I'm somewhat heartbroken....

DH and I talked about trying again soon....and he said he wants to wait a little...not long and with my waiting for AF to come again, it's probably another whole month!

But here is why, and I didn't know until I actually asked him: He is heartbroken....he looks at little kids and gets sad because he was all geared up and excited about us having one. He wants to get to where he was when we first started trying...being excited about it. He's still hurting right now and is afraid of it happening again.

I love him dearly...and I know we'll be ready soon enough. *sigh*

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Hi there. I know what you're going through. I have had two m/c and my dh and I are now going for tests just to be safe before trying again. It's very tough and sad to see other kids and people pregnant. Everyone around me is pregnant but I just know it's not our time yet. Take time to heal and be there for each other. It will happen for you. Best of luck!

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What a sensitive, insightful man you are married to. You will both make wonderful parents when the time is right.

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Good Luck Shana the time will come!! I wish you both the best!!

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Hang in there. It's great that he can express his feelings to you. I am sure that he will be ready soon enough.

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These things take time to heal - at least your DH is openly talking about it with you - which I think is wonderful. At least this is something you are going through 'together' and he is right there with you - it makes it easier to get through.
Your Dh is going to make a wonderful father - I love the fact that he is so sensitive.

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It's wonderful that he is telling you how he feels - it does take time...I know I'm petrified that it will happen again and I'm sure it's no different for the man. When it's meant to be it will happen again and it will bring about a beautiful result! Let him, and you, take some time and don't stress about it - you'll be parents soon!

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Hang in there, Shana ... I think its really positive that Rich is expressing his feelings about TTC again . Its obviously been as hard on him as it has been for you, and he just needs a little more time to grieve

Many hugs for you. When the time is right , you are both going to be wonderful parents

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Im sorry you are going through this..I know it hurts..and I hope that pain eases soon so that you can get excited again! It will happen for you guys..just hang in there!!

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Shana be thankful he is being so open and embarce it. Frankie didn't really want to talk about my miscarriage and he did NOT get excited about this pregnancy at all, simply because he was PETRIFIED to get that excited again. When I took the first test and said Frankie I think I am pregnant again, he said well we have been down this road before
and that was it Once he saw the baby he started coming around more and more and now that I am showing he is very doting.

I know the waiting is hard but you want to wait until you have both mourned and you know everyone mourns differently. Take the time and enjoy the practice until you ready to go for it.

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Thank You so much Jamie and Everyone!! We're getting there....we've finally started 'acting' like a husband and wife if ya know what I mean and the emotions are there, but we are holding hands and praying and walking the road together.

We'll be there soon!!!

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Thank You so much Jamie and Everyone!! We're getting there....we've finally started 'acting' like a husband and wife if ya know what I mean and the emotions are there, but we are holding hands and praying and walking the road together.

We'll be there soon!!!

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That's great Shana.

Let this tradegy have one great outcome, and that is bringing you too even closer.

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So sorry for your miscarriage. I wish I knew what to say to make you and your husband feel better.

I agree use this as a way to bring the two of you closer together.

I wish you both well.

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I don't know what to say Shana except

Your husband sounds like a sensitive, caring man. I wish you both all the best, this must be very difficult.