So I'm a little upset....UPDATED

When my sister got married two months ago, my mother threw an absolute hissy fit because my sister wanted only my father to walk her down the aisle. Well, now, trying to keep myself from a huge argument with my mother and a crying hissy fit on her part, I just said whatever and told her to walk me down the aisle with my dad, too. But I really do not want this, and I have no way around or our of it or else she will cry and be a total b!tch about it, and I don't have the mental strength to deal with that right before my wedding. I just think it's TOO many people in a small aisle. It's nothing against her, but I just think it looks like the bride is being dragged down the aisle by her parents when they are both walking her down. JMHO. It's not what I want, and I'm really upset about this. I know I have to just deal, but it's hard.

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I hear ya.. my mom wants to walk me down too. I never really gave it a second thought though because I thought it was cute of her to want to do this

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Posted by Future_Mrs_B

I hear ya.. my mom wants to walk me down too. I never really gave it a second thought though because I thought it was cute of her to want to do this

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See, with my mom, I don't think it has anything to do with wanting to walk me down the aisle. It has to do with her not being in the spotlight if she doesn't walk me down the aisle. I LOVE my mom, and we have a GREAT relationship, but sometimes, when she's not getting the attention, she cannot handle it. She's like a small child. I'm just annoyed and upset, but at the same time, I feel guilty for feeling this way. I guess I have to remember that it's just that one moment of my day, but it's not how I envisioned it.

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Rachel, that *****!

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can you tell her that if she walks down alone, people will see her and her dress better? Make it seem like the spotlight will shine bigger on her that way?

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Why not suggest that your brother or other member of the family walks her down the aisle just before you and the bridal party enter....then she gets her moment in the spotlight and you wont be knocking pews over on the way up the aisle!!

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She could be walked down the aisle before the wedding party by a family member. How does she feel about that?

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I too think that someone else should escort her down the aisle. I know you said she threw a hissy fit but doesnt she know that this is YOUR day to be in the spotlight??????

I am sorry you have to go through this!

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I told my mom that I want my dad only to walk me down the aisle. I also told her that I am honoring her in a different way by having her sign my Ketubah (Jewish marriage contract). Since I am marrying a Catholic, we’re going to have an inter-faith Ketubah and anyone can sign the Ketubah as a witness. When I told her that she was very happy!

In a traditional Jewish marriage, only males who are not in your immediate family and can write their name in Hebrew can sign it.

Maybe you can find another way to honor your mom?

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Have you considered walking alone?

Your mom and dad could walk before you and give you away once you get to the bottom.

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We had JT walk my mom down the aisle before the bridal party for my sister's wedding, and she was not happy about that. In fact, that's what she was po-ed about. UGH. Whatever. I think I will just tell her she can walk NEXT TO ME, but not touch me. THis way it doesn't look like she's holding me up. ARGH.

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See what your mom says about your brother or maybe an uncle walking her down, even right before you - maybe that will work? I'm a big believer that you should make decisions to make your close family happy, but ONLY if it does not conflict with something you or your FH really want for your day. After all, your day, your way. If it didn't mean so much to you to have just dad, then I would say let her walk with you. But since it seems to upset you so much, try to find a solution to make you both happy. good luck.

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maybe just have your mom walk you down then? so they'res only the 2 of you?

dosen't the little things like this (and the order etc.. (which is killing me!) stink! )

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You have to tell her that it's just too bad....do it now and she'll have time to calm down.

I am going to have my mom meet us at the front pew and walk with me and daddy to FH. Maybe you can do that instead....

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I'm sorry you're going through this. FH is going through the same problem. He wants to be standing at the alter waiting for me and his mom and step dad want to walk him down the isle. He did put up a fight, but it got so out of control, that he just gave in and are letting them get their way even though it's not what he wants. It's such a shame that we are forced to do things that we really don't want to do just to make others happy.

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U have to do what makes u happy
for me I wanted both of my parents to walk me down the aisle, and we had room,
I dont have a full length pic on me but heres an idea of how it looked (lol yes i'm much taller then my parents)

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i am so sorry that you're going through this. What if she walked down alone before the bridal party? Maybe someone already mentioned this. That way- she'll be in the spotlight and have no one else to share it with. I hope this works out for you.