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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4000 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Tipping vendors
So, I am adjusting my budget for additional tips and don't want to miss anyone.
Who are you tipping?
and how much?
Maitre D ($1 - 3 per guest?)
bridal attendant
bathroom attendant
coat check (if you have one)
florist delivery
2 photographers & assistant
video
(not planning to have limos)
day of wedding coordinator
bartenders
valets
Anyone else?
Thanks
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Posted 1/11/05 10:34 PM 
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halfpintny
Finally an Andolfi!!!!
Member since 10/04 1581 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/13/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Miller Place Inn
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Re: Tipping vendors
Floral delivery? Doesn't the florist deliver them to the hall? I'm so confused. Do you really have to tip the bartenders? Don't the guests do that? Same for the valet???
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Posted 1/11/05 10:39 PM
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gNi1125
Caught my lobster!
Member since 1/05 6243 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/4/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on The Bay
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Re: Tipping vendors
I am not going to tip the bartenders, valet, coat check, and bathroom attendants because they will be recieving tips from the guests. I have enough tipping to do that night 
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Posted 1/12/05 1:18 AM
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gina&ken
Board Fanatic
Member since 1/04 707 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/16/2005 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Stewart Manor CC
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by halfpintny
Floral delivery? Doesn't the florist deliver them to the hall? I'm so confused. Do you really have to tip the bartenders? Don't the guests do that? Same for the valet???
for floral delivery, i think she meant for the flowers that are delivered to your house (the boquets)
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Posted 1/12/05 8:38 AM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4000 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Re: Tipping vendors
Yes, I mean the bouquets.
I am trying to think of everyone we may need to tip. Some halls do not allow bartenders to have a tip jar. I still tip and leave it on the bar but some people, if they don't see a tip jar, will not tip. I suppose guests will all tip the valets though?
Who are you guys tipping? How much are you budgeting for tips? I expect 115 (inviting 149 though - 151 incluind me & FI).
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Posted 1/12/05 9:08 AM
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amyandeddie
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 5/04 1567 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/14/2005 2:30 PM
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Re: Tipping vendors
If you get married at a hall you are already paying between 18-20% gratuity for this purpose, that means you don't have to tip bridal attendants, wait staff including bartenders or valets. Unless of course you feel they went above and beyond your expectations.
At Giorgios they tell you up front that you get two Mds $300 cash is the fee.
Florist delivery you don't "have" to since you are paying for it.
I don't plan on tipping photographer/videographer until I see their work.
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Posted 1/12/05 10:57 AM
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Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Meadow Jewish Center
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by amyandeddie
If you get married at a hall you are already paying between 18-20% gratuity for this purpose, that means you don't have to tip bridal attendants, wait staff including bartenders or valets. Unless of course you feel they went above and beyond your expectations.
At Giorgios they tell you up front that you get two Mds $300 cash is the fee.
Florist delivery you don't "have" to since you are paying for it.
I don't plan on tipping photographer/videographer until I see their work.
I agree, also add gratuity for DJ/Band?? If you think they were x-tra wonderful!
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Posted 1/12/05 11:35 AM
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David'sbride
Soon to be Mom of Twins!!!!
Member since 7/04 3412 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/4/2005 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by amyandeddie
If you get married at a hall you are already paying between 18-20% gratuity for this purpose, that means you don't have to tip bridal attendants, wait staff including bartenders or valets. Unless of course you feel they went above and beyond your expectations.
At Giorgios they tell you up front that you get two Mds $300 cash is the fee.
Florist delivery you don't "have" to since you are paying for it.
I don't plan on tipping photographer/videographer until I see their work.
I feel exactly the same way. We do not plan on tipping the BM until we hear about the service from our guests. I might just have my FFIL drop it off the next day.
I worked as a waitress all through college and grad school and I strongly feel that tips are not to be expected. After all it stands for To Insure Proper Service... all of these built in and expected TIPS are obnoxious. I'm not cheap. When I do get good service I usually overtip but the service must come first.
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Posted 1/12/05 1:03 PM
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Ladybug63
Baby on the Brain
Member since 11/03 1100 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/23/2005 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Timber Point CC
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Re: Tipping vendors
Matre'd $2-$4 pp - $300.00
Bridal Attendant - $50.00
Photographer - $100.00
Photographer's assistant - $40.00
Priest - $100.00
Florist - $25.00
Make-Up - $35.00
Limos (each) - $50.00
Hair - $35.00
Total - $735.00
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Posted 1/12/05 1:44 PM
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jesslangen
The love of my Life!
Member since 9/04 3156 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Rocky Point
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Re: Tipping vendors
I don't mean to sound naive, and I'm not getting married by a priest...but you tip the priest? I would have never thought to tip a priest. I mean, are they allowed to accept tips?
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Posted 1/12/05 1:54 PM
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ANA6178
Board Fanatic
Member since 9/04 311 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/25/2005 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Estate at East WInd
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by jesslangen
I don't mean to sound naive, and I'm not getting married by a priest...but you tip the priest? I would have never thought to tip a priest. I mean, are they allowed to accept tips?
They are allowed to accept a tip. My sister tipped the preist and I plan on tipping him as well.
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Posted 1/12/05 2:13 PM
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marc_rai
It's almost JULY!!!! ACK!
Member since 9/04 2368 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crest Hollow
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Re: Tipping vendors
I definetly feel as if you should tip the priest. If they don't accept tips, then make a donation to the church or wherever you are getting married.
I agree on not tipping photographers and videographers until you see the proofs or tapes. Not tipping the bartenders, etc...
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Posted 1/12/05 3:26 PM
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tray831
Where did my wedding day go?
Member since 5/04 1863 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/10/2005 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind--NH
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Re: Tipping vendors
If the photographer, videographer and DJ are all owners of their companies and working the night of (which is in my case)......does the tip for them change?
Would it still be $100 for each, and then less for their assistants?
How does this work???  
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Posted 1/12/05 3:36 PM
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jill13bean
Where did the time go?
Member since 1/04 2894 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2005 7:30 PM
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The wedding of my dreams!!!
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by gNi1125
I am not going to tip the bartenders, valet, coat check, and bathroom attendants because they will be recieving tips from the guests. I have enough tipping to do that night
this is why you tip them....so they do not have a tip cup out
you want to avoid guests feeling obligated to tip
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Posted 1/12/05 3:40 PM
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nylibride
Home improvement expert now...
Member since 3/04 1095 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by jill13bean
Posted by gNi1125
I am not going to tip the bartenders, valet, coat check, and bathroom attendants because they will be recieving tips from the guests. I have enough tipping to do that night
this is why you tip them....so they do not have a tip cup out
you want to avoid guests feeling obligated to tip
I know all the tips really add up, but I definitely don't want any guests to have to tip anyone on that day either or feeling that they should, have to agree with Jill13bean.
Message edited 1/12/2005 3:46:31 PM.
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Posted 1/12/05 3:46 PM
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jesslangen
The love of my Life!
Member since 9/04 3156 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Rocky Point
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by ANA6178
Posted by jesslangen
I don't mean to sound naive, and I'm not getting married by a priest...but you tip the priest? I would have never thought to tip a priest. I mean, are they allowed to accept tips?
They are allowed to accept a tip. My sister tipped the preist and I plan on tipping him as well.
Thanks for the explanation! 
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Posted 1/12/05 3:49 PM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4000 total posts
Wedding Date:
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by amyandeddie
If you get married at a hall you are already paying between 18-20% gratuity for this purpose, that means you don't have to tip bridal attendants, wait staff including bartenders or valets. Unless of course you feel they went above and beyond your expectations.
At Giorgios they tell you up front that you get two Mds $300 cash is the fee.
Florist delivery you don't "have" to since you are paying for it.
I don't plan on tipping photographer/videographer until I see their work.
so, the only tips I need to take in csah are Maitre D& dj - great. We are likely not doing limos & my regular sylist is doing my hair/make up so her tip in already in the hair/make up budet
FI's cousin is a minister & will marry us - but we will give him something. He does not have his own church so no donation.
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Posted 1/12/05 4:10 PM
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gNi1125
Caught my lobster!
Member since 1/05 6243 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/4/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on The Bay
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Re: Tipping vendors
Posted by jill13bean
Posted by gNi1125
I am not going to tip the bartenders, valet, coat check, and bathroom attendants because they will be recieving tips from the guests. I have enough tipping to do that night
this is why you tip them....so they do not have a tip cup out
you want to avoid guests feeling obligated to tip
Tip cups are out if they are allowed by the hall. I can't tip the bartenders $100 and then expect them to put their tip cups away when they would make more than that anyway. That's how they make a living. Tips aren't mandatory from guests, but if they would like to do so, then it is their choice. On the other hand some halls prohibit tipping the bartenders alltogether from guests...then I would def. tip. JMO.
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Posted 1/12/05 9:44 PM
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chachou22
I am in wedding bliss!!!!!
Member since 10/04 1864 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/31/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Huntington townhouse
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Re: Tipping vendors
I am tipping the
DJ/mc 40 Each
DOC 50-75 it all depends
Photo and video 40 x3
Limos 40x 3
Maitr'D $2 pp
Bridal Atendant & 50-75
Bouquet delivery $25
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Posted 1/12/05 9:52 PM
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neeniebean86
live. love. laugh.
Member since 8/04 6576 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/19/2005 11:00 AM
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Re: Tipping vendors
anytime i've been to a wedding, whether there was a tip cup out or not, we tipped. a tip cup would not make me feel obligated... like someone else said, its how they make their living, and most people know this.
as for tipping vendors that are owners, youre NOT supposed to. they are already making all of the money on it. tips are for *employees* b/c they dont make the money that the owners do (although, for what we're paying, they Should!)
same thing with the delivery guys (for flowers, etc...). Unless its the owner delivering it, you should tip them like $10-$20/25. same theory as how you would tip a pizza delivery guy (though a little more $$$).
ETS: and most Bridal attendants dont see any of the 18% either ... so them, you should also tip separately
Message edited 1/12/2005 9:56:31 PM.
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Posted 1/12/05 9:54 PM
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ravens_bride
Off planning Aunt's wedding
Member since 7/04 1154 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/10/2005 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Huntington Townhouse A+
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Re: Tipping vendors
My Hall told me that the only tip for their employees would be the maitre-d the gratuity covers the rest. Though I am not having a bartender anyway.
With the flowers be careful a friend of mine found out 2 weeks before the wedding that the florist she was using required a 30% tip up front!!!
And I agree with Neenie owners aren't tipped. My hairdresser says by etiquet she isn't supposed to accept a tip. (she's the owner)
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Posted 1/12/05 10:07 PM
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