Repost from '05: Invitation issue

Both of my parents are remarried and I do want my step-parents names on the invites.

So, which name goes first on the invites..my mother and step-father or father and step-mother?

2nd question. Is it horrible if we don't put FH's parents on the invites? They are also divorced and FFIL is re-married. Both FH & I thought that it would be too wordy to include all of those names. Additionally, my parents are 'hosting' the reception so, we thought it would be fine. Any thoughts would be GREATLY appreciated.

Re: Repost from '05: Invitation issue

personally, i would put both sets of parents or none at all

even if youre parents are hosting, why woudl you want to slight your in-laws but not including them?

and I say father first, then your mom and her husband but im not etiquette expert

Re: Repost from '05: Invitation issue

You can't do 'together with our parents'? My FMIL didn't contribute to the wedding(other than rehersal dinner) but did ask FH how much we spent ourselves and is giving us half. I didn't want to upset anyone.

Re: Repost from '05: Invitation issue

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Posted by JPC1125

personally, i would put both sets of parents or none at all

even if youre parents are hosting, why woudl you want to slight your in-laws but not including them?

and I say father first, then your mom and her husband but im not etiquette expert

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FILs have not contributed a single dime to our wedding (even though we asked)...when it came time for the invitation wording they were not on it. They do not deserve any credit at all

Re: Repost from '05: Invitation issue

here's what's in one of my wedding planning books (just finished this chapter too):

Mr. & Mrs. John Smith (mother & stepfather - this author thinks your mom should come first)
and
Mr. & Mrs. Ted Anderson (father & stepmother)
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Ann Margaret
to Mr. Alex Peter Jones
son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Jones
Sunday, the twelfth of June
at three o'clock
At the X & Y Club
123 ABC Avenue
Town, State

hope this helps!

ps - the book also has suggested text for if your parents want to send separate invitations, etc.

Edited for spelling.

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Posted by mbm750

here's what's in one of my wedding planning books (just finished this chapter too):

Mr. & Mrs. John Smith (mother & stepfather - this author thinks your mom should come first)
and
Mr. & Mrs. Ted Anderson (father & stepmother)
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Ann Margaret
to Mr. Alex Peter Jones
son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Jones
Sunday, the twelfth of June
at three o'clock
At the X & Y Club
123 ABC Avenue
Town, State

hope this helps!

ps - the book also has suggested text for if your parents want to send separate invitations, etc.

Edited for spelling.

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That does help, thanks! OK, so Mom's name goes first... sounds good. I'll make the change tonight.

I talked to FH again and we are going to leave his parent's name off of the invite. I don't think that it will cause too many problems, but I just wanted to run it by some other brides to see what you guys thought. His family has been big on doing things traditionally (i.e. brides family paying for everything for the reception) so I can't see why they would have a problem with us having a 'traditional' invitation. We'll see though...