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Ok...I don't mean to pry and get all in your private business... I was just curious as to what other couples are doing today....

IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE ANSWERING THEIS QUESTION, THAN DON'T.

Are putting off 'being intimate' with your FI anytime before the wedding day? In other words, are you not having sex or not being intimate with your fiance for a specified amount of time before your wedding? If so, how long?

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I'll go first...

Fi and I have not yet discussed it but I would like to hold off for some time. I'm not sure how long, but I definetely don't want to do anything like that week. I'm not even sure how Fi will feel about this!!

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I am..and it's not on purpose, believe me! LOL we just never have time for it as much anymore!!!!

actually, i've thought about it- maybe we'll hold off for a month, but anything longer will REALLY turn me into a bridezilla!

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I haven't really thought about it since we've got a year to go yet. But I doubt that we'll go on hiatus like that. I don't see the need just to make us more stressed out and anxious over something else. I'd rather enjoy that time with my FI just b4 our wedding day, instead of having to stay away. Besides, being that we live together it would just be torture for the both of us.

And don't worry about the question, I think it's fine to discuss.

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Nope.... I mean the night before I will be staying at my moms .....

But I am sleeping with him now have been for the last two year - and will be for the rest of my life .....

I could see under stress maybe we may not be the closer it gets but not because its planned - at this point what difference does it make -

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I've talked to FI about it recently and we decided to hold off for 1 week. For my FI it is a long time.

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Posted by miss_qiana

I've talked to FI about it recently and we decided to hold off for 1 week. For my FI it is a long time.

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Ditto!!

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Posted by miss_qiana

I've talked to FI about it recently and we decided to hold off for 1 week. For my FI it is a long time.

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Yeah, I think my FI will be the same way...

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I did. I saw this post when I got online and thought it was interesting. First off I had a kidney infection a few months before the wedding so we were not doing anything for at least a month or two, I also had dysfunctional uterine bleeding from the infection, sorry if TMI, and then it was close enough to the wedding when my cycle returned to normal. He was 'cut off for about 2 months'. Poor guy.......... It did make for our HM more interesting ...

ETA: We had discussed this before I had the kidney infection and were going to hold off for a few weeks, it just worked out this way.

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I really haven't thought about this but probably we won't be doing anything for a few weeks. Not becuz we don't want to but becuz we both have different schedules I work during the dya and FH works at nite so we don't really have time for it since our schedules are differnt

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Yeah...I told my FI he's not getting any for 2months....its going to kill me But I think it will make the hm more exciting!!!

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Nope, we will be moving into our house this September it is the first time that we will always be alone...Right now we are both living with our parents, so it is difficult sometimes Of course I am sure closer to the wedding, we will not be as intimate with all the running around, but they say it is a good stress reliever

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I am with you Kristen ...we both still live at home - he has the whole upstairs finished so we get to be alone alot but like you we will be moving into our own place in the fall so.....

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We have talked about holding off for a week or so, but i dont know if i necessarily feel the same way i did when i brought it up last time

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Posted by july06bride

We have talked about holding off for a week or so, but i dont know if i necessarily feel the same way i did when i brought it up last time

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Same here, but sometimes it feels like we already started holding off. I think it is nice to hold off for a little while, it should make the wedding night a bit more exciting since you've already have not waited until you are married.....don't tell mom and dad.
We both live at home and it is difficult to become intimate. At night after work I am too tired and I don't feel like going over to his house to 'take care of business: , so the weekend is pretty much the only 'convenient' time. We already feel like an old married couple, I have to reassure him all the time that things will be much different when we finally live together

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I met FH at a fraternity party in 1988. I was drunk as a skunk. We hooked up but didnt go all the way - I said no. We lived in the same dorm but never hung out again. I was embarrassed. Fast forward almost 16 years later and we meet up again on JDate after not having seen each othe in all that time. So after all of that time, I finally caved in. He waited 15 and a half years. I am not going to put the poor guy through that again.

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We didn't hold out... but in the last few days before the wedding we were just soooooo busy and tired that we just didnt get around to it ( FYI we have gone alot longer then a week or 2 before!)
and the wedding night was still AMAZING!!!! I think even if you did it the night before your wedding something about it being your wedding night and being all dressed up and both looking your best and having gone through the whole day with all the love and kissing and being around all your loved ones...
It would still be different and wonderful.

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We live together -- it would be too painful for me to hold out.

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Not quite sure yet... because of FI's surgeries, we couldn't do anything for a while... so holding out is not the issue! He doesn't want to and I don't know yet.