FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

So, I am sitting on the computer looking at the dress I purchased yesterday when FH sneaks up behind me and goes ugh... I ask him why and he tells me I don't like the dress you are looking at. Once I told that it was my dress he got so upset for making me feel bad.

What do I do now?

If I convince the bridal shop not to order the dress and let me try on others, I will tear them all apart in my head. I will wonder each time if he is going to hate it. If I keep the dress it will always be in the back of my head that he doesn't like it.

The dress does look different in the picture on the model then it did on me. He wants to come with me to see it on. Neither of us believe that it is bad luck. Hell, at this point it may be bad luck for him not to see it.

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

Thats a tough one. my FH insisted on not even seeing one pic of any dress that i liked, hated, etc. because he wants to be surprised. but if you say the dress looks different on you than it does in the pic (most of them do) you just need to decide whether or not u want him to see it on you before the wedding or go with your gut that this is THE ONE. i am sure if you loved it enough to order it, it is going to look beautiful on you... but on the other hand, its going to bother you until your wedding day that the man you are going to marry might not like the dress (which i cant see happening).

I am really of no help

eta.. can you post the pic of the dress?

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

I know he would think I looked stunning in a paper bag. I just cant can't the ughh out of my head.

Here's the link to the dress:

Dress

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

ok see there you have it.. look at the girl in the pic! she looks ridiculous! i think that dress would look amazing on someone, just not that model. you have to go with what you feel good in and what makes you happy. if the dress looks great on you, then go for it. if you want your FH to see you in it first, just to get his opinion, than maybe you should do that.

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i agree... toughie...

hmmm... I just saw the picture, maybe it has something to do with the angle that the model is sitting at?

I, personally, thing it's beautiful - i love the detail at the bottom!

someone really needs to tell FH to keep his dress opinions to himself

But, anyways, you'll be his bride, so i'm sure he'll think YOU'LL look beautiful in anything... You have to think... do you love it, if so, it's your dress, and you need to be happy with it, or, you could go and look again.

Best of luck with your decision!

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I personally think that it is a beautiful dress....I think that sometimes guys speak without thinking. I can't imagine canceling my gown (because it took me so long to find and I love it so much). Guys usually aren't as detailed...I doubt that he is going to remember all the details of what the gown looks like by your wedding date. I hope this helps.

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

I guarantee you he said 'Ugh' because of the model, not the dress - she looks like she's squatting to pee!!!!!

The dress is really beautiful and if the model had posed standing up straight and holding a bouquet, your FH would have had a different reaction.

Get the dress - it's great and you'll look gorgeous!

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

This reminds of of when my brother decided to announce that he can't STAND strapless gowns after attending the wedding of a friend (whose bride wore strapless). My SIL had JUST purchased her STRAPLESS wedding gown the week before.

On his wedding day, I was pleased to see my brother's jaw drop at how gorgeous SIL looked when she walked into the church-in her strapless wedding gown. He commented throughout the day at how beautiful she was. So much for 'hating' strapless gowns....

Sometimes men are idiots - they need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves unless asked for it. Honestly, that picture you posted is NOT a good representation of what the dress looks like in real life. I'll bet if you asked FI to decribe it right now, he'll only remember the awkward pose the model was in.

Please DON'T have FI go with you to see the dress. If that dress gave you the 'this is the one' feeling, then it IS the one. Just think of how many dresses look 'blah' on the hanger, but stunning once tried on? Same thing.... think of that model as a hanger - I very skinny, malnourished, strangely contorted hanger......

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

Thank you ladies. I think I feel better now.



Still not sure what I am going to do. I think I may go back with my sister today and see if they will let me try it on. Maybe that will put my mind at ease.

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

i totally agree!! that dress is gorgeous!! it's hard to imagine how it would look on a 'normal' person from looking at it!

that's the dress you love, so stick with your gut! i'm sure your fh will think your gorgeous no matter what!!!!

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

Yes, the model looks ridiculous. Did you ask him what he did not like about it? Maybe take him to the store and see what he thinks. If he still does not like it or you do not trust that he does, why don't you sit with him and look at dresses together on the net to see what he likes and dislikes, and from there you would get a better idea of what to look for in a dress?

BTW The dress IS gorgeous!

Re: FH Doesn't like my dress - Re-Post from BHB

keep your dress! and don't involve him i say...you love it (and i think its a VERY beautiful dress-very ala REEM with the beadwork) and that's what matters. i think if you stick to what you like you won't have the issue of tearing apart dresses wondering about what your FH would think and all the what-ifs. i'm positve he thinks you're beautiful and you can wear anything and he's still think that. but i'm also the kind of person who would keep it just to spite the 'ugh' my FH let out-to PROVE how pretty it is!

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it has everything to do with the model!!! keep the dress - don't stress it, men are not good with this kind of thing!

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I guarantee you he said 'Ugh' because of the model, not the dress - she looks like she's squatting to pee!!!!!
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exactly!!! I agree. I don't know why they don't pose the models more like brides.