What my Maid of Honor said to me and what do I say back?

My maid of honor called me up this weekend and told me she did not really know what to do bc she has never been in a wedding party before. I told her not to worry that her and my mom can get together. Was that wrong my wedding is in May 2006.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Re: What my Maid of Honor said to me and what do I say back?

Why would you get a new maid of honor?

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It sounds like she is just a little nervous. I don't think that is reason to get rid of her. Just let her know what she has to do when her projects come up.

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Same thoughts here..why get a new MOH?

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It's not her fault she has never been in a wedding before!

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My MOH was never in a wedding before either and i told her the same thing. she was very nervous, but its all working out. Have faith :)

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i wouldnt stress...i am a moh and i have never been a moh, and my moh has never been a moh

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My friend asked me to be her maid of honor a few years ago, and I had only been in a wedding once before when I was a flowergirl in 4th grade .

I was incredibly nervous about it....so I went out and bought a book to tell me what my maid of honor duties would be....perhaps you can buy her a book like that and then take her out to lunch to talk wedding plans or something. she just sounds nervous and seems to be looking for your guidance

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Posted by Blu-ize

Same thoughts here..why get a new MOH?

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I was also thinking the same... I am sure she is so honored.. she will learn and get help from tthe others.. don't worry!!

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Its fine..she will learn as she goes alopng. She should be your MOH because you want her to be, not because she knows what she is doing

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i think what you said is fine... theres nothing wrong with her... shes just looking for some guidance.... i like the idea of buying her a book that tells what bridesmaid/moh duties are.... there are a bunch out there... plus, with almost a year left, she still has time to learn

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I don't its wrong that you told her she can talk to your mom for help. If she's never been a MOH you're mom can guide her. I'm sure she's honor and will learn alot..

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Why would you get a new MOH???

I wouldnt stress it.. Shes just nervous.

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Be thankful she's honest with you! That shows that she wants to do a good job. Luckily, I had both a maid and matron of honor, because my maid had NO IDEA what she was supposed to do and made ZERO effort to figure it out

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I agree with everyone...she just needs some help. I think you can find lists of MOH duties on the internet and pass them along to her in addition to your mom's e-mail/phone info. She probably just doesn't want to mess anything up for you!

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I've been a maid of honor twice (my sister and my best friend) and it IS nerve-wracking! In retrospect, I wish that I had asked both brides for a general list of what they imagined for bachelorette stuff, their ideal shower, etc. I'm sure she's just worried about letting you down. I would offer her that option, and get your family to call her asap and reassure her. Really, she has plenty of time! Now that my sister is my matron of honor, I've been feeding her suggestions and hints for almost a year now.

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No reason to get a new MOH. Just give her some idea as to what to expect. I'm not asking my BMs to do very much anyway and as long as they take care of getting their dresses, that is fine. My sister is making me a shower and is ok if they can't help her.

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There's a first time for everything so you can't blame the girl, it's not her fault she was never a MOH before....Why would you get a new MOH??

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I think you should keep her, she will be fine. Besides there are websites like this that can help her out in understanding what she needs to do.

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I think she has some time to get a sense of what she'll need to be doing since you have til next year. In the meantime, you should let her know about The Knot, since they have articles on what MOHs are supposed to do and what they're responsible for paying for/organizing. I bought my MOH a book called The Ultimate Maid of Honor and there's also The Bridesmaid Guide -- she wasn't offended it's something we'd talked about and I didn't want her to feel overwhelmed or anxious about not knowing what to do.