SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

Are you calling them to say the additional people are not invited and not welcome?

That is what I plan on doing LOL Just curious....

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We are letting some people get away with it - mostly family and close friends. Everyone is else is being told by my MIL and my Mother that the invite is ONLY for the people listed on the inner envelope.

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I think I'm going to mix it. I will let some get away with it, but will call others saying 'what the %@% is wrong your inviting so & so!??'.

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

Actually, do people even do that? Don't they think it's tacky for them to add on people who weren't invited???

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No. People do not think it is tacky. They particularly have no problem adding children and babies. We are taking it on a case by case basis right now and helping out with babysitters.

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Yes people do that. Get this. Danielle and I invited my aunt, her daughter and her son to the wedding. My aunt is coming alone, and her son isnt coming, but her daughter is mad that she wasnt invited with a guest. She is 36 years old and single. She supposedly didnt even have a boyfriend. They are from Boston and do not realize how expensive a wedding costs. So anyway the daughter asks her mother why she isnt invited with a guest. She says that usually people are invited with someone. So her mother said that the wedding is costing Danielle and Scott alot of money and just be thankful that they invited you. Now keep in mind I think I may have met this girl once in my life and it was probably around 10 to 15 years ago. I dont even remember her.

So she starts complaining to her mother that she wants to bring her dance partner to the wedding, and that it would be really cool because they would have a place to dance what they have been practicing. So her mother explains to her that she would be invited if they were in a relationship, but not invited since they only dance together.

A few days later the daughter comes to her and says that she didnt want to tell her before but she is in a relationship with the dance partner and she doesnt think its fair that he isnt invited.

So after a little talking with Danielle, I told my mother to tell her daughter she can bring the dance partner, but If I see them dancing like its saturday night live, I am going to say something to them. I do not need a cousin that I really do not know messing up my wedding. Her mother told her she has to give us a really expensive gift. Her mother is hoping that her daughter will change her mind and not come to the wedding.

Scott

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yes the FH is calling and oh is so enjoying it (I enjoy watching him get all flustered, I'm taking a break!)


but get this his aunt calls and asks if her adult daughter can attend (fh is not close with cousins) so he says ok well the aunt sent the rsvp back with her daughter crossed off and the word 'guest' written in...when he called to inquire the cousin answered and said she 'didn't feel like coming' ok moving on....the aunt gets on the phone and says the guests is one of her male friends...the FH lost it!....the aunt is attending alone but get this she asks him 'is there a problem' - people have nerve....I am still sitting back with a chesire grin planted firmly on my face

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

I would of said, Sorry but only you can attend. We had my mothers cousin call her and tell her he is undecided on which girlfriend he wants to bring. He was invited as a single, because his wife died last year and we didnt think he would bring anyone....Well thankgod he called up and said he wasnt coming at all.

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be thankful that at least they're writing it in.

I had one older couple bring their adult son. They never wrote him in. And, they walked up to my mom during the cocktail hour to let her know 'we brought our son. We wanted to tell you before someone else did and you got your nose out of shape.'

edited to add: one of my DH's very distant cousins called us 10 DAYS before the wedding to say,

I JUST started dating someone. Can I add him on? I said, unfortunately, we've done our final prep and seating cards.

She said, Oh, but can you still add one more on? I said, 'well, I don't think so. We already paid our final balance.'

Then, she said, 'OH, if you get a cancellation, can you please keep me in mind?'

Of course, she ended up being a no-show. I am mad at myself because I KNEW she wasn't going to attend, and I could have pulled her off of the final count, but I left her on anyway...

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

Aren't you getting married in Italy?
Are they inviting people to your wedding there?
That's insanity!!!!

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

Wow! That's really ballsy walking up to your mom during the cocktail hour.

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Posted by palebride

Aren't you getting married in Italy?
Are they inviting people to your wedding there?
That's insanity!!!!

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No no this is for our reception back here I'm just so fascinated by these stories of rude guests!!!!!

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

Is it okay to put no children on the invite? and if so how do you word it??

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Posted by Danielle&Scott
So after a little talking with Danielle, I told my mother to tell her daughter she can bring the dance partner, but If I see them dancing like its saturday night live, I am going to say something to them. I do not need a cousin that I really do not know messing up my wedding. Her mother told her she has to give us a really expensive gift. Her mother is hoping that her daughter will change her mind and not come to the wedding.

Scott

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I would crack up @ her 1st Sat Night Fever moves, then as she's getting kicked out. Very entertaining.

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We are having no kids at all. My uncle...My mothers brother, who we really don't talk to anymore calls up and asks if my brothers daughter or my sisters kids were coming to the wedding....and my mom was talking to him and she said NO. He was like, Why arent the kids invited??? And my mom said that since the wedding starts at 7:30 on a saturday night and it doesnt end till 1am Danielle and Scott thought it would be better if there were no kids there. It would be alot less stress for the parents....and since there are 4 women with small kids in the bridal party we thought it would be alot easier for them to just get sitters instead of having to watch them all night.

The reason he was asking all these questions, was cause he was trying to figure out with his Spoiled Daughters kids werent invited. So then after my mother explained to him that no kids are invited, he proceeds to ask if his Daughters can bring their kids. My mother says, NO. Havent you listened to a word I just said.

Well his daughters and their husbands are coming to the wedding....unfortunately. And he never responded. He is on my mothers call list.

I really wouldnt care if they came to my wedding or if they didnt come. Our family and their family havent been close in years. I saw them last year for the first time in 5 years.
Scott

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Pookiesangel-
I put 'Adult Reception to follow....' on the reception card. I debated this, since I thought it might look tacky, but I know we have invited people who miss the subtlety of only bringing those mentioned on the inner envelope. Here's hoping that it works! If not, I think we will play it by ear. The only young children we are having are nieces and nephews, and it is only like 5 kids.

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Posted by Danielle&Scott


So after a little talking with Danielle, I told my mother to tell her daughter she can bring the dance partner, but If I see them dancing like its saturday night live, I am going to say something to them. I do not need a cousin that I really do not know messing up my wedding.

Scott

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I'm sorry - inviting a dance partner is the funniest thing I have ever heard of. Imagiine if they came in costumes? I mean how old is this person?

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

FH's friend added her girlfriend to the RSVP meant for her and her husband. I kindly emailed her and told her that I had a list of family that I still hadn't invited yet and that my first obligation is to invite them over a friend of a friend. At the end of the email, I just asked why her friend would want to travel to NY for a wedding she wasn't even invited to. She just responded and said it will just be her and her husband and everything is taken care of.

It took me so long to write the email, cuz I really wanted to be like 'what the f**K is wrong with you'. FH said he was proud of me for not going off on her.

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Posted by dpli

Pookiesangel-
I put 'Adult Reception to follow....' on the reception card. I debated this, since I thought it might look tacky, but I know we have invited people who miss the subtlety of only bringing those mentioned on the inner envelope. Here's hoping that it works! If not, I think we will play it by ear. The only young children we are having are nieces and nephews, and it is only like 5 kids.

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That sounds like a good idea. The only kids we want there are our flower girl and ring bearer and their siblings. How did you word it on the invitation for those who had kids that you wanted to attend?

Re: SPINOFF of my other thread: So, what are you doing with the delinquint RSVPs that added people on?

We get a phone call every other day from Adam's Parents asking for someone else on FH's side of the family to have more guests.

These are the people who had 7 months to give me a guest list but found it too difficult. The guest list they DID give me had incorrect addresses and left off the long time live in girlfriends of two guests INCLUDING FMIL'S OWN BROTHER. (Because I know these people and will realize that they have been left off. Right.)

What bothers me most of all is that there is one guy, a first cousin of Adam's Mom, who has been calling everyone in the family complaining that his children (Adam's 2nd cousins) were not invited. We are not inviting 2nd cousins, Period End of Discussion. But this guy has called everyone in the family to complain. Everyone, that is, Except Us. I doubt he has our number, or has even bothered to ask for it.

I swear that if we end up inviting these second cousins, FILs will get a bill requesting payment for those cousins, and all the other second cousins (On EACH SIDE - boy are they in for a surprise I have a HUGE family) and the B-List people I am just DYING to invite.