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How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
kaklesmay
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:02 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:02 PM
How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Im newly engaged and feel like some friends expect to be asked to be in my bridal party immediately. Like, guess what? Im engaged! will you be one of my bridesmaids?How long were you guys engaged before you decided on your bridal party members?
I really havent absorbed the engaged thing yet, let alone knowing the # of people I want to have stand beside me.
ADVICE??
kellwolfe
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:08 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:08 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Number one: congratulation and welcome!I didn't ask my girls for a whole ....I asked my MOH but that's my sister and it was unspoken that she was going to be my MOH ...or my mother would kill me ...
but I was engaged about 2 mts. before anything was said .....Just remember there so happy for you thats why there jumpy! its a good thing
marymoon
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:09 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:09 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Take your time! Soak it all in and think about it before you make a decision. If you're having an e-party that might be a good time to tell them o r you cna have a special get together just to invite the BP. We called people up immediately (as in within an hour) 'We're engaged, want to be a groomsman?' and I kind of regret it in some ways because I didn't have to time to devise a nice way of asking them with a pretty card or something, and I didn't even pick all of my BMs yet, so some have known for a year and a half and some have yet to find out, and I kind of don't want them to know that. Also FH asked someone who I'm really not thrilled with ebing in it. It's better to take the time to think it through. Don't let people pressure you. When you are ready to ask them, they will be more than thrilled to have the honor.
leese
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:24 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:24 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
welcome!I waited about 3 months...it's acutally better to make sure WHO you want to be in the wedding party rather than make rash decisions.
glinda_goodwitch
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:27 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:27 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
For some reason, I really wanted the bridal party to be set prettymuch right away, so I asked people as we told them we were engaged. But you can wait a while. I would definitely tell anyone who may be even a possibility for your BP that you are engaged right away though.
glinda_goodwitch
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:28 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:28 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Oh, and of course, welcome to the boards and happy planning!
GsCM4EVA
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:30 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:30 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
i had the same ?i just asked my MOH last week..been engaged for like 3 months...
Nali
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:32 PM+
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Welcome and congrats!!!
I knew my MOH right away, the rest of the BMs, I thought long and hard about but not too long only 3 months later I asked the rest of them....Do not stress it...is the number one key. Today u can have more BMs than GM doesn't matter, its your day DO IT YOUR WAY!!!
serendipity0680
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:33 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:33 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
First of all Congratulations and welcome to LIW! I Waited between 3 and 5 motnhs before I asked my bridal party. Spend time just enjoying this great moment in your life before you rush into all of the intricate wedding planning.
Goldi1021
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:47 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:47 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
We had been planning our engagement for months before it actually happened so we discussed our bridal party at length. No one (friends or family) expected to be in the BP.
mbm750
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:49 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:49 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
welcome and congrats! i still haven't asked everyone... and i've been engaged since january. fh just asked his guys this weekend.
kaklesmay
Posted: May 31, 2005 02:59 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 02:59 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Very helpful everyone!! Thanks!
july06bride
Posted: May 31, 2005 03:22 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 03:22 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
i knew before the engagement, I asked about a month later offically...
LMFitz
Posted: May 31, 2005 03:33 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 03:33 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Except for my MOH (my sister), I didn't ask anyone for almost a year. I didn't want to ask them when it was still so far away - I wanted it to be tangible, with a date, location and some other details (but also, by the time we're married, it will have been a 28 month engagement).
psf80
Posted: May 31, 2005 03:35 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 03:35 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
I've been engaged since September and with the exception of my FSIL, I haven't asked anyone and I don't intend to until August or September. Take your time, don't feel pressured to ask. Enjoy being engaged
hsacks23r
Posted: May 31, 2005 03:37 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 03:37 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
i wated 2 months before asking my girls. you want to make sure the ones you ask will NOT stress you out but help you all the way. I asked my daugters adopted god mother (long storie) to be my maid of honor and not my sister for the simple fact she would have totaly stressed me out. think about for a while my fiance still has not asked his men yet.good luck
CKJ906
Posted: May 31, 2005 03:39 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 03:39 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
i'm engaged 6 months and i didn't ask yet
SIBride06
Posted: May 31, 2005 04:11 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 04:11 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
My MOH was there when my FI proposed. It was kind of understood between the both of us that she would be my maid of Honor, although it was a subject never brought up before I was engaged. We both just knew, so I said right on the spot.. Michelle.. YOUR MY MOH!!! (Kind of a crasy way to ask but thats just how we are.About my bridal party.. Ive still yet to ask one other girl. The rest of my bridal party I have asked months ago. Some of the girls were asked at my engagement party last August.
It all depends on you. Def think about it, and dont rush into ANYTHING to avoid regret down the road.
Noiva06
Posted: May 31, 2005 04:14 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 04:14 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
Congrats and welcome!!!I have been engaged 6 months and just recently decided and asked my bridesmaids....
It's better to wait then to ask early..I have heard a lot of stories about girls who asked to early and wish they could take it back....
Take your time!!
sarahbelle
Posted: May 31, 2005 04:20 PM+

Posted: May 31, 2005 04:20 PM
Re: How long were you engaged??-Bridal party question
I asked my sister before we got engaged
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