Need Advice- Sticky situation

Ok, so here’s the situation.
And tell me what you would do, and any opinions, thoughts…all is welcomed…
K- a bride, is no longer speaking to her MOH, and one of her bridesmaids for about a month now…. According to the BM, she says they haven’t spoken in a month, which is unusual bc they usually talk everyday. (mind u the bride, moh and this BM are best friends, glued at the hip) and now for a month, this MOH and this bm, have called left messages and nothing, (shes not dead or anything- just ignoring calls)
Now the reason apparently this may have happened is this bride has a friend that is related to this BM, and the 2 cannot stand each other, basically strangers with dirty looks….
Anyhow, I asked this BM, well are you and the MOH still in the bridal party? Her answer, I don’t think so, bc shes just plain ignoring us at this point…
Now my thoughts are, if these are your best friends, would you go by what someone else tells you or talk to ur best friends? And your MOH, how do you drop your MOH and not tell her? Mind you bm dresses have been ordered!!!

I dunno what to tell her anymore…any help ?

Re: Need Advice- Sticky situation

First, it's very strange behavior if the bride is ignoring her MOH and BM

Second, yes, maybe they should drive by the bride's house.

This is probably a huge misunderstanding and everyone is assuming certain things thus the breakdown in communication. UGH... I hate when people do this. You don't have to be confrontational but you can't be passive-aggressive and then blame the other person. The bride is being typical passive-aggressive... sorry but ignoring people is not going to solve the problem.

If the bride is not going to be the bigger person (maybe her MOH and BM just don't know what they could have done and maybe the Bride is being overly sensitive) then yes, they should go pay her a call but do so nicely. Confrontation isn't going to help.

Message edited 12/2/2004 1:04:52 PM.

Re: Need Advice- Sticky situation

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Posted by David'sbride

First, it's very strange behavior if the bride is ignoring her MOH and BM

Second, yes, maybe they should drive by the bride's house.

This is probably a huge misunderstanding and everyone is assuming certain things thus the breakdown in communication. UGH... I hate when people do this. You don't have to be confrontational but you can't be passive-aggressive and then blame the other person. The bride is being typical passive-aggressive... sorry but ignoring people is not going to solve the problem.

If the bride is not going to be the bigger person (maybe her MOH and BM just don't know what they could have done and maybe the Bride is being overly sensitive) then yes, they should go pay her a call but do so nicely. Confrontation isn't going to help.

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Re: Need Advice- Sticky situation

If they are that close I think they should just go to her house and find out what's going on. I couldn't see it really being bad if they ordered the dresses already. I had a similar problem with my MOH(dresses not ordered yet)since I moved to long island 4 yrs. ago we don't talk as much as before and see each other even less and all of the sudden she wasn't returning my calls. I finally went to her job because it's close to my house and confronted her to find out that she was was depressed about having to have surgery(a minor surgery)and over finances. So it turned out not to be about me after all. The same could be true with all the wedding stress the bride is under...we all know what that's like right! Let us know the turn out though if you could.

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They should try to reach the bride. That seems very odd that she would just "drop" them like that. I know that while I was planning my wedding there were PLENTY of times that did not take phone calls or return message from yes, even my MOH, and especially some of the BMs. Not because I was upset at anything they did, just because I was overwhelmed, too busy, or didn't have time for the inevitable hour long phone calls that I typically engage in with my close friends. There were many, many times when I needed peace and could do without their irrelevant questions (so...how should I wear MY hair) so I simply ignored their phone calls.

Eventually I got back to them, of course, or they hunted me down, which was fine. They should try that first before assuming they are out of the BP.

Re: Need Advice- Sticky situation

thanx ladies!!