait for Aruba!!
Member since 1/03 3331 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/1/2004 8:00 PM
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
My DH was against wearing a ring. He doesnt wear jewelry and thought it would be uncomfortable.
Well we decided to have a 6 month trial where he wears it everyday and then he can decide if he wants to wear it moving forward.
Well we have been married slighly over a month and he has yet to walk out of the house without his ring. He forgot it one day and felt weird without it!!! He said it doesnt bother him and he likes wearing it. This was a shock to me...but i love it!!!
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Posted 6/8/04 9:06 AM
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MissM
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Member since 11/03 289 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/5/2004 6:00 PM
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
Thanks ladies 
My Dad & his never wore one either (my Dad doesn't even have one). He's not in any profession that would prohibit him from wearing one either. He did agree to a 6 mo trial, so I'll go for that.
That's not really the point to me though. It's that he's not taking into account my feelings.
Thanks for all the advice - you guys are the best!
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Posted 6/8/04 5:47 PM
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janwinterbridejoy
islanders season
Member since 12/03 6843 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/9/2004 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
chateau briandA+
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
my dh never ever wore jewerly and although it took a little while for him to get used to wearing it now he wears it all the time. you should ask him to wear it around the house and he will get you use to it im sure.
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Posted 6/8/04 7:52 PM
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bxgell2
Baby Beer is on the way!
Member since 2/04 1048 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/31/2004 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Southampton Inn
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
Posted by MissM
Thanks ladies
My Dad & his never wore one either (my Dad doesn't even have one). He's not in any profession that would prohibit him from wearing one either. He did agree to a 6 mo trial, so I'll go for that.
That's not really the point to me though. It's that he's not taking into account my feelings.
Thanks for all the advice - you guys are the best!
I'm in the minority here... I don't see what the big deal is... the marriage is about the marriage and it shouldn't hinge on a little piece of jewelry. My father never wore a wedding ring, but he was the most committed and loyal husband I've ever known... as for myself, I hate wearing jewelry and am pretty sure my e-ring and band will eventually come off, but that doesn't mean anything about the degree of committment and love I have for my FI... it's just a preference, that's all. I agree, in a relationship we have to make certain compromises... but it seems like you're expecting him to make the only compromises by adding your last name to your children's names and by forcing him to wear a ring... if he really doesn't feel comfortable wearing a ring, it doesn't and shouldn't symbolize anything about his committment to you and I really think it's not fair to him to force him to do something he is uncomfortable with... I realize it's important to you, but you also have to think about what is important to him
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Posted 6/8/04 8:21 PM
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laudipop
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Member since 3/04 449 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/30/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Grand Prospect Hall
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
MissM, I think you should try just agreeing with him. Tell him he's right, rings are uncomfortable and you don't like jewelry so you're not going to wear one either. And then do it. See how he feels about it.
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Posted 6/8/04 10:03 PM
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HearzBellz
Always a bridesmaid 3x over
Member since 4/03 10389 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/9/2004 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Harbor Club
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
DH wears his ring to work, then takes it off all day....he is mechanic. The reason why I mention it is because he leaves it at work all the time & forgets it in his toolbox, and at this point I would rather he didn't wear it at all....... when we meet new people he is very excited to intrioduce "his wife," and that is all theat matters.....the fact that he is excited about our relationship & our love.
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Posted 6/8/04 10:57 PM
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butterfly20
married over 2 years!!!
Member since 3/03 10672 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
fh doesnt feel comfortable wearing rings....
im going to take him to the jeweler to try and find him a comfortable one, and hopefully he will get use to it...
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Posted 6/9/04 12:11 AM
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Kriss2c
Don't pet the sweaty things!!
Member since 1/04 4830 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2004 11:00 AM
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
Fh doesn't feel comfortable with jewelry either and he works with his hands a lot. It doesn't bother me all that much. We are getting him a ring anyway to wear on special occasions.
My father only wore a ring for a couple of years... his finger swelled or grew or something and they actually had to cut the ring off... he never replaced it. It didn't make him love my mother any less.
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Posted 6/9/04 1:24 AM
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J.Lo24
First Christmas in new home!
Member since 2/03 1729 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/24/2004 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Stonebridge Country Club
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Re: FI NOT wearing a ring
My DH does not wear jewerly either. He is also an electrician so he can not wear jewerly on the job, for obvious reasons....BUT, he wears his wedding band on the weekends and if we go out or he goes out.
I would be upset too! I think you need to just stress how important this is to you, and if he would care if you just stopped wearing your e-ring and no wedding band.
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Posted 6/9/04 7:20 AM
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