Friday Night Weddings

Most likely I will be having my wedding on a Friday night. 4:30 ceremony, 5:00 to 6:00 cocktail hr., 6:00 to 11:00 reception. I keep hearing from people (mostly on my FI side) that people will probably not come to your ceremony or come late because they have to work. They said I should have it on a Sunday because people are off. I really wanted a Sat night but sorry it didn't fit my budget. So many people have Friday night weddings now. I don't see the problem. Do you???

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We had a Friday night wedding...all I can say to you is that whoever wants to be there - regardless of work or whatnot - will be there.

We had a packed church (our ceremony was at 6:30 - though it didn't start until about 7:15 )...

I heard all the "arguments" too - bottom line, this is the date we wanted and it worked for us.

Personally, as a guest, I prefer a Friday night to a Sunday night wedding...with a Friday night, you have the rest of the weekend opn...with a Sunday night, you have to get up for work the next day.....

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Message edited 10/4/2006 12:24:17 PM.

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We are having our wedding on a friday night.
Cermony is at 7:30 pm
cocktail is 8-9 pm
reception 9-1

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I, too, had a Friday night wedding and agree that whoever wants to be there, will be there. Our cermony started at 6:30 and there wasn't an empty seat in the house.

I would also prefer a Friday wedding to a Sunday night wedding especially if I have to travel. I would be more apt to leave early because of Monday morning work. Most people also don't have a problem leaving work early on a Friday if they have to.

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We are having our wedding at 6:00 pm cocktail hour 7:00 to 8:00 reception until 12 midnight.

I think that a Friday wedding is the best the people that matter to you will be at the ceramony and that is all that counts all the close Family and friends will make it there business to get off work early and stuff. so don't worry about it everyone might not show up to the ceramony but they will surely be at the reception Good Luck finding a date

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We aer having a friday, daytime wedding and people know they just have to take the day off if they want to come. No one so far has had a problem with that.

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No problem. The people that love you and want to be there for your ceremony and can make it, will be there.
I've taken days off to be at friend's weddings who got married on a Friday. I'd much more prefer to take a day off to see a friend get married than be in the office!

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Maybe you can push your ceremony up an hour and have your reception go later. People won't mind a late party if they have time to get there.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with Friday night weddings but definitely think about your guest list. Do you think it will be really hard for some of your guests to get there on Friday? Would it be easier for them and you to have it on Sunday? Keep in mind that if you have a lot of people with a long drive, they'll probably have to take a day off either way.

Personally, I'd rather have people come a little late than leave early which is what a lot of people will do on a Sunday. Anyone who really wants to be at your ceremony will take the time off work to be there anyway.

Good luck!!

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I am having Friday night, the way I see it the important people will be there. I have also heard from many of the reception halls - Friday Night weddings people eat more, drink more and party harder! SOunds good to me

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Posted by TEDNJENN

We are having our wedding on a friday night.
Cermony is at 7:30 pm
cocktail is 8-9 pm
reception 9-1

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if they come late, they come late. as long as they get there. we're having a 7:00 ceremony, 7:30-8:30 cocktail and 8:30-12:30 reception

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I love the excuse to leave work early!
I am goingto one in October.

Not everyone made it to my ceremony & it was 4 pm on Saturday!

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I am having a 4pm ceremony, cocktails from 6:30-7:30 and the reception from 7:30 until 11:30. As a person who has traveled to many oot weddings, I'd MUCH rather leave work either early or take a Friday off to travel than be hung over for work on Monday. Especially in the summer--I'm ALWAYS looking for an excuse to leave work early!

I figure, who ever wants to be there on time will make the effort, those who chose NOT to go to the ceremony--they miss out!

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We are also having ours on a friday night...we were worried about people coming late or having to leave work early or take off...we just figured if they really want to be there they will...We ended up booking the friday after thanksgiving so majority of people are off that night...I have taken off for plenty of friday night weddings...people will do the same for yours...

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I'll be honest about this. I'd go to the ceremony depending on whose wedding it was. If it's a close family member or very close friend, I'd go and take a few hours off from work. Otherwise, I'd skip the ceremony and likely get to the reception late.

I was invited to a friend's wedding last year. The wedding was on a Friday night and was pretty far out in NJ (near PA). I realized that my FI and I would both have to take the day off to attend the wedding. The drive itself would be over 2 hours. Once you figured traffic into the equation, it'd be at least a 3 hour drive. If I left work normally, waited for my FI to get home, both got ready, we wouldn't have gotten there until close to 10pm. Long story short: we didn't go.

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We are also having a Friday wedding. Saturdays in June were just out of our budget. My ceremony/mass is at 3:30 and reception starts at 7pm. I sent out save the dates about 11 mos. before, so those that want to come will, those that don't won't. My FMIL is paranoid that none of her family will show up. Too bad if they don't. You can't please everyone. Do what's good for you.

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Yup, whoever wants to be there will! People just like to give their unwanted opinion, don't listen!

We're having our ceremony at 3pm...cocktail hour starts at 7pm and reception lasts until 1am. I would much rather leave work early on Friday than take off Monday - so a Friday wedding trumped a Sunday night one in my book.

Good luck and don't stress!

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I am doing the Friday night too. Don't worry anyone who wants to be there will be there. Everyone in my family so far has gotten married on a Friday night. I am #5 in the family and every wedding has been packed including the church. Think about it if you do a Sunday people may leave your reception early b/c of work. People might also have a long drive back if they are ott or whatever it works out to be about the same. Personally, i like Friday b/c you have the whole weekend to do whatever or recoup You guys can't listen to everyone else, do what you want! Good luck!

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We are having a Friday night wedding and we were also concerned abut people not coming to the ceremony. My advice would be to move the taime down a little. I think 4:30 is pretty early, especially for a Friday. Places don't seem to charge that much differently and that would ensure that more people will be at the ceremony. We our having our ceremony at 6:30 or 7 (haven't decided if we are adding an extra 30 min to the ch yet).

Also, I'm not sure if this applies to you or not but we are having our ceremony at the Reception hall so that people didn't have to go to a church first and then to the reception.

Hope this helps

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Im having a friday night wedding and my ceremony is at 430 full mass- who ever comes comes, Im not worried. the cocktail starts at 7pm. Like others said your immediate family will be there and believe it or not but people do come.

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Ditto on the 4:30 being a bit early but as all said here the people that want to come will come (and those are the ones you want sharing your day anyway right?). You have another option other than sunday though, you could have a saturday day as well

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Our ceremony was at 3:00 and we had a lot of people show up. I never imagined that many people would be there. I don't regret one bit having a Friday night wedding. everyone had 2 days to recover

Message edited 1/28/2005 7:54:45 PM.

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Posted by shellnroc

Most likely I will be having my wedding on a Friday night. 4:30 ceremony, 5:00 to 6:00 cocktail hr., 6:00 to 11:00 reception. I keep hearing from people (mostly on my FI side) that people will probably not come to your ceremony or come late because they have to work. They said I should have it on a Sunday because people are off. I really wanted a Sat night but sorry it didn't fit my budget. So many people have Friday night weddings now. I don't see the problem. Do you???

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Message edited 1/28/2005 8:44:59 PM.