W-T-F??? What's wrong with people?

W-T-F?!?!?!?!?

I got an invite today with an RSVP date of TODAY for a bridal shower on 10/9/04?!?!?! This is the same bride who sent me an invite on 9/22/04 (RSVP 9/25) for her 10/16 wedding. She is a 'cousin' of sorts. Long story but she is not actually related.

The bridal shower invite was mailed yesterday from Brooklyn for a shower at her house in Brooklyn.

The RSVP date was 9/25 for the wedding so I am obviously a C lister which is fine since we are not 'close'. And the RSVP date is TODAY for the shower. They had my address since at least 9/22???!?!?!

I was already convinced that this was just a ploy for money and gifts since the wedding invite says bride and groom yaddda yadda yadda ......

'Monetary gifts encourgaed'

with the quotes on the invite!!!!!

I thought I was being invited to the wedding just for $$$ and I know that is the purpose behind the shower invite - which has her registry listed - Bed Bath & Beyond and her bra size is written on it too!?!?! Is that normal?

I was at least planning to attend the wedding or send a card but now I'm over that - except my mom is coming up for this wedding and is leaning toward going. Mom got her invite in August for the wedding. Not sure if she is invited to the shower though since she's in VA.

W-T-F? Is this tacky or just me over reacting?

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EXTREMELY tacky and especially mentioning giving $ for a gift and her BRA size.....What is up with that I would not go just for principle. You can not run things like that

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The BRA SIZE is on the registry card?!?!?

lol:

I'm sorry, that is so beyond wrong! and tacky.

Please don't go! That is absolutely ridiculous!

I always say : 'Who raised you!?' When I get things like that.

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That's SO tacky it's bizairre.

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BRA SIZE?

wow that is tacky. Are you going to go?

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That is just too much! People always seem to amaze me, no matter how much you expect it!

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That is just weird.

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That is VERY bizarre. I feel like you should not go, but anonymously send something really tacky, like a black leather dominatrix get-up. In her bra size, of course. And make sure it's opened at the shower.

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you mean we are not supposed to put our bra size on and wedding realted invite we send out??? holy crap - that is just toooooo bizarre to even comprehend. don't go please, send a bra, i mean a card and call it a day.

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Okay, I made a mistake. It's a BACHELORETTE'S PARTY invite with a registry card and the bra size is written on it under 'wish list'

It says
'Wish List:
Victoria's Secret
Size 36DD'

FI pointed out that it is not a shower invite - but that there may be strippers??? I would love to go just to see if they have strippers but there is no way in hell I'm going to this.

People are just SOOOO tacky!!!!!

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Shut up !!! her BRA Size is on the invite ????
That is the hilarious !!!!! who DOES that ??

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Posted by kdrainey


I thought I was being invited to the wedding just for $$$ and I know that is the purpose behind the shower invite - which has her registry listed - Bed Bath & Beyond and her bra size is written on it too!?!?! Is that normal?

W-T-F? Is this tacky or just me over reacting?

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LOL...ok...no! That is hysterical! I have never heard of that being done..the bra thing I mean. Maybe i'm nuts too..but OMG!



Seriously..everything I've read says that you NEVER put mention of gifts on the invitation for the wedding, or anything the B& G host themselves. The idea is that only someone else can write that..since it's for them. Like not drinking when people toast you..same thing.
when will people learn to read the 8 billion books on etiquette in the damn store and/or library!?! I tell ya...

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LOL LOL

I should totally send her an etiquette book!!!!! That can be my shower gift & wedding gift.

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OMG!! You should TOTALLY send an etiquette book - that would be a riot!!
I really hope you're not going to the wedding!! I would send a card and a check - for like $3 or something like that! She'll see the check and get all excited because she thinks it's going to be a big monetary gift!!

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That sounds super-tacky to me. i probaly wouldn't attend and would send a gift.

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I wouldn't go. That's really tacky. I really wouldn't want my bra size advertised on my shower invites. And there's no reason to invite people that aren't close to the bride to a shower. (JMO though )

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Bra size... oh dear...

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I never heard of such a thing but it takes all kinds to make the world go round right,
I realized today that selfish people seem to come out on top before people with values. Are you going? I don't think I would. Funny story for you. I have 2 kids with my future hubby. His older brother is in his 40s' met a girl and got engaged after a few months and married within a year of meeting. She made a big deal to both familys' about being the first daughter in law and actually excluded me from the wedding and tried to exclude me and our children from family photos because Im not married into the family yet which doesn't make me family. She had me dress the kids down for church after telling me family photos would be done at the hall, so once I left the church to change the kids she had plans on taking family photos then. Then asked me if I wanted any of my own family pictures done while the photographer was available and she would let me know how much it would be when the bill came. She tried to have me seated with friends from work while my boyfriend and his family were going to sit at the family table. They both told people that I was jealous of them being married first They had 3 showers, yes 3 and not one was his family invited too and then got insulted because his mother didn't through her one. Sorry for such along story but i could still go on about the garbage this selfish person pulled. This the same person who gave my son a set of hand towels for a christening gift(unwrapped with the price tag of 6.99 on)and didn't show up to because she had a bridal shower to set up for her self.

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I am absolutely not going to this bachelorette's party. I am not even bothering to RSVP although there are 3 phone numbers listed (one crossed out).

I do plan to attend the wedding if my mom wants to go though. She said she will come up to NY that weekend and if we decide not to go then we can just go shopping.

I also planned to give a monetary gift - a $20 check in a card. I may also toss in an etiquette book just for laughs. I doubt I'll get a thank you card though. LOL LOL

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Posted by antoinette72

I never heard of such a thing but it takes all kinds to make the world go round right,
I realized today that selfish people seem to come out on top before people with values. Are you going? I don't think I would. Funny story for you. I have 2 kids with my future hubby. His older brother is in his 40s' met a girl and got engaged after a few months and married within a year of meeting. She made a big deal to both familys' about being the first daughter in law and actually excluded me from the wedding and tried to exclude me and our children from family photos because Im not married into the family yet which doesn't make me family. She had me dress the kids down for church after telling me family photos would be done at the hall, so once I left the church to change the kids she had plans on taking family photos then. Then asked me if I wanted any of my own family pictures done while the photographer was available and she would let me know how much it would be when the bill came. She tried to have me seated with friends from work while my boyfriend and his family were going to sit at the family table. They both told people that I was jealous of them being married first They had 3 showers, yes 3 and not one was his family invited too and then got insulted because his mother didn't through her one. Sorry for such along story but i could still go on about the garbage this selfish person pulled. This the same person who gave my son a set of hand towels for a christening gift(unwrapped with the price tag of 6.99 on)and didn't show up to because she had a bridal shower to set up for her self.

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Wow, that is an awful lot of family drama. But what surprises me most about it is that your brother-in-law let her exclude you like that. He obviously has known you for years and should consider you family already. Why on earth should you be jealous that they got married first? That's just silly. You have 2 kids for God's sake!?!?1

I am kind of going through something similar but it's more so FI's nephew and his psycho girlfriend. They have been together for like 4 years and now that we are getting married she has put the pressure on him to get married. This nephew is 27 and she is almost 40 with a 10 year old son and 17 year old son!!!! I think it's hilarious. They have lived together for several years (FI and I do not live together) and now that she knows I am getting married soon she wants to get married.

But the best part is that she tried to date FI about 4 years ago within weeks of hooking up with the nephew. FI turned her down flat since he thinks she unattractive and since he knew she was already hooking up with his nephew (although she flat out lied when he asked her about it). LOL LOL LOL

Needless to say, she hates me and has tried to exclude me from family functions too but it always backfires. LOL LOL I get invited and treated great and she ends up in a corner by herself. That even happened at her boyfriend's surprise party. LOL LOL She was off in a corner sulking while I was having a great time with FI's huge family.