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suck it up and send the standard 'Thank you for your generous gift and for sharing in our special day' and be done with it ... adding fuel to the fire in family affairs, especially DH's family affairs will get you nowhere but grief, fighting, and upset other family members. It's over, you cannot redo the day or make them better people, the only thing you can do is move on and show them they have no effect on your life - period.

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I think jan05bride is right, be the bigger person I am so sorry about these biatches

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I agree that you should take the high road and send a generic thank you but I do like the idea of including the picture - how about sending a copy to their parents?

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On one thank you, for someone I knew I was done speaking to I ended with 'good luck to you with your future endeavors in life'
I know it was childish, but I really needed the closure on my terms. LOL!

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So sorry you had problems with people you thought were special enough to ask in your BP. That would upset me as well. But I agree with everyone else just send them a simple thank note and leave as that.

Now you know not to pay attention to them anymore.

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I agree that you should be the bigger person with the thank you's.. However, the one who flipped the bird should get a picture of it...

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You sound like you are doing something just like I would do!!! But I do think that it would add more fuel to the fire. Since they are your husbands cousins, can you make him write the thank-yous to them?

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Its probably a good idea to take the high road... but Ang's suggestion how about sending a copy to their parents? would be so funny!

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honetly I wouldn't write anything.

I can't thank someone for beign a pain in the ___.

They don't deserve the energy or the stamp!

jmo

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if they weren't your FH cousins, then i would be nasty in the thank you card...if the were friends that you couldn't care less if you never spoke to them again, then i would really let them have it. i hate it when people act stupid and expect it not to go noticed. i'm usually not like this but they are obviously childish!

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Posted by Ang&Rich

I agree that you should take the high road and send a generic thank you but I do like the idea of including the picture - how about sending a copy to their parents?

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Exactly what I was going to write!!!!

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Posted by Jan05Bride

suck it up and send the standard 'Thank you for your generous gift and for sharing in our special day' and be done with it ... adding fuel to the fire in family affairs, especially DH's family affairs will get you nowhere but grief, fighting, and upset other family members. It's over, you cannot redo the day or make them better people, the only thing you can do is move on and show them they have no effect on your life - period.

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I agree with this. Don't turn nasty like they did, as much as you want to (believe me, I'd want to too if I were in your shoes!) Sorry, they were so rude and disrespectful to you

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Is 'Jill' the second girl to the right of you in the 'Ivory Wedding Gown' thread? I'm just asking bc she looks annoyed. I just read the entire other thread to get the background scoop and fully understand why you are harboring so much hatred for this girl. Don't send her a thank you at all. Knowing she really got to you will be true thanks for her. Seriously. She doesn't deserve the attention ... even if it is negative. Write her off. Who needs her.

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BTW, when I first read your post, I figured her middle finger was up accidentally ... now, after reading your initial post about her, I know this is not the case. What a psycho. She'd probably frame it, thinking it was the funniest thing in the world that she ruined your wedding photos. You'd be giving into her by sending her the photo.

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Posted by matron

Is 'Jill' the second girl to the right of you in the 'Ivory Wedding Gown' thread? I'm just asking bc she looks annoyed.

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Yup, you got it. Actually, I use that photo a lot because you can't see her face. In all of the pictures where she is facing the camera, she is not smiling. OH, actually, there are 2 where she smiles. One of them was their family photo (with ALL of her immediate family members) and the other was taken when we were having trouble in the elevator at the hotel. Something really funny happened and we were ALL laughing.

As luck would have it, I just found ANOTHER middle finger photo. It's also taken in front of the church, but it's with her OTHER hand! In one of them, her middle finger is above my head. In the other, her middle finger is above DH's head...

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I'm the B!1CH.
I LOVE the idea of send the middle finger thank you. I like the idea of sending it to her parents too, but maybe send them a regular one too.

I would just write: Thanks. A lot.