My friend has guy trouble need your input...

Ok she just called me at work crying. She met this guy 3 weeks ago they talked alot and went out 4 times...she slept with him on the 4th date. She said it ended well and things were fine. He has not called her since and she really liked him and is so upset. She thinks it is because she slept with him too soon. I told her to call and him and she said she called him last night and left a message. I feel bad that she is so upset, i think maybe he will still call, but she said if he did not by now he won't because they talked basically everyday except for once in a while and now it is going on 3 days. what should i tell her to do...call agin, give up...get over it...i hate to hear her so upset but i am in a relationship and can not think back and really understand how it was when i was single..tahnks.

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

IM sorry to say this but it looks like your friend has been used, unless he went away on some business trip and vacation and hasnt called her.

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

I was going to say something similar, like maybe there was a personal emergency....a sudden change in behavior can be indicative of either.... Emergency, business, or she got used.

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I'm afraid I have to agree with boosh, If things were all great before the deed was done - and now he hasn't called since - it looks like he is a jerk and thats all he wanted.

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

Unless there has been an emergency, this is pretty bad news.

Unfortunately, I don't think there is much she can do. She's already called him - I would leave it alone for the time being.

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

that is what i was afraid of. I just do not have the heart to say that to her. She said they talked at least twice a day for 2 hours and knew so much about each other in a short period of time that she felt comfortable with him and now she regrets sleeping with him. She slept with him saturday, sunday he had a family function all day with parents, cousins, from OOT and monday he works 5am-about 8pm she said so she called at 9:30 and said maybe he was sleeping and he will call her back today sometime. I just agree with her because like i said i do not have the heart to say he used her.

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

I have a female friend and something similar happened to her.. All nice before.. then to bed. Then she's walking down the street one day.. he sees her.. turns around and walks in the other direction. Real scumbag.

Guys tend to pull this sh!t and I feel bad for girls who honestly like them.

Another guy used his medical condition (cancer) to get girls. How sick is that? He would make them feel sorry for him. Then he would tell them.. don't get too attached.

But on the bright side of this behaviour--

The first girl is getting married this Saturday and the other one married one of my groomsmen last year.

So don't let your friend feel down.

Her time is coming!

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

I would also say Don't call..if he wants to get in touch with her he will..I don't know if she was used or maybe he just got scared the way the relationship was going..either way he's a jerk for not calling at least to end it...she doesn't want to be bothered with a guy like that anyway!!!

Re: My friend has guy trouble need your input...

Thank you all. I guess it will take her time to get over, i feel so bad, she felt this one was different and now this. I wish he would call her and tell her it will not work or something, the whole blowing her off thing is just Not right.